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2008-10-15 10:24 PM

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Subject: Cancer Sucks!

I am turning to my BT family in my hour of sadness...

I found out back in August, that my brother's mother in law has stage 4 pancreatic cancer, and they pretty much gave her less than 6 months to live...

I got home from a VERY late night at the office, (and once again, no workout), to find an e-mail saying that they were moving her to hospice tonight...the pain was so bad, she never made it for her 2nd round of Chemo...she developed blood clots in her legs, and wasn't able to eat, or get up and walk around, so the doctor said there's pretty much nothing else they can do because the Cancer is so advanced, except try to ease her pain, with morphine no less.

Bonnie is a terrific woman...she was there for my brother and all of us Noie children when we lost our own mom 10 years ago to CLL(Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia)/Lymphoma...those were some really tough, really dark days, and here we are again.

The really sad part of it all is, I have a 12 (birthday is tomorrow) year old nephew, and an almost 2 year old niece who absolutely adore their Grandma, and the 12 year old is so sad...I feel like no matter what I say, it's the wrong thing...and that makes me feel even worse than I already do for the impending loss of Bonnie.

Please keep us in your prayers....and thanks for being there when I need you most!



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2008-10-15 10:27 PM
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Sending good vibes your way. 
2008-10-15 11:51 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that your family is going through such a tough time.  Just know that our thoughts are with you and that, if there was anything we could do to help, we'd all be there in a heartbeat.
2008-10-16 1:15 AM
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So sorry that you and your family are going through this. Cancer surely sucks! I lost my dad last year to lymphoma, and my brother-in-law is in the end stages of liver cancer. My best friend from college started chemo for breast cancer Monday. Too much cancer going around!

Prayers for you and your family!

2008-10-16 4:45 AM
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Thoughts, prayers and love sent through God to you.

My peace be with you and your  family.

2008-10-16 7:39 AM
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Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.......


2008-10-16 8:28 AM
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I am so sorry. Pancreatic cancer is one of the worst types. I hope her time in hospice is comfortable and that they can keep her pain under control so she can enjoy the rest of the time she has with her friends and family.
2008-10-16 8:38 AM
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Thoughts and prayers to you and your family...especially the little ones.
2008-10-16 8:44 AM
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So sorry to hear your news.  We had to go through this with my dad a few years ago - it was heartbreaking when they told us to call hospice.
2008-10-16 11:27 AM
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So sorry to hear about your sad news.  My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer a few months ago, cancer does suck.  Positive thoughts sent to you and your family.
2008-10-16 5:23 PM
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I'm so sorry. This is a great community and it makes me feel good that you
can turn to us for comfort. God bless.


2008-10-16 5:39 PM
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It does suck. Best wishes and lots of good vibes...
2008-10-16 5:58 PM
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So sorry to hear your news.  Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
2008-10-16 6:16 PM
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Sorry to hear this. Pancreatic cancer is one of the worst cancers there is. My GF's father was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer in August as well. In his case he has a rare form that isn't as aggressive as the typical version that your brother's MIL has. They're giving him 1-2 years.

I wish the best for your brother's family.

Peace.

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2008-10-16 6:50 PM
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Word... total suckage.

you are all in my prayers. 

As to the kids... there really is nothing you can say.  Just be there with them and when they are ready to start talking... listen.  And you don't need to answer everything for them... "I don't know" is acceptable. 

Peace.

2008-10-18 4:40 AM
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Bonnie and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.



2008-10-21 4:00 PM
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Thanks to all of you guys for your thoughts and prayers...

Bonnie's fight ended Sunday night surrounded by her family and as comfortable as could be.

I will be traveling to South Bend Thursday for the services...and to be there for my sister in law, my nephew, and Vic, my brothers father in law.  Having gone through this 10 years ago...I am happy to be there for them during this sh*tty time.

Peace to you all!

2008-10-21 4:01 PM
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miami9296 - 2008-10-21 4:00 PM

Thanks to all of you guys for your thoughts and prayers...

Bonnie's fight ended Sunday night surrounded by her family and as comfortable as could be.

I will be traveling to South Bend Thursday for the services...and to be there for my sister in law, my nephew, and Vic, my brothers father in law.  Having gone through this 10 years ago...I am happy to be there for them during this sh*tty time.

Peace to you all!

Aw darlin'.  I'm sorry.

Sending out some good vibes to you and their family.

2008-10-21 4:04 PM
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miami9296 - 2008-10-21 2:00 PM

Thanks to all of you guys for your thoughts and prayers...

Bonnie's fight ended Sunday night surrounded by her family and as comfortable as could be.

I will be traveling to South Bend Thursday for the services...and to be there for my sister in law, my nephew, and Vic, my brothers father in law.  Having gone through this 10 years ago...I am happy to be there for them during this sh*tty time.

Peace to you all!


I'm so sorry, Amy, but I'm glad that her family could be there with her. Keeping you all in my thoughts.
2008-10-21 4:08 PM
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miami9296 - 2008-10-21 2:00 PM

Thanks to all of you guys for your thoughts and prayers...

Bonnie's fight ended Sunday night surrounded by her family and as comfortable as could be.

I will be traveling to South Bend Thursday for the services...and to be there for my sister in law, my nephew, and Vic, my brothers father in law.  Having gone through this 10 years ago...I am happy to be there for them during this sh*tty time.

Peace to you all!

Sorry, keeping you and your family in my thoughts



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2008-10-21 4:30 PM
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miami9296 - 2008-10-21 4:00 PM

Thanks to all of you guys for your thoughts and prayers...

Bonnie's fight ended Sunday night surrounded by her family and as comfortable as could be.

I will be traveling to South Bend Thursday for the services...and to be there for my sister in law, my nephew, and Vic, my brothers father in law.  Having gone through this 10 years ago...I am happy to be there for them during this sh*tty time.

Peace to you all!

I am very sorry for your loss.  You okay?  A big hug out to you. *HUG*

2008-10-21 4:46 PM
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SO sorry to hear of your loss.  I will add her to my list of people I am racing for at IMFL
2008-10-21 6:56 PM
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Subject: RE: Cancer Sucks!
So sorry to hear of your loss.  20 years ago I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer during final exams and two years I lost my mom to breast and brain cancer.  Cancer is a nasty fellow who should be kicked to the curb.   Sending you good and peaceful vibes!!!!!
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