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 2010-07-30 5:17 PM |
Expert  3126     Boise, ID |  Subject: Wife "hates camping". What do I do?I am closing in on one year of marriage to my beautiful wife. Before we were married we went camping a few times, while she never jumped up and down about it, she never put up a big fight about going. Now that we are married it is like pulling teeth to get her to go. I am not a hardcore camper we are talking a few weekend trips here and there (we have made one so far this year). I do enjoy camping and I don't like the idea of ditching her and not seeing her for a whole weekend so I can go camping. I want her to go with me. But I also want her to enjoy herself and not be peeved the whole time. So how do I make camping more enticing and comfortable for her so that she will want to go with me? |
| 2010-07-30 5:19 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Champion 16151 Checkin' out the podium girls | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Aarondb4 - 2010-07-30 6:17 PM I am closing in on one year of marriage to my beautiful wife. Before we were married we went camping a few times, while she never jumped up and down about it, she never put up a big fight about going. Now that we are married it is like pulling teeth to get her to go. I am not a hardcore camper we are talking a few weekend trips here and there (we have made one so far this year). I do enjoy camping and I don't like the idea of ditching her and not seeing her for a whole weekend so I can go camping. I want her to go with me. But I also want her to enjoy herself and not be peeved the whole time. So how do I make camping more enticing and comfortable for her so that she will want to go with me? Pitch a tent in the lobby of the Four Seasons? |
| 2010-07-30 5:24 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Member 118 Upon the Rock | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Buy a travel trailer and find places with clean restrooms and running water, showers, power, and a pool. |
| 2010-07-30 5:28 PM in reply to: #3014994 |
Champion 16151 Checkin' out the podium girls | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Need2Breathe - 2010-07-30 6:24 PM Buy Seriously, we're not using ours like we used to and am selling a 1996 Starcraft trailer cheap. PM me if interetsed. |
| 2010-07-30 5:33 PM in reply to: #3014994 |
Elite 3090 Spokane, WA | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Need2Breathe - 2010-07-30 5:24 PM Buy a travel trailer and find places with clean restrooms and running water, showers, power, and a pool. X2. Even a used pop-up tent trailer makes a huge difference. My first experience in one was with a buddy on a hunting trip. It made all the difference in the world, and he just had some ancient POS tent trailer. |
| 2010-07-30 6:17 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Master 1903 Portland, Oregon | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Maybe try asking what precisely is the dealbreaker about camping? Uncomfortable sleeping? boredom? bugs? preparing food in primitive conditions? cleaning up in same? camp food? What would she rather do instead? With the answers to some of those, you may be able to change the experience for her. It might not still be her favorite thing and you may go with some buddies instead sometimes, but at least you'll know. |
| 2010-07-30 6:21 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Master 2477 Oceanside, California | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Lurking for advice. After 7 years of relationship and 5 years of "walking dogs in woods" but not hiking, I finally got her to "hike" with me once this summer. (forgot the bug spray). |
| 2010-07-30 6:58 PM in reply to: #3015049 |
| Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? ell-in-or - 2010-07-30 4:17 PM Maybe try asking what precisely is the dealbreaker about camping? Uncomfortable sleeping? boredom? bugs? preparing food in primitive conditions? cleaning up in same? camp food? What would she rather do instead? With the answers to some of those, you may be able to change the experience for her. It might not still be her favorite thing and you may go with some buddies instead sometimes, but at least you'll know. This! |
| 2010-07-30 7:00 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Pro 4824 Houston | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? I don't mind camping but the weather has to be nice and I'd rather do it with friends. Maybe there is another couple you enjoy spending time with she would be happy to go with? For me camping is MUCH more fun with friends. |
| 2010-07-30 8:22 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Champion 7547 Albuquerque, New Mexico Bronze member | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Join the Boy Scouts. If you really, really want to camp and she doesn't, ask her for several weekends a year where you can camp without her as a Boy Scout leader. Then find a troop that needs adults (most do, a few don't) and share your enthusiasm with the next generation. Just don't let the scouts take over your life or build resentment between the two of you. Otherwise, the suggestion to find out specifically what she does/doesn't like about camping. |
| 2010-07-30 8:37 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Buttercup 14334 | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Aarondb4 - 2010-07-30 6:17 PM So how do I make camping more enticing and comfortable for her so that she will want to go with me? I am going to tell you what no one else will: Embrace your differences, rather than trying to eliminate them. Imagine your wife on a quilting forum, asking for advice on how to get her handsome husband of 1 year to enjoy a quilting weekend extravaganza. How, oh how, can I get him to appreciate the finer points of quilting?!?! Your wife doesn't want to go camping. You do. So, plan a weekend to go camping. If the pain of your absence is strong enough, she MIGHT elect to go camping with you the next time. If she enjoys the time apart (NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!), then so be it. But do NOT try to force something into her life that she doesn't want to do. You don't have to give it up, just as she doesn't have to pretend to enjoy it and go along to get along. Accept your differences. |
| 2010-07-30 8:57 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Master 1517 Raleigh | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? I was an avid backpacker and would go miles into the woods with what's on my back....I took the girl once...with dogs too..I dont think sh was down for the hike in w packs and etc.. but what was a great buffer was the box of wine she got to bring with her. Made for a fun time for her... |
| 2010-07-30 9:00 PM in reply to: #3015154 |
Champion 6503 NOVA - Ironic for an Endurance Athlete | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Renee - 2010-07-30 8:37 PM Aarondb4 - 2010-07-30 6:17 PM So how do I make camping more enticing and comfortable for her so that she will want to go with me? I am going to tell you what no one else will: Embrace your differences, rather than trying to eliminate them. Imagine your wife on a quilting forum, asking for advice on how to get her handsome husband of 1 year to enjoy a quilting weekend extravaganza. How, oh how, can I get him to appreciate the finer points of quilting?!?! Your wife doesn't want to go camping. You do. So, plan a weekend to go camping. If the pain of your absence is strong enough, she MIGHT elect to go camping with you the next time. If she enjoys the time apart (NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!), then so be it. But do NOT try to force something into her life that she doesn't want to do. You don't have to give it up, just as she doesn't have to pretend to enjoy it and go along to get along. Accept your differences. This here is a smart lady. Listen close-like. |
| 2010-07-30 9:16 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Pro 4189 Pittsburgh, my heart is in Glasgow | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? The quilting thing is very much in line with what my parents do. My mom has her quilting room, my dad has his own garage (into which we never tread, it is his domain). Mom goes on a quilt shop hop every summer. Dad goes on junk yard dives for his corvette. Mom goes to quilt class once a week, and dad gets a weekend day of quiet to fiddle in his garage. And then when they come together, they have things to talk about and differences that keep things interesting. Perhaps she's just not into it. Nothing wrong with it, and she's not preventing you from going, right? Find a buddy and head out  |
| 2010-07-30 11:13 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Master 1821 | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? oh. this is actually about camping, not a new euphemism. i was thrown off by "more enticing and comfortable for her." totally thought you were talking about something else. |
| 2010-07-31 9:27 AM in reply to: #3014988 |
Master 1795 Boynton Beach, FL | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Give it a few more years + a few offspring. Going with the boys might be something that doesn't sound too terrible. This message will now self destruct and never be seen by my loving wife. |
| 2010-07-31 10:51 AM in reply to: #3015154 |
| Master 1963 | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Renee - 2010-07-30 9:37 PM I am going to tell you what no one else will: Embrace your differences, rather than trying to eliminate them. Took the words out of my mouth...Talk it out and see if you can pinpoint the issue, but failing that, it's no big deal if you spend a weekend here or there apart.Imagine your wife on a quilting forum, asking for advice on how to get her handsome husband of 1 year to enjoy a quilting weekend extravaganza. How, oh how, can I get him to appreciate the finer points of quilting?!?! Your wife doesn't want to go camping. You do. So, plan a weekend to go camping. If the pain of your absence is strong enough, she MIGHT elect to go camping with you the next time. If she enjoys the time apart (NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!), then so be it. But do NOT try to force something into her life that she doesn't want to do. You don't have to give it up, just as she doesn't have to pretend to enjoy it and go along to get along. Accept your differences. Edited by merlin2375 2010-07-31 10:52 AM |
| 2010-07-31 1:32 PM in reply to: #3015489 |
Champion 18680 Lost in the Luminiferous Aether | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? cardenas1 - 2010-07-31 10:27 AM Give it a few more years + a few offspring. Going with the boys might be something that doesn't sound too terrible. This message will now self destruct and never be seen by my loving wife. As much as you guys want to go we want to get rid of you for a weekend here and there. As a matter of fact take the kids with you, they'll love it.  |
| 2010-07-31 2:27 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Elite 4344 | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Build a cabin in the woods. That's what we did. Indoor plumbing, AC, clean sheets. JWKMH loves it. She is there by herself right now. I am sitting in my office working. Bummer. TW |
| 2010-08-01 8:35 AM in reply to: #3015154 |
Elite 2493 Chicago, IL | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Renee - 2010-07-30 8:37 PM Aarondb4 - 2010-07-30 6:17 PM So how do I make camping more enticing and comfortable for her so that she will want to go with me? I am going to tell you what no one else will: Embrace your differences, rather than trying to eliminate them. Imagine your wife on a quilting forum, asking for advice on how to get her handsome husband of 1 year to enjoy a quilting weekend extravaganza. How, oh how, can I get him to appreciate the finer points of quilting?!?! Your wife doesn't want to go camping. You do. So, plan a weekend to go camping. If the pain of your absence is strong enough, she MIGHT elect to go camping with you the next time. If she enjoys the time apart (NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!), then so be it. But do NOT try to force something into her life that she doesn't want to do. You don't have to give it up, just as she doesn't have to pretend to enjoy it and go along to get along. Accept your differences. I agree with this. I work with a man who is always disappointed and upset that his wife is not athletic and that she hates biking. I say 'accept it my friend, she doesn't bike, she will never bike, she's never been a cyclist, and chances are she's not going to be a cyclist at 50+ years of age'. He constantly struggles with it. I try to persuade him to take a bike tour on his own, because at the rate he is going, he's going to miss out on all the cycling events waiting for his 'non-cyclist, never will become a cyclist wife'. Embrace the differences, go camping for a weekend... let your wife do what she wants for a weekend... come back home and enjoy all the other things you love to do together. |
| 2010-08-01 8:42 AM in reply to: #3014988 |
Elite 3022 Preferably on my bike somewhere | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? My wife isn't in to camping, but my plan is to take my boys for a weekend here and there. Too bad wife doesn't like it, but she enjoys the quietness around the house once in a while. Plus, it saves me from the guilt of not going on a 7 hour car ride for a weekend visit to the in-laws. Love the in-laws, hate the trip and the stay - there's nothing for us to do there. |
| 2010-08-01 11:04 AM in reply to: #3016426 |
Master 1485 | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? find a new wife that likes to camp |
| 2010-08-01 2:26 PM in reply to: #3015154 |
| Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Renee - 2010-07-30 7:37 PM Aarondb4 - 2010-07-30 6:17 PM So how do I make camping more enticing and comfortable for her so that she will want to go with me? I am going to tell you what no one else will: Embrace your differences, rather than trying to eliminate them. Imagine your wife on a quilting forum, asking for advice on how to get her handsome husband of 1 year to enjoy a quilting weekend extravaganza. How, oh how, can I get him to appreciate the finer points of quilting?!?! Your wife doesn't want to go camping. You do. So, plan a weekend to go camping. If the pain of your absence is strong enough, she MIGHT elect to go camping with you the next time. If she enjoys the time apart (NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!), then so be it. But do NOT try to force something into her life that she doesn't want to do. You don't have to give it up, just as she doesn't have to pretend to enjoy it and go along to get along. Accept your differences. This is what I was going to suggest as well. If she doesn't like camping and you force her to go I can't imagine her feelings about the subject are ever going to change. |
| 2010-08-01 6:16 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Master 1289 Franklin, TN | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? Enjoy the time away. My wife drank before we got married. Sigh... |
| 2010-08-01 7:35 PM in reply to: #3014988 |
Expert 838 West Palm Beach, FL | Subject: RE: Wife "hates camping". What do I do? She doesn't like to camp. Either you don't go camping, or you don't go camping with her. That's it. |
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