Not supportive spouse (Page 2)

As a husband of an insane (much more insane than I) runner, he just needs to suck it up.  Tell him that he is now the mayor of Adultville, and it's either that or bon bons and soap operas.  I am not a morning person, and I work out at night.

Soooooo....when my lovely wife wakes up early to work out, I do this neat little magic trick called "going back to sleep".

MommyBelly - 2011-06-09 8:56 PM Let me just say this.... I "earned" my new Seduza with a little bit of marital...ahem...negotiation. Let's just say that if you hike up your compression socks they double as knee protection.

!!! LOL

(Should have hit him up for a Cervelo P4, IMO, though! )

That made me laugh....Thank you sir.

Present him with alternatives. My wife works 30-40 minutes from our house. She does not like to work out outside but does want to get a workout in every day. She is not a morning person at all. So most weeknights she goes to the gym after work and doesn't get home until 7:30 or so.

I would prefer she wake me up at 5:00 to leave for a workout and be home in the evening, but that really isn't going to happen.

You are already making the sacrifice on your part to get up fricken early so you don't miss family time in the evening. He should get over the sleep thing. Explain to him that the Oly is important to you and explain the benefits you derive.

When we first got married I was into tri and my wife didn't work out at all. She was not a big fan of me being gone to train. I however get very antsy and "obnoxious" (her words) when I don't get a run or a ride in. So now she encourages me to get the heck out of the house.

I can understand how he is losing sleep and doesn't like it, but losing sleep is much better than losing family time in the evening. Explain that to him and I'm betting he will get over the sleep issue.

[standing ovation].

I love this topic.  It is ever present here on BT and pretty much amazes me.  So many husbands/wives are unsupportive of getting up early.  To me it's a compromise.  When my fiance has to get up early, I am all for it.  Maybe it would be annoying if she turned all the lights on and ran around the room in a peacock outfit every day, but your situation is completely easy.

Honestly....my SO wants to be motivated, healthy, in shape, proud of herself, and get a hot body while doing it?  Who in their right mind would say no to that!?  What is wrong with people?  Get a grip on reality.  If you are so tired that you can't handle the loss of ten minutes of sleep, get your lazy azz in bed earlier!

MommyBelly - 2011-06-09 9:56 PM Let me just say this.... I "earned" my new Seduza with a little bit of marital...ahem...negotiation. Let's just say that if you hike up your compression socks they double as knee protection.

I'm going to start disapproving of my wife's training just for this! 

X2. I do this also or my wife will sleep with my little one and let me have the bed.

  I am so thankful that I have a supportive spouse at anything I do....  I have alway been a full believer if you dont like what the other spouse is doing because it is taking away time.... then join'em.... what I nice way to spend time with your better half.... and if you want to kick it up a bit... to show him how much fun it can be... pull him off the path and as someone was saying early those compression sock can be used for protection... I bet he would be willing to run with you every morning and yes your marriage is important but your health is too as well and I see nothing wrong with it. This is your hobby and Im sure he has one.

I don't have a lot to add- except I know where Corona de Tucson is.

Nice rides up Madera Canyon from there.  Or out to Route 83 towards Sonoita.

I agree that when all else fails, talk and find a compromise! I swim with the masters at 5:30, and it conflicts with my husband's desire to get up early drive to work before rush hour. So, we talked and made a compromise that I get to swim 2 days a week, and he gets the rest of the week to get up early (we have little kids we can't leave at home alone). Because we talk and plan the week ahead of time, there is no resentment from either of us.

Anyway, find out why it really bothers him and see if he has any solutions for you, or ways he can make finding time to bike/run easier for you. If mornings are the only option, maybe plan out the week's training schedule with him so that he can anticipate the early mornings.

Also, I agree on the bike trainer! I got one recently, and it's nice to be able to ride whatever time of day (during baby's naps for me!). Allows more flexibility.

MommyBelly - 2011-06-09 9:56 PM Let me just say this.... I "earned" my new Seduza with a little bit of marital...ahem...negotiation. Let's just say that if you hike up your compression socks they double as knee protection.

Every woman should learn this "Negotiation skill set secret"

The key to any good relationship is individual pursuit of happiness.  If either partner is denied this right, a seed of resentmet is planted.  Resentment grows into bitterness that will eat away at the relationship like a cancer.

The alarm thing is a ruse*.  You can easily teach yourself to wake up w/o an alarm clock.  Go to bed with only one thought on your mind "I will wake up at 0500".  Say this over and over and over in your head as you fall asleep and and you will wake up at 0500.  But after your teach yourself to awaken w/o the aid of an alarm, he will come up with a different excuse.

Talk to him and tell him you will support his pursuits if he will support yours.

~Mike

* To test this, quickly, get a silent wrist watch vibrating alarm (just google "vibrating wrist watch alarm") and see how quickly he comes up with another excuse.

yep, the alarm clock/getting woken up thing isn't THE issue but this...

 http://www.amazon.com/Soleil-Sunrise-Alarm-Clock-Ultima/dp/B000T3Y2RA 

...works pretty good for me