Polygamy? (Page 3)

Only if you choose to interpret it that way! 

Well.. I've seen a taste of this when my mother n law stays with my wife / kids/myself for long periods of time.  Not that I'm even in the smallests micro atomic particle interested in the xxx part of living with another women is who is close to 80, but its crazy having her stay with us awhile.  2x the yelling, 2x the complaining, 2x "feelings", 2x "why can't you do xyz".  With one women, my wife, at least from my point of view there is a check and balance with any issue, either she is right or she is wrong or I'm right or I'm wrong. With a third person, its 1 person right, 2 people wrong, or 2 right and 1 wrong, or 3 wrong/right.  Also, I notice with two ladies is that they tend to feed off each other emotionally....amplfy any issue...like throwing a tenis ball against a brick wall...it comes back allot faster. Now, I'm curious if a FF relationship would have the same traits...or maybe its just the male component that messes it up..maybe some internal women competition thing.  Some this is parent daughter stuff and some of this is two females under the same roof. 

Also, the majority, based on the thread survey, indicate they can't make two women happy.  Maybe that is the wrong way to look at it.. maybe it is better or easier just making one of the two women happy and let the internal women competition thing help by work things out in your favor. If the internal women competition thing is true then the one women who is happy because the other women is not.  So, from the male point of view, you would only need to make sure you keep the one who is the most unhappy, at that point in time, to a happy state.  Then wait for the other women to get unhappy because she is treated different and repeat process.  The problem will be if they both figure it out and then you got 2x a major headache.... too bad you can't jump off a cliff 2x.
Lastly, if two women were married to one male, would they be more upset collectivley for the all male stuff that we do..e.g. leaving the toliet seat up.  Or would they down play it as a quirk and not show the other women she is upset at a common person. 

Edited by chenny 2010-10-17 4:34 PM

Working at it everyday for 15 yrs.  Still a challenge but worth the effort

Hey, my man can have two women (or more)... as long as I can have two men (or more).

Turn about is fair play.

Not sure why the guy gets to have all the fun. Not on my watch.

Oh yeah, there is NO WAY that kid will get into Annapolis.

Not to mention, she didn't even want to go to public school TO get to Annapolis.

Being a guy, it bothers me they just don't call it for what it is...  (just my opininon).

They say it's a religious thing, but honestly, I just think it's an "excuse" for a guy to be banging several different women at once.

Even the show "sister wives" seems to point to that.  After 2-3 years of each new wife, he get's calling/epiphany/message from god that he needs a new wife...  I think he just get's bored.  Interesting the new wife is a younger/prettier catch...  that seems to be the trend, each new wife is younger (to the point it's illegal, as reported)

THEN, when he went on the anniversary dinner with his first wife and she asks him what he thought if he had another husband (shoe on the other foot).  And he responds that he feels sick to his stomach at the thought of her with another man and the blasphomy in god's eyes...  (I paraphrase)...

I guess I understand that guess want a haram.  I have no problem with that desire.  But to say it's god's will and they "have" to do it bothers me.  Just call it for what it is, IMO.


BTW, I thought polygomy was illegal, but they have it right on TV.  Can't they be prosocuted?  I mean, wouldn't that be like if they had a reality show of drug pushers confessing they do it and have cameras following them AS they do it?  I understand that Utah just doesn't persue it.

They can and most likely will be.  Your correct in that Utah normally ignores it but when it's shoved at them this way they are left with little choice.

Just curious and more a of techinical question, how can someone be charged with polygamy if the Law only allows being married to one person at a time. Doesn't it take a judge or court to accept the marriage license?  Just like with the same sex marriages and how the courts accept or denial their claims.  While I understand the church as aspect and how they can have rules that are different then state laws, but how does that cross over to the legal aspect of braking the law.

KSH,

"as long as I can have two men.."   2x the beer farts, 2x the scratching, 2x the socks to pick up, 2x not listening , 2x not understanding how you feel, 2x the mess (in some fasion that applies to what you define a mess), 2x the sports (good, bad, or ugly..depends on your view of this), 2x dirty underware, 2x the tools/man toys...but this maybe a good thing because they can go off and build something together and not finish the project 2x as fast.  "   2x as likely to get lost and not ask for directions....this would be great time, man1 says we go left/man2 says we go right/women says ask for directions/man1 ask for direction/man2 calls man1 whipped (with the bull whip sound) etc..

Yup...girls get to have some of the fun as well.

Edited by chenny 2010-10-18 6:55 PM

I think that is probably REALLY subjective and relative.

What they get...








What they describe... (or I envision, I forget...)

^Get Tyra Banks over to that commune pronto!  MAKEOVERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  (insert screaming female audience here)

 

When I lived in London I had two girlfriends at the same time. No conflict, because they knew of each other and this was all agreed with, but I found that splitting time between the two of them left me with zero time for myself.

In addition, after being together with my wife for about 9 years, I have zero desire to be with anyone else. She still excites me every time I see her.

Polygamy? Thanks, but no thanks.

I could be wrong, buy my understanding is that the first wife is the only "legal" (in terms of the state) marriage.  The others, are wives under there religious beliefs?  So they are married as far as they are concerned but not the states?

One wife, three live in GF's?  someone can trump me if they know more.

That just about covers it, in the case of that show.
However, in many cases, it's more like zero wives, 4+ live in girlfriends.  Married by their church, but no legal/civil certificates give by the state.

So "Sister-wife" is the Utah equivalent of California's "baby-mama"!?