Can anyone explain the it's "her day" concept in wedding? (Page 3)

my cheap wedding was my second but my husband's first.  We had been together 12 years before we decided to make it 'official' and really it was more because it made it easier for me to get my Australian visa as he has a passport!

BUT the day was about us celebrating those 12 years with people that were there when we met on that island 12 years earlier - friends flew in from Texas, California, New York and UK.

My first wedding was the 'little girl's dream wedding' - my parents paid $10,000 for it and it was the 'perfect' day full of relatives I'd never met before nor will again.... 

I enjoyed my second wedding much more.

I am with the other girls  I would have loved a small, destination wedding - i am not even into weddings a little bit - but we had about 80-90 people in more traditional ceremony/reception sort of thing because even though it's supposedly 'my day' we did want to share it with our families and for whom our small 'away' wedding wouldn't be feasible for them to attend.  Even so, we held it to be what we considered to be middle ground - it was still 'away' for most of our family but with more 2000km separating our families we had to compromise somewhere - but my oma could attend without serious hardship.

So, in the end it was less about us and more about sharing the day with our family and friends.  We had a great time - it was a great day!

My daughter is 4 - we went to a wedding and after that she started playing wedding all the time at home.

That was the type of wedding I was exposed to so I followed tradition. Also, having never been a bride before I really did not have a concept of how it feels to be the bride or how uncomfortable I would be. If I could do it all over I would not have the same type of wedding.