'Memorable' Childhood Punishments (Page 5)

ChineseDemocracy - 2010-12-03 8:40 PM

I hope you didn't think that's what I implied...I certainly did not mean it that way.  Heck, there are things I can't tell my best friends...could I give them suggestions on how to do things better?  Sure.  Is it my place and would I risk straining a friendship?  You betcha.  

...and yes, I'm glad Gearboy does his thang.  He's like a male version of SuperNanny (and that's a darn good thing!)  You do know he adopted me this week?  

 

gearboy - 2010-12-03 9:24 PM I was very careful to not overstep boundaries with my SIL despite a number of concerns I had about her parenting approach, to not offer unsolicited advice.  But when she DID ask for help, I lent a copy of a parent training video and accompanying book.  6 months later, she returned the tape and book.  Unwatched and unread.  It was often hard to keep quiet when she would say the reason my kids were better behaved was that they are girls and she has boys.  Especially when mrs gearboy and I knew how hard we worked in the early years with our kids; not to mention the modeling of behaviors and relationships within our family.


Though there are times I think I should just walk down the streets handing out my business card.[/QUOTE]

I know that feeling!! When I was teaching preschool there were times I would see parents with children who looked to be about 3 or 4 and not in preschool. I would stop in the middle of the street and start talking to the parents about putting them in preschool (these were considered at risk families). These turned out to be some of our very best students and my colleagues thanked me for this all year long.....

What is some good reading for parents? What would you hand out? Most of what I have read was more about classroom management which is good but does not always have the same effect at home. It's been a while since college and all the child development classes!

ChineseDemocracy - 2010-12-03 7:15 PM

Back to "memorable childhood punishments."
In 1st grade, my teacher tied me to my chair. (using masking tape)  I kept getting up to get a drink, use the bathroom, whatever.  I was an active kid.  Nowadays that would probably make the newswire and I'd make millions in a stinkin' lawsuit.  At the time it was hilarious.  It's all in the context of the situation.

trigal38 - 2010-12-03 11:35 PM
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I know that feeling!! When I was teaching preschool there were times I would see parents with children who looked to be about 3 or 4 and not in preschool. I would stop in the middle of the street and start talking to the parents about putting them in preschool (these were considered at risk families). These turned out to be some of our very best students and my colleagues thanked me for this all year long.....

What is some good reading for parents? What would you hand out? Most of what I have read was more about classroom management which is good but does not always have the same effect at home. It's been a while since college and all the child development classes!

gearboy - 2010-12-03 11:14 PM
I also think that behavior mod is the same for people and dogs.  Keep your voice firm but not loud, use clear commands, focus on positive reinforcement, ignore unwanted behavior, keep calm.  If they have a dog, go to a trainer and learn the skills. And even if they still can't train their kids, at least they have a good dog.

graceful_dave - 2010-12-04 3:37 AM

 Can you please tell my wife this? I get the "She's not a dog" comment occasionally. But it works when she's not attentive to us. It's really funny if the dog and kid are near each other when I tell the kid to sit and they both do it.