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| Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) Aikidoman - 2008-07-25 3:16 PM Scout7 - 2008-07-25 12:13 PM jdwright56 - 2008-07-25 2:59 PM I know it's irrational, I'm just sayin'. Hey, I'm right there with you. I know what it's like, because I deal with it, too. I ran track and XC in HS. So it can bother me that I can't go out and put down a 5K time like I did back then, especially since I was doing less miles. I'm starting to get less bothered by it, but yeah, it's still there. Maybe it's different for me. I'm not doing anything that I did in the past, so I think I can ONLY get better... Keeps me happy.... But I understand. If I went back to basketball, high jump, or volleyball, I could get a little disapointed that I can't fly as high as I did as a younger lad... But for tri, the sky is the limit so far, and all I do is improve. Maybe when I stop, I'll start something else.... Life is cool that way.... Lots to do. Well, I run primarily because I enjoy it. Maybe someday I'll get over my complete lack of enjoyment for swimming. But I doubt it. |
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Pro 4456    Eureka, Ca | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) ok off to the salt mines and no internet at work... reason #23 to buy an iphone....
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Melon Presser 52116 | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) Scout7 - 2008-07-25 1:19 PM Maybe someday I'll get over my complete lack of enjoyment for swimming. But I doubt it. You cuh-LEARLY need a lesson with me. |
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| Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) TriAya - 2008-07-25 3:26 PM Scout7 - 2008-07-25 1:19 PM Maybe someday I'll get over my complete lack of enjoyment for swimming. But I doubt it. You cuh-LEARLY need a lesson with me. I'd like to hear this plan. |
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Champion 5868 Urbandale, IA | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) Spokes - 2008-07-25 2:18 PM Now that - is irrational. Dude - take it from a step-father. There is no replacement for you unless you wish to be replaced. It is as simple as that - no argument. My daughters love me a lot, but given the choice, they would choose their father. I don't have an issue with that. That is the way that it should be. All that your ex will do by trying to come between them and you is build resentment in them towards her. You may not see it while they are young, but you will eventually see it. Kids are not stupid and they are fiercely loyal. Your kids love you, there is nothing that their mother can do about it. The only person that can change that is you, so don't. Show them love and caring as much as you possibly can and they will continue to think that you are the greatest man that walks the face of the earth. No argument, no exception, no discussion. It is the truth. Any fear otherwise by you, is exactly that, by you. Oh, I'm not so worried about my relationship with them... the recent visit, it was very clear that they miss me and that "I'm their Dad". I lost count of the number of times my daughter, in particular, came up, threw her arms around me, and said "You're my favorite Daddy. I love you and miss you so much." My son also did that - not as much, he's a boy, and doesn't show as much emotion as she does. I just worry that she'll hardwire them with unrealistic expectations. I do find it odd that she doesn't involve them much in her relationship with the BF... but he basically visits her for one reason only, and you don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure out what *that* is... I mean, they live 1,000 miles apart, they've been a couple for over two years, and its still pretty much a fantasy relationship IMHO - you don't get to know who a person *really* is until you've lived with them 24/7/365 for a while. And that's my point, Scott. Your kids couldn't give a rat's patootie (I just wanted to type patootie) who the better triathlete is. In their eyes - you are. Good example. I was a way superior baseball player to my daughters Dad. We played in the same state in the same years. We knew each other from ball and I took him yard several times. He went to college to play ball (Austin Peay) and I went to The Marine Corps. While in the Corps, I plyed league ball and when I got out I got invited to a camp. Played for three months in the Rookie League unti I completely shredded my shoulder and had to "retire". There is no doubt in anyone's mind that knows baseball who the better player was. Now, the girls play softball. If they have a question about anything softball, who do you think they go to? Even if he gives them bad advice (he is not a good hitter or good hitting instructor) they will listen to him before they listen to me. Why? Because he is their Dad and your Dad knows everything until you are about 16, when, all of the sudden, your parents know absolutely nothing. I think your ex knows that it bothers you when she compares you to this other guy and thaat is why shee does it - to get at you. Like 'kido says, don't give her that power. the best thing you can do to get at her is to act like it doesn't bother you, that she is inconsequential. She loses all of her power over you and you are free of her in the meantime. you win twice. |
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| Champion 5868 Urbandale, IA | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) I need to find a swim coach that teaches TI. The nearest clinics are in Minneapolis and they are about $500 for a weekend. paaahleeeeassse |
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Pro 3894 Austin, Tejas | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) Hey there TAN! |
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| Pro 3894 Austin, Tejas | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) jdwright56 - 2008-07-25 2:39 PM ATXtri - 2008-07-25 2:37 PM Hey there TAN! sup Tex? NOt much, JD. Big plans for the weekend? |
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| Champion 5868 Urbandale, IA | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) ATXtri - 2008-07-25 2:40 PM jdwright56 - 2008-07-25 2:39 PM NOt much, JD. Big plans for the weekend? ATXtri - 2008-07-25 2:37 PM Hey there TAN! sup Tex? Not really - kids go to their father's on Sunday for a week - so maybe some upcoming Brown Chicken Brown Cow in unexpected places - but nothing else really. |
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| Pro 3894 Austin, Tejas | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) jdwright56 - 2008-07-25 2:41 PM ATXtri - 2008-07-25 2:40 PM jdwright56 - 2008-07-25 2:39 PM NOt much, JD. Big plans for the weekend? ATXtri - 2008-07-25 2:37 PM Hey there TAN! sup Tex? Not really - kids go to their father's on Sunday for a week - so maybe some upcoming Brown Chicken Brown Cow in unexpected places - but nothing else really. LOVE IT |
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| Pro 3894 Austin, Tejas | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) Rynamite - 2008-07-25 2:42 PM ATXtri - 2008-07-25 3:41 PM Rynamite - 2008-07-25 2:41 PM Hey Pooks. Hi Schnookums. What's shakin?Gettin' fired up for the weekend. U? SAME brown chicken brown cow... heh |
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| Melon Presser 52116 | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) ATXtri - 2008-07-25 1:37 PM Hey there TAN! Hola, Tejas! When are you gonna change your siggie to Reasons to do the IM? |
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| Pro 3894 Austin, Tejas | Subject: RE: TANgents welcome (#36) TriAya - 2008-07-25 2:43 PM ATXtri - 2008-07-25 1:37 PM Hey there TAN! Hola, Tejas! When are you gonna change your siggie to Reasons to do the IM? Good thinking. Although, i'm not 100% sure why anyone would want to do an IM. Guess, I'm in for one hellish year! |
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