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find a job where you are and find some of those friends to room with and wella...you get to stay where you are...no living by the parents and their rules and you get your freedom, a job and to stay with your friends. My dd never came home after college....she did not find a great job right off the bat, but was able to maintain enough to pay her bills....then after some real searching she found her job at active.com. She loves it there, makes good money and now has her own apartment a block from the beach

what is your major? and do you have any bites for work anywhere? not sure how big your college town is to your home town, but good luck!!! Hope that this was helpful!  

Thanks everyone!  The hardest battle is trying to remember to make the decision for me.  I love my parents to death and sometimes make choices on making everyone happy.  My mom will take any news that I am not doing what she had hoped hard which makes everything else hard.  sigh... growing up is hard! 

life is short, Pam...and as much as I would like to avoid conflict, you have to realize that you are living your life, not your moms...and you have to do it for yourself, not your mom or dad..or to please anyone. If you find a good job and you have some nice friends to live with...how can she be upset!? she should be happy....I have to admit that since Steph was my only child...I had the empty nest symdrone....When we dropped her off at her dorm that first year, we took  her to dinner with her new roommate and then just as we were about to drive away, I could feel the river getting ready to gush! Luckily we were able to get down the road...when I just burst into tears....I truly felt as though I had lost my best friend and now what was I going to do with all this time!?!? so, when it was time to graduate...I was sooooo excited for her to come home....she never did! I was a bit sad at first, but I after hearing who she was going to live with and that she had found a full time job right around the corner....I actually got excited for her! I do wish she was closer....but I also know that she would not be half as happy up here as where she is! and I want her to be happy! as, I am sure your mom wants you to be....just break it to her softly and make sure you have a job and place to live lined up...

...summer is around the corner and hopefully your college town has reason to hire summer help....so get on craigslist or pull out your paper and start searching for that job today.....or like Dee said there is always grad school!!  GOOD LUCK!!!

Hey Pam,

I'll jump in with from a man's perspective. It sounds like you love your family dearly which is a great thing. But if you move back home you'll still be their little girl. Now is the time for you to develop what they started and become your own person.

Another thing I learned is to not make my decisions based on where my friends are. Friends move. Friendships change. You'll find friends no matter where you go. While that may be a factor, it should be a very small one. 

Just a quick Stef update. I had to make a hard decision yesterday and restrict Stephanie's driving. She's very tired and making some mental errors that aren't characteristic of her. She's had 3 accidents in the past 45 days - thankfully all minor and only one involving another vehicle. But now attorneys are involved in that deal, so I may be dealing with that for a while. After a long conversation with a doctor friend of mine, he told me he thought this would be best. He described it like early stage Alzheimers - the person looks pretty good to most people in passing, but when you spend time with them you see things that just aren't right. I also called one of her close friends to see if it was just me, and she even said (without me asking about the driving) that she was concerned about Stef driving.

Stef understands and even agrees, but is very upset by this. Hopefully, she will get better after the brain radiation is done. Right now, between the radiation and the narcotics they have her on to control headaches, anything could be causing her problems.  We are afraid thought that this is the beginning of a dreadful slide.

I'm getting some exercise in. My son and I have been getting up in the mornings, which has been good for us both. Tomorrow is my cardiologist tests, so we'l see what comes of that.

Talk to you later,

Greg 

Greg,
Sounds like a very tough thing to have to do, but I'm sure that she realizes it was time too.  When I went thru chemo, I definitely had chemo brain.  I had a very linear train of thought, disrupt me from what I was doing and it might be a month before I'd pick up that project again.  We're all thinking good thoughts for you guys, and about your cardiologist visit.

I'm off in the morning for my semi-annual test results.  I've been stressing about this test for the past month or so. The crazy thing is that all of that went away during my HIM.  It just didn't seem to matter.  I've also been very calm about the whole thing since I walked out of the hospital after finishing the test last Thu.  I actually went straight to masters and put in probably my longest swim ever--4100 yds.  I'll be sure and let you guys know what I hear.

Hope everyone's week is going well.

ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL my love to Stef! and I think you made the right decision on the driving thing...we are talking about Houston, too! good luck with the cardiology tests tomorrow...will be sending the healthy thoughts your way!! hang in there. buddy!!...no slide talking!! ya hear! keep that chin up! YOU ARE SUCH AN INSPIRATION TO ME! whenever I get down and think that I have a problem I think of all that you are going thru and think...what...this is not a problem...it is a tiny issue that I will deal with! so thanks Greg....for well...being GREG!!!! Give Stef a BIG slobbery kiss for me, will ya! and send her my love! not a day goes by that I do not think of her!!

Back from my visit to the hematologist and all is well.....Another 6 mos until I have the priveledge of going thru the stress and testing again!

That is good to hear Eric!!  

Greg, I am amazed by your strength to do what is hard but probably best.

I'm done with one test and have one more to go today... this crazy college thing is almost over! 

good luck Pam - congrats on almost being done! GO GET EM!

congrats on your doctor visit, but your stress is not done until this fat lady sings...and I sure aint a singing!  

seriously...great news! hope you feel better and kick whatever is ailing you!

Fantastic news!! Time to par-tay...um, I mean wurk-out!! ;-) 

hey Greg, how ya doin? and how is Stef?

ok, now my dd is all set up with an avatar and all...and she is actually responding to messages now....so go and say hi! her user name is rowertrying2tri I hope you will add her to your friends lists and check in on her on occasion! thanks all!

obtw...my brother sounded so much better today! he is in a lot of pain, but is happy about the outcome! looks as though it was a non cancerous mass....he had what is called diverticulosis. we will let Eric explain it! you go mr. medic!  thanks to all of you for your prayers! I truly appreciate each and every one of you!

We had a good day today. Stef's spirits were back up. Went to our 4th graders choir concert. I don't have any definitive results on my testing yet, but the tech told me things looked very good and she didn't see any regurgitation of my valves - that is an improvement over previous tests and can only be attributed to triathlon training. the stress test computer predicts what I should be able to handle. The tech bumped everything up a level because of my training and I was still nailing the tests. For one of them I asked him how high other patients had been able to get a breathing capacity measurement. He said no one he had seen had ever gone as high as me. I always knew I was full of hot air!! ;-)

 As soon as I get permission I have a great pic of stef and my boys to post. they both shaved their heads for her. she's not ready for any pic to be posted, so I'll definitely honor that. she looks really good though.

Thanks for the support all!! 

today is a busy day for me....so here is your inspire! hope everyone has a great Friday!

Thanks Pam for stopping by to say hi to my daughter....she is finally got an avatar and is now actually responding to messages, so go by and say hi! if you can!

HAVE A GREAT DAY ALL! and a FABULOUS WEEKEND TOO!

OBTW...my brother had a good day yesterday and he even had a few BTers who went to visit him at the hospital....they gave me a fabulous report! thanks for all your prayers! you are the best!

go get em Eric....you will do great! have a fun race....look forward to your race report!

Hi Pam...no not really...got to clean, cuz my dad is coming to stay a few days with us next week....so, trying to get ready for him....plus I can barely move now....it is sooooooo durn hot here and our house does not have air conditioning...it says it is 86 degrees inside...and that is cooking for me! I am used to the outside weather being in the mid 70's not upper 90's....what about you? I saw that you said you are packing...are you heading home? or did you find a job?