seat question for women

Has it been uncomfortable since you got the saddle or just since you added the aero bars and they tilted the nose of the seat down? (Or am I reading this wrong and you got the seat and the aero bars at the same time?)

No, I've had the seat for a while, aero bars are new. I see that it is an added issue. feel like I want the seat tilted down more, but he said that would lead me to slip down.

Not a new bike, can't remember if it always hurt and I've forgotten or if the discomfort goes away. I been riding on a trainer for months, that might make the difference.

For aero position, you roll forward and more weight is on the public bones. It does take some getting used to. I also have an Adamo saddle and it took a few weeks to get used to. But if it's been 3-4 weeks and still not working out, I would go back to the fitter and check out your fit and saddle.

Unclear if aero position is new to you. If so, it takes more time to get used to. Also, if the fit was done with riding in aero in mind, it may not necessarily be comfortable when you are sitting up. My tri bike feels great in aero; not so much sitting up. I don't think I'd ever choose to do a long group ride or bike tour with it without some major tweaks in the fit. Ditto if you have had a fit with a road bike and aerobars--it's my understanding that the fit is done to optimize comfort/efficiency in one position or the other, not a compromise position that is sort of okay with both. If you did the fit for aero position, then it might feel awkward out of aero, and vice versa.

Had professional fit.
Feel like I want to sit toward back of seat, roll back onto sits bones. Is that intuitively correct or all wrong for an aero position. Am I overthinking how I sit or is there a right way to do it.

No, that is wrong for aero position. I think you need to see the fitter again.

It's not about the fit. I'm not forced to do that, I'm trying to figure out if I should. I could roll back, it's an effort, but am I supposed to sit on sits bone. Sitting on tip of seat is obviously painful. On center of seat should i roll forward, how far. Just want to avoid spending time in a bad position hoping for comfort. Guess I should just stick with neutral position that crunches "lady bits".

It's all about the fit.

Your seat type, position (foreward/back) and tilt should allow your to rotate your pelvis and not be on your sit bone. Proper seating position is one of the most critical parts of the fit process.

Speak to your fitter and maybe give someone like Cobb a call to help select the right saddle.

I give up. The saddle does not lock you into place. There is the ability to move, to make adjustments.

Yes but....it sounds like the seat isn't allowing you to get into a comfortable position. My guess is it's either somehow wrong for your anatomy, or something about the tilt needs to be adjusted. I remember I did something with that myself at one point because what the fitter had done seemed somehow wrong. Sometimes I wonder if male fitters really get that part! He had also set up the aerobars so close together that even after several weeks I felt like it was compromising my control of the bike in windy conditions. I think sometimes fitters aim for the most aero position without realizing that may not be doable or safe for many riders.

Or maybe it's the saddle itself-- I must have tried six saddles before I found one that worked, and technically, it's a "men's" saddle. Maybe some of it also comes with experience riding in aero--my coach looked at my position several times and kept saying I needed to roll forward more, but it took me months to work out exactly what she meant and how to do it comfortably. I guess one disadvantage to having an online coach!

One last thing--at least for me, my tri bike is far more comfortable in tri shorts. Most are designed to be used on a tri bike in aero. Normal bike shorts work better in a sitting up, road bike position. Shorts might be part of the issue as well.