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2008-01-30 11:12 PM in reply to: #1165766 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII Beth! Sounds like you had a great dinner! Has it all sunk in yet? |
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2008-01-30 11:13 PM in reply to: #1185415 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:08 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:00 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 10:56 PM My life just got more complicated.... the division head (basically the head of our entire area who the boss has to get pay increases approved by...) wont approve any major salary increases until June... so while Im going to get a nice increase (not equal to the offer i was made but a solid increase) I will have to wait another 6-ish months.... My manager is furious about it... now what? I think the world is out to make this job decision tough! just to make sure I understand, your pay increase was approved, but you won't see it for another 6 months or so? I have to talk to the boss yet... my manager was letting me know the situation as a courtesy... (he probably wasnt suppose to!) But.. here is what Im thinking... my contract is on a two year term that ends in June... so I can use that to force a slightly earlier (than everyone else) review anyway so instead of 6 months its more like 4 months away... But i also want in writing what the exact pay increase would be then, and then what is available on top of that if I mean x,y,z etc because the increase is really to compensate for the past 12 months... not the next 6 so.... I need a title bump... not sure how to negotiate that but Im sure I can weave that in... and I want the training but not just anything.... with a really good 'looks good on a cv firm' which I know is already budgetted for anyway!
Not sure if this is enough but thats really all I can think of that I can do right now.... sounds like you are thinking of all of the right angles! |
2008-01-30 11:14 PM in reply to: #1185421 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:12 PM Beth! Sounds like you had a great dinner! Has it all sunk in yet? it was a great dinner! i think tonight was the first night it started to sink in - wierd |
2008-01-30 11:20 PM in reply to: #1185426 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:13 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:08 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:00 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 10:56 PM My life just got more complicated.... the division head (basically the head of our entire area who the boss has to get pay increases approved by...) wont approve any major salary increases until June... so while Im going to get a nice increase (not equal to the offer i was made but a solid increase) I will have to wait another 6-ish months.... My manager is furious about it... now what? I think the world is out to make this job decision tough! just to make sure I understand, your pay increase was approved, but you won't see it for another 6 months or so? I have to talk to the boss yet... my manager was letting me know the situation as a courtesy... (he probably wasnt suppose to!) But.. here is what Im thinking... my contract is on a two year term that ends in June... so I can use that to force a slightly earlier (than everyone else) review anyway so instead of 6 months its more like 4 months away... But i also want in writing what the exact pay increase would be then, and then what is available on top of that if I mean x,y,z etc because the increase is really to compensate for the past 12 months... not the next 6 so.... I need a title bump... not sure how to negotiate that but Im sure I can weave that in... and I want the training but not just anything.... with a really good 'looks good on a cv firm' which I know is already budgetted for anyway!
Not sure if this is enough but thats really all I can think of that I can do right now.... sounds like you are thinking of all of the right angles! hehe I just need them to give me a reason to stay I think.... i havent told them about the job offer... not sure if I should... |
2008-01-30 11:21 PM in reply to: #1185427 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:14 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:12 PM Beth! Sounds like you had a great dinner! Has it all sunk in yet? it was a great dinner! i think tonight was the first night it started to sink in - wierd Not at all... when I moved to Oz it too ages for it to sink in... and new jobs are the same when you ARENT changing anything else about your life! |
2008-01-30 11:22 PM in reply to: #1185439 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:20 PM hehe I just need them to give me a reason to stay I think.... i havent told them about the job offer... not sure if I should... my only advice there would be - don't tell them about it unless you are ready to take the other offer |
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2008-01-30 11:23 PM in reply to: #1185440 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:21 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:14 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:12 PM Beth! Sounds like you had a great dinner! Has it all sunk in yet? it was a great dinner! i think tonight was the first night it started to sink in - wierd Not at all... when I moved to Oz it too ages for it to sink in... and new jobs are the same when you ARENT changing anything else about your life! good point next week will be really wierd! |
2008-01-30 11:30 PM in reply to: #1185442 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:22 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:20 PM hehe I just need them to give me a reason to stay I think.... i havent told them about the job offer... not sure if I should... my only advice there would be - don't tell them about it unless you are ready to take the other offer Thats what Im thinking.... although knowing that my boss and my old boss know the same ppl I might tell them afterwards as a courtesy... |
2008-01-30 11:31 PM in reply to: #1185443 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:23 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:21 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:14 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:12 PM Beth! Sounds like you had a great dinner! Has it all sunk in yet? it was a great dinner! i think tonight was the first night it started to sink in - wierd Not at all... when I moved to Oz it too ages for it to sink in... and new jobs are the same when you ARENT changing anything else about your life! good point next week will be really wierd! Nah it will be exciting! |
2008-01-30 11:31 PM in reply to: #1185456 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:30 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:22 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:20 PM hehe I just need them to give me a reason to stay I think.... i havent told them about the job offer... not sure if I should... my only advice there would be - don't tell them about it unless you are ready to take the other offer Thats what Im thinking.... although knowing that my boss and my old boss know the same ppl I might tell them afterwards as a courtesy... does that mean you are leaning a certain way? |
2008-01-30 11:32 PM in reply to: #1185457 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:31 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:23 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:21 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:14 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:12 PM Beth! Sounds like you had a great dinner! Has it all sunk in yet? it was a great dinner! i think tonight was the first night it started to sink in - wierd Not at all... when I moved to Oz it too ages for it to sink in... and new jobs are the same when you ARENT changing anything else about your life! good point next week will be really wierd! Nah it will be exciting! you're right! it will be |
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2008-01-30 11:33 PM in reply to: #1165766 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII It's strange, because people keep telling me how brave and courageous I am - I just think I did what needed to be done |
2008-01-30 11:33 PM in reply to: #1185460 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:31 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:30 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:22 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:20 PM hehe I just need them to give me a reason to stay I think.... i havent told them about the job offer... not sure if I should... my only advice there would be - don't tell them about it unless you are ready to take the other offer Thats what Im thinking.... although knowing that my boss and my old boss know the same ppl I might tell them afterwards as a courtesy... does that mean you are leaning a certain way? Well I have been the whole time i think.... staying here... But with the money on offer, and not getting hte response i want here, plus todays not been a great day at work.... so its not the best day for making a decision! |
2008-01-30 11:36 PM in reply to: #1185464 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:33 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:31 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:30 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:22 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:20 PM hehe I just need them to give me a reason to stay I think.... i havent told them about the job offer... not sure if I should... my only advice there would be - don't tell them about it unless you are ready to take the other offer Thats what Im thinking.... although knowing that my boss and my old boss know the same ppl I might tell them afterwards as a courtesy... does that mean you are leaning a certain way? Well I have been the whole time i think.... staying here... But with the money on offer, and not getting hte response i want here, plus todays not been a great day at work.... so its not the best day for making a decision! it sounds like you really enjoy what you are doing and what the future holds, that counts for a lot! it strikes me, that if in spite of a bad day and the other things, you still are leaning the same direction - you must be making the right decision |
2008-01-30 11:56 PM in reply to: #1185463 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:33 PM It's strange, because people keep telling me how brave and courageous I am - I just think I did what needed to be done True - I think being single and kid free (like I am) would make it easier though.... I t hink the longer you are in one place the harder it is to leave too... Im the person who when they hear someone whinging continuously about their job I ask them what they are doing to change the situation.... I understand a bad day... but if its a 24/7 misery affecting your personal state of being and you are just putting up with it... Well... thats when you do what needs to be done.
FWIW Beth... I think you are 100% doing the best thing!!! |
2008-01-30 11:56 PM in reply to: #1185466 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:36 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:33 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:31 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:30 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:22 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:20 PM hehe I just need them to give me a reason to stay I think.... i havent told them about the job offer... not sure if I should... my only advice there would be - don't tell them about it unless you are ready to take the other offer Thats what Im thinking.... although knowing that my boss and my old boss know the same ppl I might tell them afterwards as a courtesy... does that mean you are leaning a certain way? Well I have been the whole time i think.... staying here... But with the money on offer, and not getting hte response i want here, plus todays not been a great day at work.... so its not the best day for making a decision! it sounds like you really enjoy what you are doing and what the future holds, that counts for a lot! it strikes me, that if in spite of a bad day and the other things, you still are leaning the same direction - you must be making the right decision Thanks! |
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2008-01-30 11:57 PM in reply to: #1165766 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII Just got off my phone... a really close friend of mine moved out of the house he shared with his wife on MOnday night... he was just getting in touch... Oh and they work together too... (and I never liked her... not that he knows that)
I dont need to create chaos in my life... it comes to me! Edited by kaqphin 2008-01-30 11:58 PM |
2008-01-30 11:58 PM in reply to: #1185478 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:56 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:33 PM It's strange, because people keep telling me how brave and courageous I am - I just think I did what needed to be done True - I think being single and kid free (like I am) would make it easier though.... I t hink the longer you are in one place the harder it is to leave too... Im the person who when they hear someone whinging continuously about their job I ask them what they are doing to change the situation.... I understand a bad day... but if its a 24/7 misery affecting your personal state of being and you are just putting up with it... Well... thats when you do what needs to be done.
FWIW Beth... I think you are 100% doing the best thing!!! exactly! and, well, sometimes that means a pretty big change |
2008-01-30 11:59 PM in reply to: #1185478 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:56 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:33 PM It's strange, because people keep telling me how brave and courageous I am - I just think I did what needed to be done True - I think being single and kid free (like I am) would make it easier though.... I t hink the longer you are in one place the harder it is to leave too... Im the person who when they hear someone whinging continuously about their job I ask them what they are doing to change the situation.... I understand a bad day... but if its a 24/7 misery affecting your personal state of being and you are just putting up with it... Well... thats when you do what needs to be done.
FWIW Beth... I think you are 100% doing the best thing!!! thanks Cat! that means a lot |
2008-01-31 12:00 AM in reply to: #1185480 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:57 PM Just got off my phone... a really close friend of mine moved out of the house he shared with his wife on MOnday night... he was just getting in touch... Oh and they work together too... (and I never liked her... not that he knows that)
I dont need to create chaos in my life... it comes to me! hehehe i seem to be afflicted with that myself to some degree |
2008-01-31 12:11 AM in reply to: #1185485 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 5:00 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:57 PM Just got off my phone... a really close friend of mine moved out of the house he shared with his wife on MOnday night... he was just getting in touch... Oh and they work together too... (and I never liked her... not that he knows that)
I dont need to create chaos in my life... it comes to me! hehehe i seem to be afflicted with that myself to some degree haha I always think I have a straight forward dull life - no kids, no partner, no real social circle or anything like that.... But... somehow..... |
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2008-01-31 12:11 AM in reply to: #1185483 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:59 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:56 PM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 4:33 PM It's strange, because people keep telling me how brave and courageous I am - I just think I did what needed to be done True - I think being single and kid free (like I am) would make it easier though.... I t hink the longer you are in one place the harder it is to leave too... Im the person who when they hear someone whinging continuously about their job I ask them what they are doing to change the situation.... I understand a bad day... but if its a 24/7 misery affecting your personal state of being and you are just putting up with it... Well... thats when you do what needs to be done.
FWIW Beth... I think you are 100% doing the best thing!!! thanks Cat! that means a lot And... with all these changes... Nibbs will still be here! |
2008-01-31 12:11 AM in reply to: #1185495 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII kaqphin - 2008-01-31 12:11 AM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 5:00 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:57 PM Just got off my phone... a really close friend of mine moved out of the house he shared with his wife on MOnday night... he was just getting in touch... Oh and they work together too... (and I never liked her... not that he knows that)
I dont need to create chaos in my life... it comes to me! hehehe i seem to be afflicted with that myself to some degree haha I always think I have a straight forward dull life - no kids, no partner, no real social circle or anything like that.... But... somehow..... LOL well, you are a super hottie! |
2008-01-31 12:16 AM in reply to: #1185498 |
Champion 26509 Sydney | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 5:11 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-31 12:11 AM lastcall2003 - 2008-01-31 5:00 PM kaqphin - 2008-01-30 11:57 PM Just got off my phone... a really close friend of mine moved out of the house he shared with his wife on MOnday night... he was just getting in touch... Oh and they work together too... (and I never liked her... not that he knows that)
I dont need to create chaos in my life... it comes to me! hehehe i seem to be afflicted with that myself to some degree haha I always think I have a straight forward dull life - no kids, no partner, no real social circle or anything like that.... But... somehow..... LOL well, you are a super hottie! LMAO - I will be if I stop having three course lunches with a bottle of wine and srtart doing some training The American men just love my accent! |
2008-01-31 12:21 AM in reply to: #1185504 |
TinkerBeth 23096 Liverpool, New York | Subject: RE: Nibbs XIII |
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