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2012-07-29 12:22 PM

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Subject: Didn't see that coming
As a follow-up to my whole "I apparently don't exist" thread earlier this week (thank you to all who made me feel loved!) Yesterday my cousin (I think 2nd cousin once removed -my grandmothers brothers daughter) took me to the cemetery so I could say my goodbyes to my grandmother. While there I asked if my "father" had come to see his mother before she died (she was quite ill - no one told me that either) - she replied "no, he was on a cruise with Carol (my stepmother of 38 years) and her son".

I think my head did an Exorcist move - WHAT?????? I'm sorry cousin but my stepmother doesn't have any children and I'm pretty sure at 66 she hasn't had one in the last 4 years. No she didn't.

Apparently when she was "very young" she got pregnant her very Catholic family sent her to Mexico where she gave birth to a son and left him with a family there to raise.

Up, I have an older step-brother named Pedro. (And he is married but I don't know his wife's name) or their last name or if they have any kids - head was reeling too much to ask questions.

Apparently my cousin found out at the funeral on Wed, my aunt (who still hasn't reached out to me) found out last week.

SURPRISE! I guess. I will probalby never meet them, and I can only imagine what garbage my father has told them about me but I really don't care. I still stand by my position to protect my son and my own mental health by keeping him out of our lives.

Heck who needs Lifetime movies - just come hang out with me this week!

Anyone else ever have this happen and how do you wrap your head around it?

2012-07-29 12:49 PM
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If you think you life is messed up, go hang out at a state fair.

 

Oh My GAWD that is a WOMAAAAN!!!!

2012-07-29 12:49 PM
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ROTFLOL
2012-07-29 1:33 PM
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2012-07-29 4:01 PM
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wgraves7582 - 2012-07-29 2:33 PM

p>ETA - How do I wrap my head around it?  Well I am thankful and will never hide that I have a true Heavenly Father that is normal and loves me more than I could ever imagine.  If it were not for that reason I would be a street person most likely! (and I don't say that in jest!)



You certainly have a lot on your plate - but what you wrote is so VERY true - I am extremely fortunate that my stepfather adopted me (at my fathers request) and has always been the "dad" I needed.

2012-07-29 6:18 PM
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Yo Lani, don't let them bring you down.  Don't waste one second on that kind of negative energy.

Every family's got their skeletons and black sheep...that's why I always giggle a little when I see geneology trees. (more often than not, they are not accurate), and the whole "it was different back in my day..." and "the things that go on in today's world never happened back in my day..."  Yeah?  Bull-poopy I say.  The same crap happened, it was just swept under the rug. 

Now if this really is like a compilation of Lifetime movies, I'm in!  My wife and I love the 1 1/2 star Lifetime movies.  If you play your cards right, we can turn this into a reality show!  Perhaps we'll personalize it, "A Trip Down Memory Lani?"



2012-07-29 9:58 PM
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you and my handful of friends would be the only ones who watched

Thanks for making me smile though!
2012-07-30 6:50 AM
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ChineseDemocracy - 2012-07-29 6:18 PM

Yo Lani, don't let them bring you down.  Don't waste one second on that kind of negative energy.

Every family's got their skeletons and black sheep...that's why I always giggle a little when I see geneology trees. (more often than not, they are not accurate), and the whole "it was different back in my day..." and "the things that go on in today's world never happened back in my day..."  Yeah?  Bull-poopy I say.  The same crap happened, it was just swept under the rug. 

Now if this really is like a compilation of Lifetime movies, I'm in!  My wife and I love the 1 1/2 star Lifetime movies.  If you play your cards right, we can turn this into a reality show!  Perhaps we'll personalize it, "A Trip Down Memory Lani?"

Couldn't say it any better. If you don't think your family is nuts, you are not looking hard enough.

2012-07-30 7:52 AM
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Like I posted in your other thread, my family is going to meet their cousin who is 18 or 19 for the first time in about 5 days at my youngest daughter's wedding, and we didn't know he existed, until I called my brother to let him know our father had passed a few months ago.  That is how bad my family is screwed up.

You are not alone, it happens everywhere unfortunetly.

 

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