Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?

Forum guidelines BT super discount
Other Resources My Cup of Joe » Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate? Rss Feed  
Moderators: k9car363, the bear, DerekL, alicefoeller Reply
2011-05-30 9:04 PM

User image

Veteran
392
100100100252525
Calgary
Subject: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?

I've been thinking on this for a few weeks now and can't come up with any ideas, so thought I'd throw it out to the wealth of wisdom that is CoJ ...

I have been trying to figure what, if anything, to get my boyfriend for Father's Day. Here's the background:

We've been dating for 6 months, and the relationship has recently taken a serious turn - we're in it for the long haul. He has 2 boys from his previous marriage, ages 10 & 13. I've met them but have spent no significant time with them (yet).

The boys live with their mom full-time, but my boyfriend lives only a 10-minute drive away and spends A LOT of time with them ... I say he spends more quality time with his kids than a lot of live-in fathers. He is very dedicated to making sure they are taken care of and grow up right (and that dedication is a huge part of what makes him so very attractive to me).

I'd like to give my boyfriend something for Father's Day - to let him know I understand and appreciate how important that role is to him, and to also let him know it's important to me too. However I'm lost as for what that something might be.

Any ideas, BT? A card isn't enough, no matter how heart-felt it is ... but at the same time I don't want to spend a lot of money or make a "big deal" out of it ... for all the fathers out there - what would you like to get in a situation similar to this one? The boys love to golf and play hockey, but they have everything they need for that .. I can't buy tickets to an event for them as scheduling is an issue .... ??

Bear in mind, the boyfriend's birthday is in July and I'm planning a big spoil-fest then - I'm wanting Father's Day to be more of a symbolic gift ...

??? Help!

2011-05-30 9:24 PM
in reply to: #3524872

User image

Royal(PITA)
14270
50005000200020001001002525
West Chester, Ohio
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?
The only symbolic thing I could come up with is probably not do-able since you have only met the boys once.  I would think a nice framed photo of him with the boys on an outing would be a good gesture.....but I know you have said you just barely met the boys.
2011-05-30 9:41 PM
in reply to: #3524872

User image

Champion
4835
2000200050010010010025
Eat Cheese or Die
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?
bodhi_girl - 2011-05-30 9:04 PM
... let him know I understand and appreciate how important that role is to him, and to also let him know it's important to me too.


Just sit him down and tell him this. That would be enough for me.
2011-05-30 9:43 PM
in reply to: #3524872

User image

Elite
3972
200010005001001001001002525
Reno
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?
a card with a gift certificate or tickets to an activity that he does with the kids?   bowling, paint ball, movies kind of thing?   that acknowledges how you feel their activities  together are important and that you support them.
2011-05-31 7:41 AM
in reply to: #3524920

User image

Master
1440
100010010010010025
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?

bootygirl - 2011-05-30 10:43 PM a card with a gift certificate or tickets to an activity that he does with the kids?   bowling, paint ball, movies kind of thing?   that acknowledges how you feel their activities  together are important and that you support them.

X2 this will mean more than anything else.

2011-05-31 10:06 AM
in reply to: #3524872

User image

Pro
5011
5000
Twin Cities
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?
My boyfriend lives only a 10-minute drive away and spends A LOT of time with them ... I say he spends more quality time with his kids than a lot of live-in fathers. He is very dedicated to making sure they are taken care of and grow up right (and that dedication is a huge part of what makes him so very attractive to me).

I'd like to give my boyfriend something for Father's Day - to let him know I understand and appreciate how important that role is to him, and to also let him know it's important to me too.

Tell him all that. :-)



2011-05-31 10:44 AM
in reply to: #3525425

User image

Elite
3290
20001000100100252525
Oliver, BC, "Wine Capital of Canada"
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?
mmrocker13 - 2011-05-31 8:06 AM
My boyfriend lives only a 10-minute drive away and spends A LOT of time with them ... I say he spends more quality time with his kids than a lot of live-in fathers. He is very dedicated to making sure they are taken care of and grow up right (and that dedication is a huge part of what makes him so very attractive to me).

I'd like to give my boyfriend something for Father's Day - to let him know I understand and appreciate how important that role is to him, and to also let him know it's important to me too.

Tell him all that. :-)

I agree. Get a card and write it out. He'll appreciate it....I would.

2011-05-31 10:52 AM
in reply to: #3524872

User image

Champion
16151
50005000500010001002525
Checkin' out the podium girls
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?
Lame; Take it to Oprah! Get him a Ferrari or a Fender Telecaster. Something with real value.
2011-05-31 10:53 AM
in reply to: #3525425

Expert
1099
1000252525
Broadlands
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?
mmrocker13 - 2011-05-31 11:06 AM
My boyfriend lives only a 10-minute drive away and spends A LOT of time with them ... I say he spends more quality time with his kids than a lot of live-in fathers. He is very dedicated to making sure they are taken care of and grow up right (and that dedication is a huge part of what makes him so very attractive to me).

I'd like to give my boyfriend something for Father's Day - to let him know I understand and appreciate how important that role is to him, and to also let him know it's important to me too.

Tell him all that. :-)

Agree again, showing you see what a good father he is and that you appreciate and enjoy that about him is kind of what the day is all about.  for a gift, I like the idea of something he can do or share with his kids, but telling him outright what is quoted above is perfect IMO.

2011-05-31 12:53 PM
in reply to: #3524872

User image

Expert
1743
100050010010025
Glen Burnie, Maryland
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?

I was in a similar situation. I'm a single Dad.

 

My suggestion would be to give a card showing your support for what he's doing as a father. I found it to be very stressful to date while also spending time with my daughter. You're very careful about when to introduce a new person to the child's life. I'm assuming that's the case here since you've only met the sons one time. Knowing that the person I was with supported me and was okay with the "situation" goes a long way.

I don't think an actual gift is appropriate. A card would be great.

2011-05-31 3:57 PM
in reply to: #3524872

User image

Veteran
663
5001002525
Central Point
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?
Green fees for three at their favorite course?

2011-05-31 4:06 PM
in reply to: #3524872

User image

Expert
3126
2000100010025
Boise, ID
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?

 

New bikes all around!

 

2011-05-31 4:38 PM
in reply to: #3526158

User image

Veteran
392
100100100252525
Calgary
Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?

Thanks all - I think I'm just going to go with a card, outlining my sentiments ...

Tickets to an event are not going to work, between the boys hockey/golf soccer and both parent's schedules, it'll never happen. They already have annual memberships at one of the local golf courses ... I'd like to do a framed photo, I might have a sneaky way to get my hands on his camera and down load one ... we'll see.

Laughing

2011-05-31 10:14 PM
in reply to: #3526211

Subject: ...
This user's post has been ignored.
2011-06-02 5:31 AM
in reply to: #3524872


3

Subject: RE: Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate?
Yes, convey your feeling with warm & soft voice, that you really appreciate his role. Gift isn’t really necessary. Still if you insist a frame was good suggestion. Or you can get something small for daily use like key chain or pen that is personalized.
New Thread
Other Resources My Cup of Joe » Father's Day Help - is a gift even appropriate? Rss Feed