Subject: RE: my twitterpationtyrant - 2006-03-28 3:11 AM One of the (to me) most true statements I have heard is “sex will ruin a good relationship, and it will prolong a bad one.” Makes me think… Yes, but keep something in mind. You cannot and should not be constantly second guessing yourself in any relationship.....you should be free to make decisions based on mutual consent and agreement (which this was). You should not have some kind of pre-conceived restrictions based only on how this action is going to potentially affect the relationship. In other words.....say you get all twitterpated with the next girl - which you will - and say she has indicated clearly that she's totally into you and ready for the physical and you are also totally into her and ready for the physical. Don't let some little voice in the back of your head say......."whoa there buddy, look what happened last time you rushed to the sack - this could be disaster for this relationship". That is more work than this is supposed to be. You simply must give yourself permission to be yourself, and be open and honest, and respond freely to someone you believe is being open and honest in their response to you. If you have learned NOTHING on this forum, you have seen that there are as many ways to have a perfectly wonderful, long term relationship as there are people having them. From people who have slept together the night they met all the way to people who have waited until marriage and everything in between. JUST AS, there are people who have done the exact same things only to meet with disaster. There is no such thing as a right way or a wrong way - there is only YOUR way. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt, but it's a long life and you're a nice, romantic guy, so it's probably not the last time it will happen. The good news for you is, I bet anything you end up happy in love. |