Things i DONT miss about relationships (for Lee &others) (Page 3)

Yeah, LOL.

He did have his strengths. He had a pretty good sense of humor... I saw it rarely, but when it was good, it was really really good. And he was pretty good at saving money and being a good provider. He was also good in the "physical" sense... if you know what I mean... and he's easy on the eyes.

Not things on which to base your primary life relationship.

I've purchased a Townhouse and I'm moving out of Suzanne's in the end of February. We're not all sharing the King sized bed, just me and Suzanne... it kind of sounded like we were all piling into one bed. That's not the case. She just ran out of spare bedrooms and basement space!

Things I don't miss about being in a relationship:

1. Not being good enough. And knowing you never will be.

Yeah, I thought you meant you lost 198lbs...I thought that was a huge acomplishment but you hadn't really talked about it, so I didn't know what to think or say....lol

You're going to be fine!! I lost 200lbs a year ago too and it feels great!!

Been there, and I am sorry to hear about your situation. Someting to think about as far as he is concerned, would two separate loving homes, be better for him than the one he is in now?

Good Luck in 06

Jim

It's been 2 years since I threw down my litany of things I wasn't going to miss about my ex husband.

Most of all, what I don't miss is the feeling of emptiness and the feeling of lonesomeness.  I was never more alone than when I was married.

Such perspective!

And for the record... I was actually staying with a friend named KATHY... I didn't know if the ex would read BT, and if he did, I didn't want him to know I was staying with her. (!)

Time and Tide!

let's see my most recent relationship... I don't miss:

1) being scared to death on every road trip as he tailed every single car in the left hand lane, regardless of snow, sleet, rain, or hail... let alone my feelings of safety and asking him to slow down, sigh

2) being told I'm disorganized, whacked, negative, selfish, a hillbilly (because I cuffed my shorts once), paranoid, emotionally fragile, controlling, insecure, ... just to name a few... even once accused me of having ADD... at that point I knew he was the one that was whacked

3) having to walk on eggshells whenever we went out to dinner, as he would blast me on the way home with something I "apparently" said wrong during dinner which embarrassed him.  huh?

4) having to walk on eggshells never knowing when he'd burst into his anger fits because I didn't eat on his schedule, didn't want to eat all the fattening food he ate, and because he didn't want to hear about me wanting to lose weight and keep my weight down... sigh.  he was overweight btw... go figure.

5) having to endure his pouting and walking out telling me he's done... for the 100th time.

he's done alright... as of August 2007... after 2.5yrs tolerating his sad abuse, and even after taking him back during that time when he dumped my arse for another woman.  oh silly me.  but when he threatened to leave the last time, i said there's the door... and hang a wreath on your way out, because it's a blessed day.

i don't miss him for a second... and am dating a new guy that you can't even compare to the monster i was dating before.  yuk.

We have some pretty good threads from back in da day!

Yeah, seriously, what the hell IS that, anyway? I'm so sick of guys thinking they're "saving" me from them by saying crap like that. If I didn't like you and didn't want to spend time with you, I wouldn't be. So get over yourself.

Just a few from a guy I was engaged to:

1. Total insecurity and controlling behaviour.

2. Slamming my head into a doorway, then having to drive myself to the emergency room with a concussion.

3. Drinking, cheating, lying, stealing, swearing.

I thank God for my future brother-in-law that called me up and said, "if you don't leave today, I am going to come over there and remove you myself".  A fantastic guy, and I am totally convinced he was used by God.  Thank you Nick!

Since then, have become a christian, moved on to meet some fantastic men, and will humbly say, that  I have been very blessed in my singleness.  To anyone who may be in the situation I was: there comes a time that you have to wake up and realize your worth.  You are worth more than you will ever know, start believing it! 

Congratulations and a big HIGH FIVE to you, sister. I just sent you a PM. Looks as though we've been rowing the same boat.  

Since I am still in the relationship, and for the most part am very happy, I will just say things that I have to put up with, because I refuse to try to change him.

1. Having to be the emotional Rock, when everything in our lives was falling apart (financially)

2. Doing 90% of the house work, even though I am the only one working.

3. Not having my own space in our cramped apartment, because he is a pack rat and cannot get rid of anything.  Wait, I have a small corner....nope thats gone too. 

4. being accused of cheating (well...this one he was justified in, I wasn't cheating, but I do flirt too much)

5. Being accountable for every single minute of my day, but if I come home and he is not there, I am not suppose to care where he is. 

And this is the biggest one...the others are small piddly things that don't really bother me that much...

6. The fact that I cannot say no to him for what he wants.  And he wants everything...so basically I have become a compulsive spender because I can't seem to say know to him...which has gotten me so far into debt that I can never see the light at the end of the tunnel.  (this one crosses over into "issues"

'Cept trigods ain't single no more!

Heh.

He done run off and got married to our resident hottie, fitphd!

Mr & Mrs. CleTus!