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trigal38

2012-10-10 10:52 AM

in reply to: #4447912

Subject: RE: Expecting perfection or just his best effort?

tech_geezer - 2012-10-10 9:39 AM

Bcozican - 2012-10-10 10:35 AM

trigal38 - 2012-10-09 5:30 PM

My son is in first grade and we told him at the start of the school year if he came home from school, did his homework and practiced piano he could play the Wii for 30 min in the evening.

This has been going fine. He brings home a backpack full of papers with 100%, and gets his homework done without complaint... until a couple of weeks ago. He is still doing his work and he is still getting A's but he has started missing a couple of questions per test instead of getting 100%. The mistakes seem like easy stuff (to me) and things he knows when we do his homework. I think he may just be rushing through the test or not checking his work. Teacher conferences are coming up and I will ask about this but for now I'm thinking of telling him no Wii if questions are missed.

Is this too strict? Am I expecting perfection? I have not said too much about it yet, just something like oops, looks like you missed a couple of questions. We better practice that some more.

What do you think?

I highly encourage you to read the book "Mindset" by Carol Dweck. I cannot do it justice here but everyone who has read has expressed how it has changed their view of education and result orientated teaching as well as other aspect of life. As mentioned in the thread, by expecting perfection you may be setting a trap for your child and yourself. http://mindsetonline.com/

I met Carol Dweck recently. She is a very nice person in addition to being an great researcher in cognitive behavior. Her work regarding whether or not learning ability can be changed through education should be required reading for teachers everywhere. It is all about motivation.

Hubby is going to check with the school librarian to see if she can get the book for me. Thanks for the suggestion!

Edited by trigal38 2012-10-10 10:53 AM

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trigal38

2012-10-24 8:31 AM

in reply to: #4447240

Subject: RE: Expecting perfection or just his best effort?

Just an update in case you think you make suggestions and no one ever listens....

Started the book this morning. For this educator with a minor in psychology this book is a really fun and thought provoking read. I am also going to try to get my husband to read it or at least the parenting sections.

From the book "The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it's not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset." This is what I am pondering about myself and my son this morning.

Also, he had an excellent report card and his teacher had already moved his seat before the conference because she noticed the same things we noticed.

Now the best part for me is I made a simple memory game with his word list this week and every day he has pulled this game out of his box at home and asked me to play with him . What? Learning can be fun? Who knew......