Do I just need a push? (Page 2)

It's much easier to get them on the phone than you might think.

I'm leaving this one alone. I have plenty of friends; I don't need an old-flame-who-I-find-attractive-married-friend.

This type of research, while informative, is a snap shot - he could have bought his mother a house, who knows - Man-up Renee, call the guy. Ask him about his family life - be honest about what you have felt and are thinking "I really appreciated our time together, etc..." Why not? You probably won't see him for another 20 years. Why is it embarrassing to let someone know you are interested in them, even if the timing is not right? I take it as a complement, whether I'm interested or not. In my experience, perception is reality - if you think you should be embarrassed, you will be - if HE thinks you feel embarrassed, he will be embarrassed for you.

Don't be a wuss.

The records list the woman as his WIFE. You can actually see the recorded deeds online and the deeds in Florida list the marital status of grantees/grantors on the deeds. She is his wife; no mystery there.

If there was no record of his wife, I'd call him. I'm sure he remembers how forward I was with him 20 years ago; it wouldn't surprise him in the least to hear from me if I called. Alas... he's not available! End of story.

I'm not big on the "everything happens for a reason" philosophy but I am receptive to the idea that people move in and out of your life for a reason. His reason for being there Saturday morning was to give me a smiling, breathing reminder that I know how to pick good guys with whom I don't have to hold back. That's the lesson du jour.

Damn.

What's the date on the deed? Once a wife, not always always a wife. 

2002

AHHHH!!!! This is a sign.

He grew up in North Carolina and that's my destination this year.

What kind of sign? He could be divorced or divorcing by now and she still be on the house...

Let what go from there?

He's married. End of story.

Just saying that they could be split. I was on our house for a while after the divorce was final b/c of financing and the settlement.

Anyway, chances are slim though.

Nothing good could come of anticipating a relationship with the HOPE that the other person has dumped his wife. I don't wish divorce on anybody; it's like losing a lung.

Bad karma, bad mojo.

I'm a Child of Light, not darkness.

Seems maybe you should be having this "end of story" conversation with yourself, miss North Carolina.

You misinterpret the meaning of the sign. The sign is that good men are born and bred in North Carolina, my destination!

Oh, ok. I was confused by what you meant also.

I wasn't saying to wish divorce upon him but you never know the situation. Anyway, its over I understand your reasoning.

hee hee.  I have a best friend who can find anything on anyone on the net and she's taught me a few tricks.  

For example, her stepson confronted her about some stuff his mom said about her (bad but lies).  She told him "you can check out my this, and that, and whatnot on the internet.  It's all public information".   

But...  I only look stuff up to on a need to know basis.