Subject: RE: Am I a TOTAL loser magnet or what? I'm going to take a slightly different perspective. I think you attracted an honest guy who was letting you know up front what to expect and not expect from him. "I'm a carni." - I won't be hanging around, so don't expect a relationship. My job requires me to travel quite a bit. "I sniff glue, etc" - I abuse substances. It follows that I abuse my body and mind. He's letting you know right up front that he's not relationship material, but if you want to have a good time, he's game. Contrast him with someone who wears a suit, has a "respectable" job that does not require him to travel, and let's you assume whatever you want to assume about his intentions. He's not volunteering that he won't make time for you, or that he is a substance abuser (or is in denial and rationalizes that booze is socially acceptable), or that he just wants your company for a short time, just long enough to sedate his loneliness. Which is the better man? I think your carni crush was pretty honest, something we can't assume everyone we meet will be. I'm not saying your only two choices in life are giong to be between an unavailable, substance-abusing honest guy or an unavailable, substance-abusing dishonest guy. I'm just giving the carni some credit for being forthright about who he is. |