Hey, Christina:
What I have always heard is that if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's...you guessed it... If all or most of the people who are close to you are seeing something that you're not, odds are they are seeing something real. Your days off should feel just a good and fun filled as your workout days. You shouldn't feel "guilty" or bad for not working out until day three or so.
If someone has an addiction, health does not follow even when the addiction is exercise because an exercise addict would be coming from a place of need rather than desire/enjoyment and might tend to exercise when it's best to rest--hence recovery doesn't happen and lack of fitness can follow.
Finding the root of why exercise has become so central in your life might require some soul searching. Ask for help. And in the meantime, try to take some proactive steps to maintain health
(both mental and physical
): plan something special for your off days, like a museum or zoo visit; set some short- and long-term goals that surround your happiness and feeling of well-being, not just fitness or weight goals; and set some limits when you are injured, some bottom lines that you agree not to cross if you're in pain.
The most important things are your health and happiness. Exercise should enhance those; when it starts to interfere instead, it's time to address your relationship to exercise. Don't put it off. You don't want to lose your love of sport and fitness in the process.
Thanks for writing and putting yourself out there. You can tackle this issue just as well as you have met the challenges of your sports life! Good luck and keep in touch.
Rene
P.S. Speaking of keeping in touch, I haven't been doing so lately... Here's a 3-second update
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...Taking a swimming class, taking a yoga class, joined a track club, signed up for a local 5K, planning for a February half-marathon--ack! 13 miles...it's already terrifying me.
cbirchrun - 2007-09-17 12:12 AM
Hey all.... I actually made the half marathon... what a surprise! finished it in 2:05:00 and change. Race report coming soon. But I have another issue I need some friendly advice on....
Sooooo.... my dad's been nagging me a long time about this, and now my roommate's are, I suppose, picking up on it.... I've noticed that when I talk about my lack of exercise or exercise in relation to food, my roommates and boyfriend (best friends of mine) get really short and irritable. One of them has outright told me I have exercise addiction, and I'm wondering if she's right. Every "rest" day is very, very hard for me to justify. More than once a week seems like excessive rest to me. And my confidence and, maybe better said, self worth is definitely harder to maintain on days I don't exercise. And I probably spend just as much, if not more, time exercising than I do studying and going to class combined. Sleep fits in the middle. I think I've noticed exercise and training being more and more mandatory the last year or so, but I don't really know what to do about it-- certainly not decrease my exercise because that would just make me feel disgusting (see what I mean?). I don't get it... if I"m addicted to exercise, wouldn't I be much fitter than I am? I'm 5'9 and 148lbs... quite healthy, definitely with extra padding on my hips, thighs, and stomach.
Any one else have feelings like this sometimes? Know anyone who does the same thing? The fact that it's starting to affect my relationships is what is worrying.
Thanks. Love.