tcovert's Winter 2009 Mentor Group - FULL (Page 3)

Race schedule for year:-

Here is what I have scheduled through April:

Aloha

sorry to hear you are having probs but fingers crossed it will work out shortly.

I had a friend with a similar spouse challange. He got round it by pointing out that triathlon kept him looking good for longer and meant he could keep going longer. Sorry to be male and bring it all back to SEX, but it helped him.

On a more practicle note I guess you just got to keep communicating with him and include him in your planning process. It might help if he feels included. You know how jealous us men get.

Paul xx

Susie, does your husband work out too?  I was having issues with my boyfriend due to all of the time constraints that I am under (all of my free time is spent at the gym, outside running/cycling, or in front of my computer studying since I am working on my masters).  One thing that I started doing that seemed to work was incorporating him into my workouts (that sounds a little funny).  For instance, I want to run tonight but he was talking about wanting to go out to dinner and then doing something afterwards.  Well this morning I proposed that we go to the gym together and then continue on with our plans.  That way I get my run in (he usually lifts weights or whatever) and then we get to spend time together. 

He is not into running/triathlons/etc and I find that I have to constantly explain that yes, I do need to work out in the morning and yes, I do need to work out at night - but taking him with me and letting him see what it is that I do has definitely helped him understand how much time is needed.

Well it's cold an wet here today so I am going to get the bike out of the shed and get it set up in the front room. (After clearing a space in the mountain of presents. - Surely Santa could organise storage a bit better. I mean honestly - he must have some logistics staff somewhere.)

I'll try an early morning walk Sat and get back on the bike Sat and Sun.

Also this weekend:-

I will get a plan put together and get it in the log.

I will sort out which weight challange I'm going to join in with.

I will get weighed.

Hope you all meet this weekends goals and you are all ready for the holiday season. - Paul

You can't do that! I wanna know. I WANNA KNOW!..... (mmmmmm wonders - how do you keep an idiot in suspense? mmmmm) LOL

I hate to be stupid but what's a team code? What is it for?  Sorry. 

Kathy does to the gym about half the time and walks the tread milll, but the gym is the first thing she drops when things get busy.  Her attitude about my time is that the more time I spend to be healthy, the more time we'll have.  She is 57 and she is taking a mature long view.  Not easy for the young to see that life is fragile.  But there are other sale points, like staying healthy to raise kids, etc.   I wish I could tell you how to convince someone who is supposed to love us to being more open about accepting our needs.  I think their responsibility is accepting us for who we are.  Ours is to do everything we can to make the time we spend together more precious.     

It's a male thing - what can you do with us? As they say suck it up and keep on in there even if he does go off way ahead. One day you will be able to leave him in the dust.

When that happens; remember what it felt like and wait for him. Better still do what I did get a tandam for riding with spouse and you can each put in as much energy as you wish. Great for team work and communication. - Paul

You put that so much better than me - excellent job!

Team code is the computer geeks way of copying the team links that you so well designed and displayed into you log Goals if you want some quick links. For us mortals just highlite - copy and paste. It works just as well. - Paul

Susie,

Hang in there with the hubby ... crappy situation, but I promise it will get better with time.  No other way to describe it.

As for me I tend to get very irritable when I'm not active, and guess who is the outlet of that? Yup, the wife.  She LOVES that I'm doing triathlon because I'm way more mellow around her.  Actually, our relationship has really gotten stronger in the past year because of it.  My only advice is to make sure that your family stuff and/or husband time are the priority, and that you need to bend your workout schedule around that.  Not always easy, but I bet you find a way to get into a groove.  Maybe sandwich some errands around your workouts?  I do the grocery shopping at night on my way home from the gym, giving my wife a good 90 minutes to herself to catch up on Y&R and The Hills

This weekend?  2000 meters in the pool tomorrow, move furniture into the garage for having our floors re-done after a recent flooded toilet (courtesy of 2 year old and paper towels in the upstairs toilet), and then the kickoff for the college football bowl season, featuring my alma mater and second wife, the University of Arizona Wildcats as they take on BYU in the Las Vegas Bowl at 5:00pm PST.  First bowl game for us in a miserable 10 years!  As much as I love my family, they will cease to exist at 5:00pm tomorrow evening unless they are watching the game with me  

Sunday is a long ride of about 40 to 50 miles (I don't follow pro football, thankfully!), and then we take our 5 year old to The Nutcracker in the evening, followed by a nice dinner.  Time for her to experience a grownup night out without her little brother. 

Poster Nutbag - 2008-12-19 8:24 PM Here you go, group ... something to make your palms sweat !

Don't want to worry you but ITU considering this for water entry in next olympics.