Thread about N9thing: 99 pages of Naught on the Wall (Page 72)

Ouch!

I actually got caught doing that.  Needless to say I wasn't giving her rides to school anymore after that. 

Meeting the parents is the worst. I feel like I might as well be holding a sign that says "I'm boinking (or trying to) your daughter"

So far I have a good track record with parents.. but it's still rough.

LOL. Yeah, I remember that being your age.

In your mid-40s, they'd be more shocked if you WEREN'T boinking.

As the father of a small boy and girl (7 and 5) I'm always a little puzzled - and perhaps this because I have a child of each sex - that there appears to be a double standard when it comes to girls vs. boys when they become old enough to be sexually active. It is somehow not as "OK" for girls to be involved as it is boys - probably somewhat due to the fact that girls can get pregnant, and boys can't - but girls can be just as sexually aggressive as a boy in a relationship.

As a parent,  you eventually need to accept that your children - especially once they're legal adults - are going to have sex, and probably have sex with people you don't personally approve of. By the time they're having sex, you've already done everything you CAN do as a parent to make sure they're making good choices. (shrug). 

I only have one piece of advice, somewhat colored by 2 divorces (hey, I don't seem to have a problem FINDING relationships, its staying in them that's the trick):

Don't get married before 30. Don't.

That gives you plenty of time to pop out 2 grandbabies.

I only have one piece of advice, somewhat colored by 2 divorces (hey, I don't seem to have a problem FINDING relationships, its staying in them that's the trick):

Don't get married before 30. Don't.

That gives you plenty of time to pop out 2 grandbabies.

Of course you have, it's easy being the girl. My mom is always like "awwww, she's so cute..."

Of course you have, it's easy being the girl. My mom is always like "awwww, she's so cute..."

I can understand that. But part of your job as a parent is to equip her with the knowledge and fortitude to deal with that kind of situation in a manner that protects her interests and yet doesn't restrict her freedom of choice without setting off those 'queasy parent feelings'.

The best thing you can do when you have children is, taking into account that each child's personality age is a little different, in families where you have more than one child - everyone gets treated equally and fairly.

And I can tell you right now, you'll spend a lot of time feeling guilty and 2nd guessing yourself as a parent. It sucks, but its worth it when they throw their arms around you and say "I love you!" 

Exactly!! Even when you're no longer with them, they're still 'oh but she was such a nice girl!'