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2009-05-06 9:13 AM in reply to: #2132493 |
Master 1826 | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-05 6:25 PM KathyG - 2009-05-05 5:32 PM I think a group like that would be perfect for you. Have you asked around in the Virgina forum for group ride ideas? There aren't any groups around here that are appropriate for me - like I said, even the ones that are supposedly "no-drop" are not really "no-drop" because everyone is pretty fast, and even if they say they're not, it's not true - it's all the VAMDBTTC people and they're all way too fast for me. If I was consistently 15mph for my entire ride, it'd be one thing, but I'm not - in my last tri, I spent a lot of time up around 18-20+, but then on every single uphill, I slowed WAY down, and I got off and walked down two hills, so that killed time as well. So my overall average was like 14 or something embarassing. So I wouldn't be right in the "slow" group because on easier stretches, I'd be ahead, but couldn't hang with the faster group cuz I'd get dropped in a minute. I am on a triathlon team, but I haven't been able ot make any of the group rides yet - I joined in December and it was freezing cold for months and now it's rained almost every single weekend, every single weekday ride since we started doing those again, or the 2 weekends where it's been nice, I've had to do something else that day. RBC group 5 tues/thurs |
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2009-05-06 9:16 AM in reply to: #2132157 |
Extreme Veteran 492 Cleveland, Ohio | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? Tried to read most of the responses, here's my 2 things: 1. I am right there with you. I don't necessarily fear the cornering/hills, but I SERIOUSLY fear getting pasted by a car. I HATE riding on the roads, and I live in a very NON-bike friendly area of town. I come here to BT and see how people just LOOOVE to bike and LOOVE to build and tinker with bikes, etc, and quite frankly I'd rather put hot pokers in my eyes than deal with my bike. I think others have given good suggestions, as I don't really have much in the way of solutions, but you certainly aren't alone. 2. About the hills: I learned the hard way that I was using the competely wrong muscles when I first started cycling. It wasn't until a physical therapist pointed out to me that I was struggling b/c I am quad dominant, and wasn't using my hamstrings and hips during my pedal stroke. Once I worked on changing that, hills, and cycling in general, got MUCH easier. My LBS offers cycling coaches, maybe you could look into something like that to get some perspective on what might help...? |
2009-05-06 9:34 AM in reply to: #2133553 |
Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? slake707 - 2009-05-06 10:13 AM wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-05 6:25 PM KathyG - 2009-05-05 5:32 PM I think a group like that would be perfect for you. Have you asked around in the Virgina forum for group ride ideas? There aren't any groups around here that are appropriate for me - like I said, even the ones that are supposedly "no-drop" are not really "no-drop" because everyone is pretty fast, and even if they say they're not, it's not true - it's all the VAMDBTTC people and they're all way too fast for me. If I was consistently 15mph for my entire ride, it'd be one thing, but I'm not - in my last tri, I spent a lot of time up around 18-20+, but then on every single uphill, I slowed WAY down, and I got off and walked down two hills, so that killed time as well. So my overall average was like 14 or something embarassing. So I wouldn't be right in the "slow" group because on easier stretches, I'd be ahead, but couldn't hang with the faster group cuz I'd get dropped in a minute. I am on a triathlon team, but I haven't been able ot make any of the group rides yet - I joined in December and it was freezing cold for months and now it's rained almost every single weekend, every single weekday ride since we started doing those again, or the 2 weekends where it's been nice, I've had to do something else that day. RBC group 5 tues/thurs I can't get there in time for their rides. |
2009-05-06 9:41 AM in reply to: #2132157 |
Extreme Veteran 622 Fulton | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? I don't hate my bike like you do, but I was very scared of going fast downhill when I got my bike last July. I can see how where you are in NoVa it would be hard to practice and get rid of the fear with all the traffic and such. I live up in Frederick county, MD, and have learned to like downhills because the faster I go down them, the easier the next uphill will be. I'm still very slow relative to other people. Out on those hills, I drop to 6-7mph on some climbs and wonder how I continue to stay upright. My average is right around 15mph on a good day. Last summer I got so frustrated with the hills (I dropped my chain a LOT) that I stopped near the top of one and just cried. I still had like 15 miles of hills before I was home. Eventually about 6 miles from home I declared myself done and called my BF to come pick me up. Where I live, I have no option but to ride hills, so I've gotten a lot better (I don't have to stop and cry). Since I ride by myself, I'd like to invite you to come up any weekend. Out where I ride, if there is traffic, there are really big shoulders. Otherwise I ride on tiny country roads and there are no cars, pretty much just farms and churches. If I encounter a town, it's usually the "one stop-light" variety. :-) It would be a little over an hour drive for you from NoVa, but seriously, I'd like to have someone to ride with if you want to come practice hills with me. |
2009-05-06 10:03 AM in reply to: #2133409 |
Alpharetta, Georgia | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-06 8:20 AM My tri club is all levels, and they do kinda specialize in newbies, or at least they are VERY open to newbies, unlike some of the groups in the area. I really like my tri-club. It's not that I worry that I'll be dropped by them - they have a sag truck for the long rides, and there is definitely a no-drop policy on those rides. In the 1st paragraph here it sounds like this would be a great ride! So you DO have options... you are just choosing not to take advantage of them. In reading this thread it sounds like you've already forumated elaborate excuses reasons for not trying everyone's suggestions, and most of them are nothing but mental barriers. I hesitated to reply again because I'm certain you will already have an answer as to why you cannot ride with this group. But to me, it sounds like a great option. In the 2nd paragraph I guess I didn't realize you NEVER ride solo in unpopulated areas. Why is that? If you take some basic precautions like carrying ID, a cell phone, and some emergency cash, you are covered in case anything crazy happens. I can't think of one single long ride where I WASN'T in an unpopulated area at some point - it's just kind of the nature of going on long bike rides. |
2009-05-06 10:06 AM in reply to: #2133615 |
Master 1826 | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-06 10:34 AM slake707 - 2009-05-06 10:13 AM wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-05 6:25 PM KathyG - 2009-05-05 5:32 PM I think a group like that would be perfect for you. Have you asked around in the Virgina forum for group ride ideas? There aren't any groups around here that are appropriate for me - like I said, even the ones that are supposedly "no-drop" are not really "no-drop" because everyone is pretty fast, and even if they say they're not, it's not true - it's all the VAMDBTTC people and they're all way too fast for me. If I was consistently 15mph for my entire ride, it'd be one thing, but I'm not - in my last tri, I spent a lot of time up around 18-20+, but then on every single uphill, I slowed WAY down, and I got off and walked down two hills, so that killed time as well. So my overall average was like 14 or something embarassing. So I wouldn't be right in the "slow" group because on easier stretches, I'd be ahead, but couldn't hang with the faster group cuz I'd get dropped in a minute. I am on a triathlon team, but I haven't been able ot make any of the group rides yet - I joined in December and it was freezing cold for months and now it's rained almost every single weekend, every single weekday ride since we started doing those again, or the 2 weekends where it's been nice, I've had to do something else that day. RBC group 5 tues/thurs I can't get there in time for their rides. my follow up, drop making excuses and take it upon yourself if it is something you want |
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2009-05-06 10:11 AM in reply to: #2133715 |
Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? lisac957 - 2009-05-06 11:03 AM wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-06 8:20 AM My tri club is all levels, and they do kinda specialize in newbies, or at least they are VERY open to newbies, unlike some of the groups in the area. I really like my tri-club. It's not that I worry that I'll be dropped by them - they have a sag truck for the long rides, and there is definitely a no-drop policy on those rides. In the 1st paragraph here it sounds like this would be a great ride! So you DO have options... you are just choosing not to take advantage of them. In reading this thread it sounds like you've already forumated elaborate excuses reasons for not trying everyone's suggestions, and most of them are nothing but mental barriers. I hesitated to reply again because I'm certain you will already have an answer as to why you cannot ride with this group. But to me, it sounds like a great option. In the 2nd paragraph I guess I didn't realize you NEVER ride solo in unpopulated areas. Why is that? If you take some basic precautions like carrying ID, a cell phone, and some emergency cash, you are covered in case anything crazy happens. I can't think of one single long ride where I WASN'T in an unpopulated area at some point - it's just kind of the nature of going on long bike rides. Then, that's why I asked if I should just flat out quit triathlon and stick to running. If that option makes the most sense. I don't know what I can do to get over the fear of the hills, since riding more hills doesn't work. I've had my bike for 2 years - that's pretty pathetic. I SHOULDN'T be afraid of it after this long, which makes me think I may never NOT be afraid of it. So perhaps it's best if I just stick to running, ya know? |
2009-05-06 10:12 AM in reply to: #2132157 |
Champion 5782 Northridge, California | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? Don't have an answer. I don't like training on the bike...I enjoy recreational cycling. No problem getting in a 20 mile run or a two mile swim, but biking over 50 miles feels like a chore. Same thing with speed work: I don't do a lot of interval work on the run, but it comes easier than on the bike, by far. I guess for me the difference in time investment to see a comparable result is a big part of the problem. |
2009-05-06 10:16 AM in reply to: #2132334 |
Davenport, IA | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-05 4:13 PM KathyG - 2009-05-05 5:01 PM Cornering is putting opposite foot down and inside leg up. Many do that without thinking about it but many don't. Descending do you scoot your bum back a smidgen on the saddle and slightly put your weight back a bit? If you have a road bike hold handlebars so you can brake if needed if you ride a tri bike holding bullhorns is wise. I wonder if a skills based class would help you learn to be more comfortable on your bike or if you couldn't find something like that riding with a kind more experience rider. Sounds to me that you need some instruction, some positive experience and some positive self talk. If you lived by me I'd go riding with you. See, I know all of the technique things I'm SUPPOSED to do, but I can't actually get myself to DO them when it comes time to do so. I'm not even going ot bother buying a tri bike unless I become VERY good on the road bike - which could be never! I generally don't ride with people because I don't have anyone who rides at my speed, or is WILLING to ride at my speed. I'm not going to make my friends bag their workout, so they can watch me struggle up a slight incline at 12 mph. I go from 20 mph on a slight downhill to barely 12 on the tiniest incline. So I get dropped. I'm on a tri team, but so far I haven't been able to make any of the outdoor group rides because it's either been raining, or I've had to be somewhere else, and over the winter it was just too damned cold. Not buying a tri-bike now makes perfect sense. If you aren't comfortable going fast, a more aggressive bike probably isn't going to help anything. I'd bet you'd be surprised that your friends would be more than willing to ride along with you, even if you do struggle on hills. Which brings me to my point: That (the bolded part) is happening because you don't get out and ride. You're getting into a Catch-22 situation. You're afraid to get out and ride because you're slow, and you're slow because you don't get out and ride. If you get out and start working those hills you'll be surprised at how quickly the tiniest incline gets treated like a flat, and how much easier all hills are to ride. |
2009-05-06 10:47 AM in reply to: #2133753 |
Sneaky Slow 8694 Herndon, VA, | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-06 11:11 AM lisac957 - 2009-05-06 11:03 AM wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-06 8:20 AM My tri club is all levels, and they do kinda specialize in newbies, or at least they are VERY open to newbies, unlike some of the groups in the area. I really like my tri-club. It's not that I worry that I'll be dropped by them - they have a sag truck for the long rides, and there is definitely a no-drop policy on those rides. In the 1st paragraph here it sounds like this would be a great ride! So you DO have options... you are just choosing not to take advantage of them. In reading this thread it sounds like you've already forumated elaborate excuses reasons for not trying everyone's suggestions, and most of them are nothing but mental barriers. I hesitated to reply again because I'm certain you will already have an answer as to why you cannot ride with this group. But to me, it sounds like a great option. In the 2nd paragraph I guess I didn't realize you NEVER ride solo in unpopulated areas. Why is that? If you take some basic precautions like carrying ID, a cell phone, and some emergency cash, you are covered in case anything crazy happens. I can't think of one single long ride where I WASN'T in an unpopulated area at some point - it's just kind of the nature of going on long bike rides. Then, that's why I asked if I should just flat out quit triathlon and stick to running. If that option makes the most sense. I don't know what I can do to get over the fear of the hills, since riding more hills doesn't work. I've had my bike for 2 years - that's pretty pathetic. I SHOULDN'T be afraid of it after this long, which makes me think I may never NOT be afraid of it. So perhaps it's best if I just stick to running, ya know? There does come a time where it might be best for one to stop banging their head against the wall. I know you as well, likely better, than anyone who has posted to this thread, and I just don't see you getting any enjoyment out of triathlon, at least the physical, as opposed to the social, part of it, and this is your 3rd year. I'm not saying you are necessarily to the point where you ought to just stick to running, or events like that biathlon we did last summer... but I do think you need to think about what your personal reasons are for participating in triathlon. It if makes you miserable, why do it? You didn't seem too happy at Rumpass, for example. There's no shame in being a runner/swimmer. Still doing a helluva a lot more than that proverbial 99% of the population. |
2009-05-06 10:57 AM in reply to: #2133910 |
Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? newleaf - 2009-05-06 11:47 AM There does come a time where it might be best for one to stop banging their head against the wall. I know you as well, likely better, than anyone who has posted to this thread, and I just don't see you getting any enjoyment out of triathlon, at least the physical, as opposed to the social, part of it, and this is your 3rd year. I'm not saying you are necessarily to the point where you ought to just stick to running, or events like that biathlon we did last summer... but I do think you need to think about what your personal reasons are for participating in triathlon. It if makes you miserable, why do it? You didn't seem too happy at Rumpass, for example. There's no shame in being a runner/swimmer. Still doing a helluva a lot more than that proverbial 99% of the population. I was excited before Rumpass - really excited. I had pysched myself up for a great race, since it was a course I'd done before and I knew I could do it. So I was looking forward to it. But then I got out there, and got freaked out on 2 hills that I KNOW I've ridden before. That's not right. All the mental prep in the world didn't work. And that just really makes me think that maybe I'm not cut out for this after all. I hate quitting things, but maybe it just proves that I'm not as tough I thought I was, or hoped I could be. That biking just isn't, and will never be my thing, ya know? People have natural ability in different things. But maybe it's pointless to try to force myself to be good at something that isn't one of my strengths. |
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2009-05-06 11:06 AM in reply to: #2133949 |
Sneaky Slow 8694 Herndon, VA, | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-06 11:57 AM newleaf - 2009-05-06 11:47 AM There does come a time where it might be best for one to stop banging their head against the wall. I know you as well, likely better, than anyone who has posted to this thread, and I just don't see you getting any enjoyment out of triathlon, at least the physical, as opposed to the social, part of it, and this is your 3rd year. I'm not saying you are necessarily to the point where you ought to just stick to running, or events like that biathlon we did last summer... but I do think you need to think about what your personal reasons are for participating in triathlon. It if makes you miserable, why do it? You didn't seem too happy at Rumpass, for example. There's no shame in being a runner/swimmer. Still doing a helluva a lot more than that proverbial 99% of the population. I was excited before Rumpass - really excited. I had pysched myself up for a great race, since it was a course I'd done before and I knew I could do it. So I was looking forward to it. But then I got out there, and got freaked out on 2 hills that I KNOW I've ridden before. That's not right. All the mental prep in the world didn't work. And that just really makes me think that maybe I'm not cut out for this after all. I hate quitting things, but maybe it just proves that I'm not as tough I thought I was, or hoped I could be. That biking just isn't, and will never be my thing, ya know? People have natural ability in different things. But maybe it's pointless to try to force myself to be good at something that isn't one of my strengths. It's pointless if you don't get any enjoyment out of the j.. j... j... ugh, fine I'll say that word that gets overused here on BT... the journey. |
2009-05-06 11:06 AM in reply to: #2133949 |
Member 38 Palm Harbor, Fl | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? Don't think of it as quiting or you're not strong enough to do it. Right now in your life running and swimming is making you happy. You never know what will happen in the future. There might be an event or person that makes the bike thing "click" for you. For now run, swim, and be happy! Edited by Klondike 2009-05-06 11:08 AM |
2009-05-06 11:39 AM in reply to: #2133949 |
Master 1826 | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? wurkit_gurl - 2009-05-06 11:57 AM newleaf - 2009-05-06 11:47 AM There does come a time where it might be best for one to stop banging their head against the wall. I know you as well, likely better, than anyone who has posted to this thread, and I just don't see you getting any enjoyment out of triathlon, at least the physical, as opposed to the social, part of it, and this is your 3rd year. I'm not saying you are necessarily to the point where you ought to just stick to running, or events like that biathlon we did last summer... but I do think you need to think about what your personal reasons are for participating in triathlon. It if makes you miserable, why do it? You didn't seem too happy at Rumpass, for example. There's no shame in being a runner/swimmer. Still doing a helluva a lot more than that proverbial 99% of the population. I was excited before Rumpass - really excited. I had pysched myself up for a great race, since it was a course I'd done before and I knew I could do it. So I was looking forward to it. But then I got out there, and got freaked out on 2 hills that I KNOW I've ridden before. That's not right. All the mental prep in the world didn't work. And that just really makes me think that maybe I'm not cut out for this after all. I hate quitting things, but maybe it just proves that I'm not as tough I thought I was, or hoped I could be. That biking just isn't, and will never be my thing, ya know? People have natural ability in different things. But maybe it's pointless to try to force myself to be good at something that isn't one of my strengths. Chrissy, the bike isn't the problem, its the phobia.. it manifests on the bike but the piece that you have to go after is the fear. That is an internal fight.. nothing anyone will say will make you overcome it.. you honestly have to face the fear and figure out how to tackle it |
2009-05-06 12:38 PM in reply to: #2132157 |
Elite 3067 Cheesehead, WI | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? Hi Wurkit- You've got lots of input already so I'll just chime in with some more I got my first 'adult' bike around 1993 - mtn bike. I had just quit smoking and would tool around on that baby to keep active and smoke free. I loved it. Went all over town and off road too. Then I got a road bike but it flatted like every other week so dropped big bucks on a Cannondale hybred and rode around recreationally. Eventually I did some charity rides and then did a Team in Training thing in Tahoe in 2002. I was NEVER fast. A guy I dated when I had the 'flat road bike' would get so angry because I was slow. (he's history btw). During the TnT training, I rode in the back of the pack mostly. And although I wanted to ride the actual century with my peeps I trained with, I just was not as fast so I forged on and had a blast anyhow meeting new peeps and 'bonding' with others who struggled to keep the pedal to the metal. I think my speed that day averaged around 12-14 mph. I also had started taking Spin classes around 1998 or so and in 2003 found triathlon (still not a fast biker! and now have a road bike, older but still a road bike) And now I'm a Spin teacher and working on my speed STILL! And last summer, I helped out at the Y as a tri coach for training sessions they were running for newbies. I went riding a couple of times and HAAA! I struggled to keep up at times. I'm intimidated by the local rides that claim 'easy pace 16-18' because although I can go faster its usually when there is no wind or wind at my back. Put wind in my face or a hill (and its pretty flat here); I drop down to 12mph. I just did a duathlon and have vowed to improve my bike strength after other cycling teachers as well as participants beat my bootay bad on the bike. Anyhow, sorry for the blabbing all over the place but bottom line, I believe if you want it, it can happen. I won't likely be Lance out there but I CAN get faster. But I enjoy biking...the road, the sunshine, the redwing blackbirds that dive bomb me, mooing at cows, practicing snot rockets, talking to myself either audibly or in my head, its all cathartic for me. Anytime I have gone faster, it has been a TOTAL MENTAL as well as PHYSICAL concerted effort. It does not come easily, I really have to try...so I'll tri some more. And, if you just don't like it, stick with what you enjoy. Life's too short --so do stuff that brings you joy. |
2009-05-06 1:34 PM in reply to: #2132157 |
Extreme Veteran 418 Pittsburgh | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? Good luck with whatever you decide to do. I recently got my first road bike (upgraded from a hybrid that was really more like a hardtail MTB than a true hybrid bike). Also I had a crash a few years ago that put my left arm in a cast for a few weeks, which was a bit traumatic for me. The first couple rides on the new bike, I was absolutely TERRIFIED to go more than 10 mph because of how different the position feels on the road bike, and I was scared of going downhill. The latter, especially, is a huge problem in Pittsburgh. With the predictable result that I was getting passed by 80-yr-old women riding single-speed coaster bikes down the trail, lol... But I decided that I was going to not be afraid of my new bike, and that I just needed to be more confident in my skills. So I went to a pretty isolated part of the park, where nobody would laugh when I wiped out going like 5mph on my fancy new bike, and rode on the grass while I invented drills for myself to do: I practiced mounting/dismounting, changing hand position, getting used to steering the bike, etc... I'm still unwilling to ride my bike down more than a 10% grade in traffic, and I need to build up my ability to be able to hang with the group on a group ride, but just spending a no-pressure afternoon falling off my bike into the soft grass really helped with my fears. Even though it was probably horrible for my bike, hahaha... |
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2009-05-06 1:48 PM in reply to: #2132157 |
Master 2355 Houston, TX | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? If I lived by you I would come get you out of your house, ride with you to a steep, slightly tricky climb. Then make you climb it and descend it the same way you just climbed, multiple times. You can also try finding someone who would be willing to ride some descents with you. Or just pick 1 climb that bothers you now, and do it over and over again till you don't even need to think about it. Try some exercises that will improve your confidence on the bike, before talking your self out of the sport. I don't want to see you talk your self out of something you want to really do. |
2009-05-06 2:28 PM in reply to: #2134090 |
Master 1696 Surprise, Arizona | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? slake707 - 2009-05-06 9:39 AM Chrissy, the bike water isn't the problem, its the phobia.. it manifests on the bike in the lake but the piece that you have to go after is the fear. That is an internal fight.. nothing anyone will say will make you overcome it.. you honestly have to face the fear and figure out how to tackle it This is great advice, Slake. The fears that wurkit has on the bike sound similar to the ones I have in open water. I am going to try to apply your words to my situation as I have edited them above. Edited by BHannahs 2009-05-06 2:29 PM |
2009-05-06 6:53 PM in reply to: #2132404 |
Expert 966 Decatur | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? BikerGrrrl - 2009-05-05 5:47 PM Can you get together with someone nice that is willing to bike alongside you and coach you for a ride? I have a friend who is not very good with bikes and it's gotten to the point where she won't hardly do anything I was I was new with my bike. Won't go over railroad tracks, won't shift from her middle chain ring, etc. Her instinct isn't good and after a few falls and dropped chains has gotten so frustrated and confused she cannot even remember how or when to shift to the big ring. We rode together this weekend and I talked her through the one task for shifting to her big ring. She needed the one-on-one attention to break it down. If you know what you should do, but cannot execute it, you may need individual attention. This is JUST how I felt about swimming. It was so entirely frustrating for a very, very, long time. Now I kind of like it, but I have had to work on individual mechanics swim after swim to get there. Oh, and attack those hills! Only way to get faster is to build the muscles that turn the crank. This is exactly how I learned to ride. I was fortunate enough to find a group with a fast group who had a person who loves new riders. I was in a parking lot for 2 weeks then did a 17 miler. It was awesome. If I can ever get my fit right, I'd love biking. NOW, if you can exchange all the words in this thread from biking to running. this entire thread would apply to me. |
2009-05-06 8:46 PM in reply to: #2135202 |
Master 1993 Riverside, IL | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? latrina - 2009-05-06 6:53 PM NOW, if you can exchange all the words in this thread from biking to running. this entire thread would apply to me. X1000!!! As far as biking fears go...I definitely have some. Descents on hills don't really bother me...although, where I live...there aren't many hills. But I'm a slow rider, have never ridden with a group because I would get dropped in a heartbeat. I even feel guilty when I ride with my hubby, because he is SO much faster than me and I feel like I'm holding him back. I also have a "fear" of riding solo...don't ask me why, I just do. I fear getting a flat and not being able to get my tire off and back on. I've had issues in the past, with trying to get the Michelin Pro Race 3's off of my wheels. It's a very tight fit and I've come close to breaking tire levers attempting to get my tires off, so I try not to stray too far from home if I ride solo. Yeah, I know if I get a flat during a race...I'll have to fix it myself, which kinda freaks me out just thinking about it! I say, if biking truly doesn't bring you any enjoyment, then just stick with what makes you happy. I know I've had serious reservations myself, about quitting triathlon due to my hatred of running...and depending on how my first HIM goes in 2 months, I just might do it. |
2009-05-06 8:49 PM in reply to: #2134489 |
Champion 5495 Whizzzzzlandia | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? smilford - 2009-05-06 1:48 PM If I lived by you I would come get you out of your house, ride with you to a steep, slightly tricky climb. Then make you climb it and descend it the same way you just climbed, multiple times. You can also try finding someone who would be willing to ride some descents with you. Or just pick 1 climb that bothers you now, and do it over and over again till you don't even need to think about it. Try some exercises that will improve your confidence on the bike, before talking your self out of the sport. I don't want to see you talk your self out of something you want to really do. This is great advice and kinda what I had when I started riding. There was this guy, Dan, and he was in charge of the Monday night group rides. He would give me "homework" to practice during the week, and I had to show him how I'd improved on the following Monday night... The homework was things like riding the white line on the road, shifting properly before climbing, riding close to others... sharp cornering... he got right up next to me while we were riding, put his hand on my back and said... "Does this make you nervous?" I was like "Yes! Get away from me." And he was like "Just hold your line..." and it all sorta fell into place from there. I can hear his advice still. "Only minor adjustments in a group." "Shift now!" "Don't mash!" I had the crappiest second hand bike without clipless pedals and my brakes squealed everytime I touched them. The fit was all wrong too... the bike was way too big... but I got faster and more confident. I also wiped out hard twice... but I actually think that helped with my confidence... long term. It has made me a very defensive, and rather conservative rider. |
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2009-05-07 12:06 AM in reply to: #2132157 |
Master 2665 The Whites, New Hampshire | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? Wurkit, you are clearly seriously frustrated. That's obvious, and heartbreaking. I'm going to reiterate a point some others have said: this is mental. You know it is mental. So don't try to fix a mental problem with a physical solution. Get thee to a sports psychologist. If you were married and having marital problems (or the problems with your parents), the advice would be go to a therapist. So, chicka, go to a therapist!!! I would imagine someone who can really help guide your mental imagery, work on getting you through blocks, give you concrete, specific exercises, and generally just support you through the crap would really help. I don't know if biking is for you or not, but I really think that if you drop it now, you will fixate on it and regret it for a long time. If nothing else, really figuring out what's going on will help you move past the problems, whether or not you continue to bike. Don't try mtn biking, and don't keep trying the same things over and over. The blocks will only get bigger. I like the idea of finding a nice SMALL (two mile?) loop with maybe one fair-to-middlin' hill to just cruise, over and over. I'm no sports psych, but I can PM some specific techniques to work through when doing this, if you'd like. Finally, I wonder if you are trying to compare yourself to others on this site? That was a HUGE stumbling block for me, and one I really had to work through. I'm not ever going to be as fast as some people, I'm not ever going to put in as much training, and I'm not ever going to drop as much coin. On the other hand, I might someday be as fast, put in as much training, and drop the same coin as others, but I'm not there right now, and that's okay. |
2009-05-07 12:58 PM in reply to: #2133384 |
Veteran 164 Toronto | Subject: RE: Why Don't I Like It More? (a And I also stopped writing anything negative about my running in my logs. If I have a negative thought while running, I replace it with a positive thought. So much of this is mental. Think of your positive thoughts covered in glue and velcro so they can stick to your brain and your negative thoughts covered in slime and Teflon... so they can fall right out. Takes some time... but it works. (Got that glue and Teflon thing from a book. Yes, someone actually wrote that. And got paid for it!) But. It works. Good Luck. It's a process. This is exactly it. I'm just right now working on a post for Ironmanarizon2009.blogspot to talk about my journey from freak out queen to relative calm. I'm going to have to soon step away from even helping others with advice because that becomes a key for my brain to use to open up the panic door. There is no problem with surpressing emotions like fear that do not benefit you. |
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