Girlfriend dumped me

WOW!!! That really sucks...

I had the same thing happen when I was in the Cor... GF wanted a "break" about a week befor I went to Okinawa for 6 months. so I busted my *** and came back about 8 pounds heavier but 5% LESS body fat... had a new GF within about a week of getting back and when she saw what she had lost she was pissed. 8-) Now I am married to the post Okinawa lady and trying to get that level of fitness back.

Point is, these things always seem to work themselvs out and what looks like a bummer right now may be a blessing later... You just never know!

Exactly! The training has to be for YOU and you alone. Whenever I went through a breakup (of which there have been many) I learned to focus on myself. I decided to make myself a better person than I already was. I didn't dwell on recovering the lost relationship because that is something that may not happen and putting to much stock into such a shakey investment was a huge gamble. And since my investment was my dreams and future I decided that my capitol was much to valuable to squander on something that may not last.

So, I went back to school, went back to the gym, rekindled friendships and social time and basically just worked on me. By doing this you will build confidence in yourself and will be less likely to be codependant when your next relationship does appear on the horizon.

It really sucks that this happened but like others have said it probably happened for a reason. Yes, a "break" is usually a nice way of saying "I want to break up but I don't want to hurt your feelings". I know its hard but it would be best to just let it go. You're still very young and have a very long life ahead of you with lots of opportunity to find your soulmate.

It could be that you're ex was a fish from the wrong pond. Maybe you'd be happier with a gf from the tri-girl catagory?

First let me say that I am sorry to hear about that, especially this time of year. I'm goning to give you my opinion as if I were talking to somone I am good friends with. If it sounds harsh I apologize.

1. She has broken up with you, plan on moving on from this.

2. She will be expecting you to call or contact her, DON'T!!!

3. When she gets in touch with you to find out why you haven't contacted her (which she will), thank her for being up front and that you think it is a good idea as well.

4. Use this as motivation to do something positive for yourself.

5. Women are like busses, if you miss the one you thought you wanted, no worries, another will be along shortly... (for the ladies who are scouling right now, men are the same as well)

6. When you are with the right one, this won't happen!!!!! (and if it does it will work it'self out)

7. Take some time to greive, close your eyes, think of her and the relationship, see it clearly, then imagine her and the relationship getting smaller and smaller.

8. You will never settle for somone in the future that you don't like more than her!!! No where to go but up!!!

Now, lets go for a good run!!!!

Happy Holidays!!

That is just so cool!!!

The bus analogy is hilarious.

Oh, I'm so sorry you are hurting and I hate to tell you this but your girlfriend did dump you. That's what "taking a break" is - breaking up. You don't move closer by moving apart, after all. She said she wanted to "take a break" (instead of breaking up) because she is hedging her bets, she's got one foot in the relationship, sorta, and one foot out - she doesn't want you but she's not willing to risk losing the relationship in case she gets more lonely than she expected or has a bad experience or decides to settle for you. Breaking a relationship (whether it's taking a break of breaking up) means the relationship is broken. You are a free man, she is a free woman.

You might want to reflect on your relationship and try to figure out why/how you missed the signs that she was emotionally disconnected from you.

Training is not the be-all, end-all of life. Take some time off if you feel like it. Train if you feel like it.

When you've met the right person for you, you know it. You know it without reservation, without analysis, without breaks. Keep yourself open to finding the right girl for you.

My $0.53, even though you didn't ask.

quote - "No one is perfect, until you fall in love with them"

My only advice, use your training to get you through the tough days. If you feel sad or angry, go for a run. If you feel tense, swim - swimming if very methodically, and helps me a lot when it comes to stress.

Just remember. You were fine before her, and you will be (eventually) fine after her.

Ditto with Renee said.  IMO, taking a break pretty much means you're broken up.  If she wanted to be with you, then she'd want to be with.  Use this time to really "find yourself" and focus on you.  Training is a great outlet, but don't use it to cover up your issues.  It's ok to miss her, it's ok to be down, it's ok to think that she's the only one for you and you'll never find someone else better- it's natural to feel that way at first but you'll be fine nad get over it.  Just let yourself deal with it in a healthy way.  Just give it time- lots of time.  Don't try and jump into another relationship too fast- take your time to heal and bounce back into the dating scene.   Breaking up always sucks (especially when you've been with someone for so long) but you'll bounce back.  Try new things and enjoy your time as a single guy!

As a singleguy... my advice is dating getsin the way of training!

I agree with Janelle and Renee and yes if you need to use this as a way to get out there and work your butt off then do it!

Focus and train, then in 4 months or so it wont matter. There are many fish in the sea, you just need to learn to swim so you can catch them.

See, so much to learn from BT!