Am I just being a silly girl?

That's doubtful... if they felt she didn't keep them close because of triathlon, I doubt they'd be going to IMKY to watch her race, as the OP says.

I don't know what the reason is, but triathlon probably isn't it.  It's probably because he is a guy, no further over-analyzing needed.

He probably wants to hit it and was hoping you wouldn't find out about the wedding.

He's going to start a family with her.  What do you expect?

You're overthinking it.  The guy probably didn't even think about telling you (or anyone else).  All of the people that have been told at this point were probably told by the fiance.

I'm guessing the girl told you because she's a bit jealous of the friendship you have with him.  She wants to define him as hers.

Girl?  Yes.  Silly? No.

YES - now what was the question --

Let me go back and read.

OK - back from reading --

You are reading way too much into this.  Guys just don't get all excited about telling people this kind of news, especially if he sees you as a "one of the guys" type freind.  I don't think this woman told you to rub it in your face either - so I think you are right about not taking that as an afront. 

I'll give you an example.  My best freind, really the closest thing I have to a brother, and his wife are pregnant.  He told me about it just kind of sitting around having a beer.  he mentioned it off-hand, and the only reason he told me was because we were talking about me going to Miami in November for a Tri and I said that we might swing by their house (Jacksonville).  So, even to the person he is closest to in the world, that he isn't sleeping with, he didn't think it was that big of a deal to tell me. 

It's fine - just a guy thing and you are not supposed to understand as long as I don't have to understand why women must have more shoes and purses than they can actually ever wear. 

That's what I meant.  But your previous post seems like you are a bit upset at the friendship not being as close as before coz he is busy going on with his life with this girl - I sense some jealousy here (maybe I misunderstood), yet you are too busy with triathlons and other things going on in YOUR life.  Relationship with a GF/wife will be a lot closer that what you and him used to be.  It's not that you guys are not friends anymore.  So why bother yourself with all these over-thinking?

I think you're over-thinking this.  I think that the girlfriend telling you was sweet and thinks of you as a friend.  What's wrong with that?

She is a woman.  We tend to overthink things.  But hey - she at least  has the sense to realize it.  Now, if we could only get men to realize they UNDERTHINK things....  .

I just had a guy friends tell me a couple weeks ago "Oh, yeah, my wife is having a baby, and I forgot to tell you last week."  (We see each other about 4 or 5 times a week, so he had seen me several times. ) Some news is just not big to them.  Actually - it's big to them (I hope and think)....they just are not big talkers.

why didn't we talk about this when we were all drinking margarita's over the weekend...???

 Silly girl

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