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Need girl advice.
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Get over yourself, she was jsut chatting with you8 Votes - [9.3%]
She orchastrated the whole thing2 Votes - [2.33%]
Do nothing, let it develop3 Votes - [3.49%]
Wait until you see her, then introduce yourself and go from there4 Votes - [4.65%]
Make a point of going to say hi next week9 Votes - [10.47%]
Ask her out16 Votes - [18.6%]
You're a dumb ass and should have snapped out of it and moved5 Votes - [5.81%]
Why does every man assume if a woman talks to him she "wants" him?7 Votes - [8.14%]
no idea3 Votes - [3.49%]
Romance at work? Are you nucking futs?15 Votes - [17.44%]
Hi, I'm Thomas. You are...?5 Votes - [5.81%]
She's just teasing you by dressing like that.2 Votes - [2.33%]
STALK HER!!!!!!!!!3 Votes - [3.49%]
"Watch out, toushy squeeze!"2 Votes - [2.33%]
Get her attention, sue her for harrassment1 Votes - [1.16%]
find her in the company directory and email her1 Votes - [1.16%]
This is a multiple choice poll.

2005-08-21 6:32 PM

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Subject: Need girl advice.

Tell me what this means to you:

I come out of the bathroom into a sort of break room, and there is a SMOKING girl (exotic, dark, nose ring) from billing. I've seen her around quite a bit, but have never shared a single word with her.

"How ya' doing?" I ask as I move around her to where I had placed my extra large glass on the counter before going into the restroom. Out of habit I look at her ass and lose all thought for at least 5 seconds. She's wearing some sort of form fitting pants that are like a cross between lycra and velour. I'm not normally impressed with attractive women or nice looking bodies - but I felt very attracted... 

With a smile as she pours filtered water into her water bottle.

Regaining focus (though now I am staring peripherally at her hips from the side but not seeing anything but her smile) I smile sheepishly and say "me too" as I pull one, then the other, diet Dr Pepper from my large cup.

"Excuse me while I get some ice" I say. She is almost, but not quite, blocking the ice machine. She doesn't say anything, but turns slightly TOWARDS me as I fill my cup with one, two, three scoops, all the while straining desperately NOT to raise my eyes, knowing she is looking down at me...

I finish getting my ice and realize she turned because she was done with water and was waiting.

"Have you tried the Diet Cherry Dr. Pepper?" she asked.

"ah...no, is it good?" I ask.

"Sooo good! I used to drink it all the time!"

"But not any more?" I wonder with a small smile.

"I switched to Diet cherry 7 up." She turns and mid-sentence, starts to move out into the hall in a move that could have been I'm leaving and will talk to you over my shoulder, or lets walk and talk....

"Is that good?" I asked, with a slightly bemused expression. At this point I am not sure who is in charge of this conversation or what is expected of me. All I know was I haven't really thought of a thing since I saw her ass, and I am not "orchestrating" my conversation for wit or charm or with a motive as I normally would.

"I love it!" she says with a smile.

"Wow. I never knew I was so behind on my soda or what they were doing with cherries these days..."

We turn a couple of corners and are walking down a long hall.

"Yes, you're very behind." She says with another very nice smile.

"Are you working now?" I ask.

"I'm done. Headed out now. Wanted to come in for a few hours or I'm behind all week. I guess everyone fells like that...?"

"Ya.... It must be the ambiance here... (I smile) I'm not on a schedule either, but I'm doing the same thing. You really have to spend some extra time or the whole week is playing catch-up. At least in sales...."

"Yea, I guess we're all like that" she smiles as we come to the intersections where I will turn left and she will turn right to leave.

"Well, you have a nice Sunday..." I say as we near.

"Hey, you too, bye...." she says with a smile and we turn and separate... I do not turn and look at her ass.

 

Now I've had probably a million conversations like that and never felt anything, but for some reason I felt like this was different, almost from the very beginning, but I don't know why. I re-read what I just wrote, and it's normal chit chat. So I wanted some advice from my BT friends. What was that? I should have asked her name, but I was a little thrown off.

 

What would you do? What would you expect if you are a woman?

Feel free to add your own....

 



Edited by tmwelshy 2005-08-21 6:33 PM



2005-08-21 6:43 PM
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Trust your intuition!! If it felt different than it WAS, but you won't figure out why by analyzing it.  It's called chemisty! You have got to run into her again (accidently on purpose) and see what happens.

Jess

2005-08-21 6:46 PM
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I want to get a couple of htings out of the way.

I'm not a woman.

I'm married so it's easy for me to offer dating advice (hopefully, I'll never have to do it again).

So here's my philosophy.

Ask her to lunch some day. The worst she can do is say no.
2005-08-21 6:58 PM
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tmwelshy - 2005-08-21 6:32 PM

>I come out of the bathroom into a sort of break room, and there is a SMOKING girl (exotic, dark, nose ring) from billing.


Smoking? In the office?
Stop.
Do not pass go.
Do not spend $200 on dinner and drinks.

Anyway chances are she was just flirting and as a single guy you just know that there is a drug addicted, alcoholic, exboyfriend who she just broke up with after he beat her to a pulp for the umpteenth time that she will inevitably run back to just as you start to think there might be something to the relationship.

Find a nice Tri girl.
2005-08-21 7:00 PM
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I'm with them. Yes, it sounded like chit chat, but there was a lot of non verbal communication I'm sure. Ask her to some activity or something non-chalant. The worst that can happen is she says no or you make a total fool of yourself on the date. In either case, you're not any worse off than before. ASK HER. And you know she is sick of every guy staring at her a## every time. Be the guy who doesn't. As much
2005-08-21 7:06 PM
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Do you mean women don't like it when men stare at their ass?


2005-08-21 7:14 PM
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Subject: RE: Need girl advice.
Since it's a work thing it seems like you should be a bit cautious. But it sounds like there's chemistry, so next time you see her make a point of talking to her, ask her name etc. Sounds like she was open to you - she'd probably enjoy some initiative on your part. Ask her to lunch only when you are SURE she's flirting.
Good luck.

2005-08-21 7:57 PM
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Well, as far as the work thing goes, there are about 600 people here, and we are not even closely in the same group....
2005-08-21 8:27 PM
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If she was wearing tight spandex type pants to work, then obviously she knows what she's doing and wants guy to stare at her butt.  I have that type of chit chat all the time with the people (both men and women) I work with and it doesn't mean anything to me.  But then again I don't move toward people either.  She's probably just doing some harmless flirting- ya know?  Which that doesn't mean she's necessarily interested in pursuing anything, but enjoys getting the attention from guys.  I wouldn't think of it anymore than friends unless you get direct signals- like she wants you to call her or hang out.  If she's interested in getting to know you better, she'll drop hints like "we should go ___ sometimes".  That's what I do with guys I'm interested in but want to get to know them better.  Just give it some time and a few more encounters and you'll be able to figure it out.  And remember...just because you feel attraction or chemistry doesn't mean she's the love of your life.  It just means that you're attracted and it could or couldn't be any more than that. 
2005-08-21 9:55 PM
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Thanks yall. Like I said, I've have hade many conversations like that and never thought twice (by the way, all but the last options on the poll are mine, so I'm aware of reading too much into a chat -  I'm not some love sick puppy infatuated after one conversation, but when I was done whith this one, I felt a little uprooted and nonplussed.... Just thought I'd throw it our there...

2005-08-21 10:03 PM
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I'm going with the "ask her out" theory. I am married as well, so it's also easy to offer cavalier advice. But you will some day be as old as me and I don't want you to look back and say "Damn...25 years ago I should have asked that girl out."

The worst she can say is "No" and you don't seem like the type that would jump off a bridge because some girl won't go to lunch with you. And if she does say "No" then you just re-bait the hook and toss the line off the other side of the boat.



2005-08-21 10:07 PM
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If I were the girl and read this, I'd be wondering why you didn't simply say "Hi, I'm Thomas. I work in the *** department. You are?"
2005-08-21 10:18 PM
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Damn it Renee, I told you I felt adrift... I asked myself the same damn question and now feel like there is work to be done, hay to bail, bailing to be boated, goose to be cooked, whatever you will...
2005-08-21 11:36 PM
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"Sooo good! I used to drink it all the time!"


The term "sooo" is a direct indication she is flakey. Ditch the idea.
She wouldn't understand your complex non-understanding of the cherry flavoured beverage industry anyway. probably think you were out of touch.

Check out the R&D dept, they are always screaming out for attention, if thats what you are after.
2005-08-21 11:48 PM
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I wish I could change my vote to "Tell your friend to tell her friend that you want to go steady."

That, or pull her hair in the hallway next time you see her.

2005-08-21 11:49 PM
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There's that spice I love so much, Renee.


2005-08-21 11:49 PM
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Nice call.... that will get her attention!!!
2005-08-22 6:16 AM
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Bring her a diet cherry 7 up and introduce yourself.
2005-08-22 6:17 AM
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Wookiee - 2005-08-21 6:58 PM

Smoking? In the office?
Stop.
Do not pass go.
Do not spend $200 on dinner and drinks.

*snip*

Find a nice Tri girl.


I'll second this one... women/men aren't worth (potentially) changing jobs involuntarily. (Unless, of course, you were looking for a change of cubicle anyway... )

Find someone who will go out and play with you - someone who's tush you'll be able to watch while you're following them on a bike, perhaps...?

KF
2005-08-22 6:34 AM
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I like the "bring her a Diet 7up" idea, but you have to ask her out on that move - otherwise you get to the "we're friends" stage & its too awkward to ask her out because of the "I thought we were friends!" issue

Also - Cherry flavoured!!! Am I the only one making particular associations!?!

Did you say she was SMOKING as in hot etc., or actually smoking as in cigarette?

Either way - best of luck from ireland
2005-08-22 6:47 AM
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Manatee Express - 2005-08-22 7:16 AM Bring her a diet cherry 7 up and introduce yourself.

Yes, great idea!

However, when I read this I felt like I was watching some skin cinemax adult movie...

So I see you're finally getting over me. Moving on?



2005-08-22 6:50 AM
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Talk to her again and see where it goes over time. Anytime you are in an office situation you need to walk carefully because it is never wise to poo where you live. I know a lot of office romnances that turned out great. I also know a few that messed up the whole atmosphere for everyone.

You might want to drop her a nice e-mail and see if she replies. If she is interested she will respond.
2005-08-22 7:18 AM
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Why don't you just slip her a note that says "Do you like me?  Cirlce yes or no".  It always worked in middle school- lol!
2005-08-22 7:27 AM
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Thomas-  Ask her out.  And keep staring at her ass.  Actually, if you have a camera phone...

2005-08-22 7:28 AM
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I like the bring her a diet 7 up idea. But then again I am married and don't have to go through that deal again. You don't want to be kicking yourself in the future for not at least asking her out. The worst thing you can do is look like a fool and what guy hasn't at some point (I used to make a regular habit out of it!).

The smoking thing would be a turn off for me but what ever works for you! Step up to the plate and swing the bat my friend!
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