The position of power and flirting. (Page 2)

but in my case i dont ask for a number (i ask, even though its on their order form, BC just taking it is CREEPY without asking), untill tthe job is done, and they have paid. at that point i have no power over them, their job is done, they have paid; all they have to do is walk out the door.

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BettyLou - I totally see people like you coming and go out of my way to provide crappy service. It's actually kinda fun to watch women demean themselves like this and watch them crumble. It never works with me.

Sorry to inform you Bettylou, but this is the type of attitude and action that reinforces gender stereotypes and makes the workplace so crappy.

Regarding the topic - you ought to be careful. If you put your customers in an uncomfortable position, you are ruining your client base. As the manager, maintaining and increasing your clienelle should be first and foremost in your mind with every customer. As has been said before, you are also setting the tone with your employees that it is okay to hit on customers. Your customers are there for service, not dating. Hey, if your service is that good, maybe a girl will ask YOU out.

Edited by D.Z. 2006-03-14 7:42 PM

Go for it !!!! You might find the women of your dreams this way!!!

Oh! I'm not *that* woman. I know that woman and I don't like her either! There is a difference between being flirtatious and being charming. And there's a reason why they say, "Works like a charm....."

Well, what you're doing is using your sexuality to your advantage, right? You're just swapping words in or out to justify the principle, no? Looks like splitting hairs to me.

I have been very careful in my business career to maintain professionalism and go out of my way to be sure that my actions can not be misinterpreted as flirting. I started at a company in my 20s where many of the men that I worked with had daughters older than me, so I REALLY had to work hard to be taken seriously.

However, that being said, I am a woman, yes, and that can be an advantage at times. A smile, a flutter of lashes, and a reinforcement of someone else's intelligence (can you tell me how to do this, please?) works quite well in many situations. I don't lean over and show cleavage. I don't hike my skirt up. I don't touch anyone. I don't lick my lips or play with my hair or make suggestive remarks. I just smile and ask for a favor.... And it seems to work.

It's a skill, and I'm good at it!

I have worked in corporate america (finance and marketing), full time church ministry and now run a faith based non profit (and yes the flirting is just as bad at the church environment...don't get me started) and I am around donors and married men all the time and have learned a lot in the last 16 years...you really need to be careful...bottom line...some things I have learned the hard way trust me and things I thought were 'innocent' friendly behavior were not perceived that way always. Flirting is fun and can go both ways...I think you need to really guage your audience...what I can get away with some I would never consider with others...and then the real test...would I say/do this in front of their wife? or if the guy is single...would I do this in front of a board member? See flirting off hours is one thing, on the 'job' is different and today frankly you never know the mindset of a customer, the day their having...stalkers can come in all forms or people just looking to sue..
soooo there is friendly flirting and there is crossing the line...and frankly my job in my town is so visable....you never know who may be watching...I have been places and wanted to 'have a little fun and flirt ' thinking no one I knew was around and poof, in a few minutes someone will come up and say "aren't you ..... I think you spoke at my church last week'....yeah...real reality check!