The Ghoulies are doing Ironman distances this month! (Page 19)

I thought that was normal.

Morning Ghoulies!  I could have easily stayed in bed for a few more hours today

Same here. If I wouldn't have taken Friday off I probably would have stayed home today.

Morning Ghouls.  I have an appt with my knee doc this morning.  Just a follow up.  Since I'm first on his schedule, am hoping it will be quick.

Hope everyone got some quality run/bike time this weekend, at least those who had good weather. East coast was terrific. I have tan lines.

Staying home sounds like an even better idea

Hi Kim

Morning Ann.  *said quietly so as not to wake her*

Morning Neal!

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Either an alien creature has invaded Bill's Ghoulie body or his weekend had more drama than mine, Ann's, and Amy's combined.

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What time and where are we meeting for the group nap this morning?

Nap Time TopPage!

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As long as I get to sleep when it's all done I don't care what you call it.

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I aim to please, Bill

MORNING GHOULIES.

its that time again.  the start of a new week.  the boys are still off.  im actually enjoying having them home. i guess its all those weekends ive been working....ive been missing them more than i thought. 

the kids must have been feeling it too....my youngest overheard me talking about the new jobs im looking forward to in the next few weeks.  he said, 'mommy.  one job is enough.  i miss you.'


we had the DADDY IS MOVING OUT ON THIS DAY conversation w the kids on Saturday.  at first i was miffed because it seemed as if i was going to have to do ALL of the talking. 

i told J that i was miffed, that in order for this conversation to go well we needed to be seen as 'united front'.  im not sure (in the moment) he saw how 'critical' this conversation would be in 'setting the tone', moving forward.

ok.  not to b^tch and moan here, but this behavior is VERY 'historical' so though i was miffed, i was not surprised....what DID surprise me was he took the 'lead' in the conversation and did a halfway decent job communicating to the kids what was all going down...

i was the one who actually had to say the words 'daddy is moving out' which i found really interesting to note, but....

considering.  the conversation went well.  there was no drama, which im thankful for.  goes to how we've been handling/communicating all along the way imho.

im sure there will be emotions once 'reality sets in'....but so far were moving forward in a positive way, which is MORE than i couldve asked/hoped for.


im going down to talk to my in-laws this week.  just to 'set the tone' w them as well.  reassuring them that i have every intention of maintaining contact w them, and that i fully expect us to be able to share holidays, special events, family events together because that's whats best for the kids.

i would never ever want my children put in a position where they feel that they have choose sides/families/parents....thats an DEVASTATINGLY IMPOSSIBLE SITUATION to put children in....but all too often families do that.

aint gonna happen.  NOT while im their mother.  and the last time i checked the manual, i'll be their mom for a lifetime.

fortunately their dad is on the same page....my family has gone well out of their way to embrace J and i fully expect his parents to do the same.

i know....its kinda of crazy to say that a situation like this is all good....but in a lot of respects its all good.

we get to decide how our lives will go, moving forward.

we have the power to choose.

hopefully everyone involved will continue to choose wisely.

stacieb



Edited by skrtrnr 2010-04-05 8:09 AM

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FOR THE RECORD BILL.

THAT IS UTTERLY
TOTALLY
UNBELIEVABLY

SUCKTASTIC

AND WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS.

no child should've EVER been put in that situation under any circumstances

NO WAY
NO HOW.

no offense to your parents.

in some way im sure they didnt know any better.

(un)fortunately w the prevelance of divorce, we know enough now to divorce 'better'....


in my practice, i would see kids SHREDDED at the 'hands' of their parents, as they tore into each other.

even when i would point it to them, they werent willing to stop the WAR even knowing that their children were sufferring.

the schrapnel of divorce maims children emotionally.

again.

aint gonna happen.

not as long as im my childrens mother.

stacieb

Edited by skrtrnr 2010-04-05 8:18 AM

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thanks for the vote of confidence, BILL.

im not advocate for divorce.

hell.  i make a living putting families back together.

but, if you're gonna divorce, you should do it well....in the best manner possible....



i do have moments when i doubt myself.

doubt my decision.

doubt that im doing the right thing.

and doing things in way that doing the least amount of harm to my children....

but then, i have people in my circle that tell me im ok and im doing great, it really really helps.


love ya babe.
stacieb

not to mention missing out on a relationship with an UBER FANTABULOUS SON.



stacieb