TAN #160: Just farTAN' around as usual ... (Page 22)

Cool!! but you didn't answer my question

Yes. Very much yes.

So you are less and more annoyed?

BF got an awesome offer in Tucson. Sweet government job, good salary, some actual job security - all rarities in the field of social work! So, if/when he accepts, I'm going to look for a job out there, too. My current company has a branch out there, so I'll try to do it from within my current company first.

yes, yes you are.

I already told Teej that someone is moving by her

Alright TAN guys I have a question for you.

Where do guys draw the line between treating an SO well and being a puzzywhipped beotch?

Hi TAN. 

Complete choatic night, you can never go wrong with a girls night in Chicago.......oh wound up hanging out with Lenny Kravitz.  Pics to prove it.

Thats all

Thanks for the heads up. 

I was really concerned with where you'd sign, but I think you can do great things there.

love me some Kravitz, no pics in TAN but you can surely find another place in here to post them!!!

Depends more on how the SO treats the person. A guy can act kind and helpful to a woman to accepts him and respects him and it's treating her well but if the SO walks over him and has no respect then he is a puzzywhipped beotch.  I speak from experience as a former puzzywipped beotch.

Suddenly I think I may need to take a trip to chicago in the near future.... OK well at least this summer when it isn't freakin cold!

That is what I am trying to figure out really.  I know he lets her do things I would never consider doing to my SO things that I think are wrong and some are flat out despicable but he just takes it and does what she wants.  But just because i think it is wrong doesn't mean other people do.

Most likely freak out she seems to thrive on drama when she isn't getting her way.  Slamming doors and I won't talk to you and you don't love me sort of crap.  She reached in his pocket and took his cell phone, when he took it back she went off like a rocket.  I mean you reach in my pocket and take anything you will be lucky if you don't pull back a stump, you want something you ask.

But what if what she wants is for you to give up being who you are so you can be who she wants you to be?

Sounds like she does not respect him.  Controlling people seem to gravitate towards nice codependent people because a codependent person will give more then they expect in return.