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 2006-02-22 4:03 PM |
Regular 65  Las Vegas, NV |  Subject: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't?So I arrive at my spinning class early last week only to find that the most attractive gal in my class is early also. As we wait for the instructor to open up the doors, we begin some small talk that carries over until the start of class...where we're from, jobs, etc. After class, we chat for 10 minutes or so outside of the gym and close with some cordial "see ya' next week" remarks. It seems obvious that she's single, but should I take that as a sign of interest? Should I ask her out? I just hesitate to ask someone out after we've been sweating profusely for an hour (and not for the reasons I'd like most). Note: she actually started the conversation with me and was the one to formally introduce herself and tell me her name. Is she just being friendly? Help!!! |
| 2006-02-22 4:06 PM in reply to: #352389 |
Master 1932   Savannah, | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? I'm guessing she's interested. Ask her out. |
| 2006-02-22 4:08 PM in reply to: #352389 |
Master 1938 La Crosse | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? Well, if you're really going to run for the office of governor in Nevada in 2030, I suggest that you not discuss your love life on the internet. Other than that; go for it. The consensus on BT seems to be socializing at the gym, as long as it is not interrupting the whole working out thing, and as long as it doesn't involve lecherous ogling, panting, or 3558, is fine. |
| 2006-02-22 4:10 PM in reply to: #352389 |
| over a barrier | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? Just look at this way, if she likes you'll be in, if not, you're now the creepy guy in spin class. The gym and work are off limits to me, I'm also a big chicken though. Maybe chat her up for another week or two and go from there. |
| 2006-02-22 4:21 PM in reply to: #352397 |
Buttercup 14334  | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? What he said. All of it. Plus: What's the worst thing that could happen? She says no. Big whup. Cowboy up and ask her out! stupidnickname - 2006-02-22 4:08 PM Well, if you're really going to run for the office of governor in Nevada in 2030, I suggest that you not discuss your love life on the internet. Other than that; go for it. The consensus on BT seems to be socializing at the gym, as long as it is not interrupting the whole working out thing, and as long as it doesn't involve lecherous ogling, panting, or 3558, is fine. |
| 2006-02-22 4:22 PM in reply to: #352389 |
| Regular 65 Las Vegas, NV | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? These are all valid points and will be considered. Unfortunately, my New Year's resolution was to be more assertive (I'm usually VERY shy when it comes to dating) and I think I'm going to have to go for the gold on this one. I agree, though, usually the gym is off limits, and work is definitely a no-no. If I have to, I'll just switch spinning nights to avoid being the creepy guy. |
| 2006-02-22 4:27 PM in reply to: #352416 |
Buttercup 14334 | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? There's nothing creepy about being asked out by a guy who you've chatted with. You're not being a creep. There are certain situations/settings where it would be creepy - a doctor's examination room, your shrink's waiting room, while she's in the john - but this is not one of those. A gym is a social setting. If she didn't want to be sociable, she wouldn't have spoken to you. |
| 2006-02-22 4:32 PM in reply to: #352397 |
Pro 4481 Reston | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? stupidnickname - 2006-02-22 5:08 PM Well, if you're really going to run for the office of governor in Nevada in 2030, I suggest that you not discuss your love life on the internet. Other than that; go for it. The consensus on BT seems to be socializing at the gym, as long as it is not interrupting the whole working out thing, and as long as it doesn't involve lecherous ogling, panting, or 3558, is fine.
I'm not sure whether to be offended. I've never been asked out at the gym, and the words "lecherous" and "ogling" aren't in my vocabulary. Hmmm... |
| 2006-02-22 4:38 PM in reply to: #352389 |
Master 1728 Pulaski TN | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? I would ask her out in a heart beat.. or maybe approach it like Hey after Spin do you wanna grab a smoothie(my gym has a smoothie bar with tables for relaxing) and if a smoothie is not a options just be up front and like they said the worst she could say is no. |
| 2006-02-22 4:38 PM in reply to: #352389 |
Queen BTich 12411 , | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? Lance Armstrong: Hey, aren't you Peter La Fleur? Peter La Fleur: Lance Armstrong! Lance Armstrong: Ya, that's me. But I'm a big fan of yours. Peter La Fleur: Really? Lance Armstrong: Ya, I've been watching the dodgeball tournament on the Ocho. ESPN 8. I just can't get enough of it. Good luck in the tournament. I'm really pulling for you against those jerks from Globo Gym. I think you better hurry up or you're gonna be late. Peter La Fleur: Uh, actually I decided to quit... Lance. Lance Armstrong: Quit? You know, once I was thinking of quitting when I was diagnosed with brain, lung and testicular cancer all at the same time. But with the love and support of my friends and family, I got back on the bike and won the Tour de France five times in a row. But I'm sure you have a good reason to quit. So what are you dying of that's keeping you from the finals? Peter La Fleur: Right now it feels a little bit like... shame. Lance Armstrong: Well, I guess if a person never quit when the going got tough, they wouldn't anything to regret for the rest of their life. Well good luck to you Peter. I'm sure this decision won't haunt you forever. |
 2006-02-22 4:45 PM in reply to: #352435 |
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| 2006-02-22 4:45 PM in reply to: #352389 |
| Pro 4481 Reston | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? can we get back to why i am a supposed exception to the rule? |
| 2006-02-22 4:55 PM in reply to: #352443 |
| Queen BTich 12411 , | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? 3558 - 2006-02-22 5:45 PM can we get back to why i am a supposed exception to the rule? Its not all about you, ya know. |
| 2006-02-22 5:02 PM in reply to: #352443 |
| Regular 100 San Antonio, TX | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? [3558 - 2006-02-22 5:45 PM can we get back to why i am a supposed exception to the rule?] Maybe the answer is in the computer. Edited by Parkerr815 2006-02-22 5:03 PM |
| 2006-02-22 5:08 PM in reply to: #352461 |
| Pro 4481 Reston | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? "They're IN the computer?"
Parkerr815 - 2006-02-22 6:02 PM [3558 - 2006-02-22 5:45 PM can we get back to why i am a supposed exception to the rule?] Maybe the answer is in the computer. |
| 2006-02-22 5:17 PM in reply to: #352389 |
| Coach 9167 Stairway to Seven | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? I'm not so sure why the gym is off limits??? Is it beacause you spend sooo much time there? The gym is a social place. If single folks want to meet other active people, it's a much better place than a bar or dance club, and your much more likely to run into someone that shares your interests! Heck, maybe she took the spin class looking for a cute guy like you. Maybe she likes shy guys. If I chatted it up with a guy after spin class, and the next time he asked me to have a smoothie with him, I'd go for it. Even less threatening is if you get a group from spin class...kind of like the group dating scene in Jr. High. You still get to chat it up, but less chance to be labled "the creepy guy". Go for it! |
| 2006-02-22 5:30 PM in reply to: #352389 |
| Regular 65 Las Vegas, NV | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? My reason for the gym usually being off-limits is two-fold: 1) Most women there are either out of my league or think they're out of my league (usually the latter because something about tight workout clothes makes women in Vegas think they are a hot commodity...sorry ladies). I guess when you pay as much for curves as the women at the gym I go to you "earned" it. 2) I've found that, of those women that don't fit into the above category (i.e. the normal ones), most of them feel unattractive after an hour of working out the bod and the last thing they want is for some guy that just spent the last half hour pumping up his biceps so he'd look big when he casually took the elliptical next to you to start hitting on them. That said, Vegas is a terribly difficult place to meet women with values that want good, hard-working men that don't have tons of money or drive fancy cars and if a chance comes up at the gym it might be my only opportunity (hence the reason I am willing to forego my rule). I could go on for hours about my thoughts on Vegas women...ick... |
| 2006-02-22 5:38 PM in reply to: #352389 |
| Expert 893 Livermore, Ca | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? After one conversation? I'm not sure, unless you're good at reading people. She could just be really freindly. But when in doubt, go for it. |
| 2006-02-22 6:00 PM in reply to: #352389 |
| Pro 4189 Pittsburgh, my heart is in Glasgow | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? I'd say go for something "casual" first. "Hey, do you want to go get coffee next week after class?" (important: Give a DEFINITE DATE!!! Nothing we hate more than "sometime". It helps us clear our schedules  . |
| 2006-02-22 8:57 PM in reply to: #352468 |
| Master 1938 La Crosse | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? 3558 - 2006-02-22 5:45 PM can we get back to why i am a supposed exception to the rule? Unh, because I couldn't think of anybody else's screen name at the time. Sorry, you're just collateral damage. Drive-by mockery. Shotgun slam. Next time I'll pick on tyrant like everyone else. 3558 - 2006-02-22 6:08 PM "They're IN the computer?"
I don't know why, but that kills me. Perhaps it's the frozen Girl Scout Thin Mints cookies and two pints of beer. The cookies are frozen, you understand, not the Girl Scouts. That would be weird. What were we talking about? |
| 2006-02-22 9:17 PM in reply to: #352389 |
| Champion 8903 | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? Yeah, ask her out. What difference does it make if you're the creepy guy at the gym, the creepy guy at Burger King, the creepy guy at your next triathlon. Hey at least you got a rep...better to be known for something creepy than to be not known at all. You could be known for wearing skirts and high heels. Not that it's a bad thing.
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| 2006-02-22 9:27 PM in reply to: #352389 |
| over a barrier | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? Thats a good point, at least she'll notice you going forward!!!! Signed, Creepy guy in ab class |
| 2006-02-22 9:33 PM in reply to: #352622 |
| Pro 4481 Reston | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? stupidnickname - 2006-02-22 9:57 PM Sorry, you're just collateral damage. Drive-by mockery. Shotgun slam. That's sad. I thought it was something more meaningful. |
| 2006-02-23 8:12 AM in reply to: #352389 |
| Master 1573 Red Sox Nation | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? My two-cents. I'm single. A few weeks ago I was on the treadmill and the guy next to me started chatting. IMHO, he was cute. Turns out, he was just down on vacation, staying at him parents home. Still, I wish he'd suggested getting together for drinks. The good news is, she doesn't think you're creepy. You're both members. What's the harm in spinning next to each other for the next few classes, share some 'how was your week' stories and see if you have anything in common other than bike shorts? Or, if you're reading this after this morning's spin class - hope you had good luck!
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| 2006-02-23 9:13 AM in reply to: #352468 |
| Regular 100 San Antonio, TX | Subject: RE: Asking someone out at the gym...do or don't? 3558 - 2006-02-22 5:08 PM "They're IN the computer?"
Parkerr815 - 2006-02-22 6:02 PM [3558 - 2006-02-22 5:45 PM can we get back to why i am a supposed exception to the rule?] Maybe the answer is in the computer. Are you Serious? I just told you. |
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