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 2005-08-03 11:37 AM |
Veteran  164  |  Subject: Age gap between partners
I have not dated in a few years by choice mostly. I kinda let a few friends know I might start thinking about it again. So now I have had 2 guys ask me out there both way off my age one younger, one older the odd part being both by the same # of years. So what kinda age gap might still work or am I insane to even think about dating Amy |
| 2005-08-03 11:48 AM in reply to: #215079 |
Champion 5183  Wisconsin | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners prior to my partner/spouse, all of my gf's had been about 15 yrs older-- but at that time, I was in my mid 20's-- so 15 years then was a huge problem, just 2 very diff stages of life. Now, I think it would be fine. (but the love of my life happens to be 2 yrs younger, so who knows what might have happened.) I can't tell if I am supposed to vote on what I thinkSHOULD be the gap, or what I have... |
| 2005-08-03 11:49 AM in reply to: #215079 |
Elite Veteran 777 flatland | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners My GF is 16 years older than me. Some people get wierded out by it; I think those people are incredibly stupid and petty. We are partners, equals, and very, very happy together, and have been for 7 years now. What age gap "works" depends on you and the person you're dating. It can be rough, because you get a lot of people misunderstanding your relationship on an almost daily basis. We get a lot of people thinking she's my mom. Ultimately if you find somebody you're happy with, life's too short to worry about what other people think. |
| 2005-08-03 11:50 AM in reply to: #215079 |
Master 1889 Ann Arbor, MI | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners Geno is almost 5 years younger than me. Which means he does not get all my references but he is so much my opposite that we just fit really well. |
| 2005-08-03 11:56 AM in reply to: #215106 |
Master 1889 Ann Arbor, MI | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners possum - 2005-08-03 12:48 PM prior to my partner/spouse, all of my gf's had been about 15 yrs older-- but at that time, I was in my mid 20's-- so 15 years then was a huge problem, just 2 very diff stages of life. Now, I think it would be fine. (but the love of my life happens to be 2 yrs younger, so who knows what might have happened.) I can't tell if I am supposed to vote on what I thinkSHOULD be the gap, or what I have... FIFTEEN YEARS? Wow. I never had the guts to go that far out  I just never dated anyone more than three years... no, no wait there was that guy in the Cayman Islands who was 10 years older but that was a "Dive Partner" thing. Now you're a cradle robber |
| 2005-08-03 11:57 AM in reply to: #215107 |
Master 1889 Ann Arbor, MI | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners madeye - 2005-08-03 12:49 PM My GF is 16 years older than me. Some people get wierded out by it; I think those people are incredibly stupid and petty. We are partners, equals, and very, very happy together, and have been for 7 years now. What age gap "works" depends on you and the person you're dating. It can be rough, because you get a lot of people misunderstanding your relationship on an almost daily basis. We get a lot of people thinking she's my mom. Ultimately if you find somebody you're happy with, life's too short to worry about what other people think. 16 years?!!! Wow. You ladies are braver than I. I just never even looked that far out. Now, even tho I am happy, I wonder what I missed? Yea well if anyone says "boo" about it tongue kiss in front of them. That's what I say! No ones business how old or young your partner is. Even if Tom Cruise is dating someone young enough to be his daughter hehe. Edited by nliedel 2005-08-03 11:59 AM |
| 2005-08-03 11:58 AM in reply to: #215079 |
Veteran 164 | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners Sorry what is your age gap. and people already think my son is my brother. ( I was in my mid 20' when he was born and he 10 now) so between that and my career choice I make people do double takes already all the time |
| 2005-08-03 12:02 PM in reply to: #215079 |
Champion 5183 Wisconsin | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners Well, we're both gay so we are already breaking the rules.... I see a lot more age difference in my GLBT couple friends. Part of it, I think, is that if someone is 40 and just coming out, they might very well be the same"age" as a 25 yr old just coming out. And someone who is 25 but has been out for a long time might be highly exasperated by her peers who are just figuring eveything out. I'm just sayin'... |
| 2005-08-03 12:04 PM in reply to: #215079 |
Champion 5183 Wisconsin | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners OK so to clarify: my age gap is 2 1/2 yrs, but I think it totally doesn't matter. When I was dating my first question was always "do you want kids?" not "how old are you?" It was the first Q that could make me get up and pay the bill and leave if the wrong answer was given!!! |
| 2005-08-03 12:07 PM in reply to: #215127 |
Master 1889 Ann Arbor, MI | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners possum - 2005-08-03 1:02 PM Well, we're both gay so we are already breaking the rules.... I see a lot more age difference in my GLBT couple friends. Part of it, I think, is that if someone is 40 and just coming out, they might very well be the same"age" as a 25 yr old just coming out. And someone who is 25 but has been out for a long time might be highly exasperated by her peers who are just figuring eveything out. I'm just sayin'... YOU ARE? GAY??? REALLY?? LIKE A shhhh, lesbian? OH MY HECK.. sorry I could not help myself. Honestly love's love and darn rare and precious, if you find it in a purple space alien then revel in it. No one should say boo about it and I stand by the tongue kissing to shut em up. Yeah someone just out is going to have a whole set of hang ups and the zeal of the new convert etc. I have a good friend who finally came out (everyone seemed to know she was gay but her) and she went way into the extreme end of it. She was trying to start fights about her rights with people who completely supported her 100%. She finally went back to being herself after she explored the part of her identity that she had hidden all of her life. She needed that time but it was tough hanging on there for a while. Oh and I am 5 years older than my hubby of 12 years. |
| 2005-08-03 12:10 PM in reply to: #215129 |
Master 1889 Ann Arbor, MI | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners possum - 2005-08-03 1:04 PM OK so to clarify: my age gap is 2 1/2 yrs, but I think it totally doesn't matter. When I was dating my first question was always "do you want kids?" not "how old are you?" It was the first Q that could make me get up and pay the bill and leave if the wrong answer was given!!! Do you want/have kids? Personally if you want em want em bad. If you are doing it to make your spouse/partner happy then.. well get a gerbil. No one should ever have kids cause someone expects it of them. I applaud people who elect not to have them as much as I am thrilled when people who want them badly do. |
| 2005-08-03 12:12 PM in reply to: #215079 |
Elite 2777 In my bunk with new shoes and purple sweats. | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners My DW is 9yrs. 364 days younger than I. Her birthday is Friday and mine is Saturday. I'll be 51 and she will be 33....again. |
| 2005-08-03 12:20 PM in reply to: #215139 |
Expert 666 St. Thomas, ON | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners Hubby is 8½ years older than me. When we were married, he was 30, I was 21. Edited by Rennick 2005-08-03 12:21 PM |
| 2005-08-03 12:20 PM in reply to: #215139 |
Expert 666 St. Thomas, ON | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners |
| 2005-08-03 1:04 PM in reply to: #215122 |
Elite Veteran 777 flatland | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners nliedel - 2005-08-03 11:57 AM 16 years?!!! Wow. You ladies are braver than I. I just never even looked that far out. Now, even tho I am happy, I wonder what I missed? Well it's not like either myself or my partner went out hunting someone so far away from our own age. It just kinda happened. It's just that it's irrelevant to me. I grew up with few friends my own age, mostly people at least 10 years older than me, and that's who I'm more comfortable with. Most of my friends now, in fact, are a good deal older than me. But with my partner, I actually had no idea how old she was, I thought she was about 10 years younger than she actually is. Like possum said, there are important questions (are you an animal person? are you honest? trustworthy? hard working? do you like David Bowie, like Heroes-era David Bowie, and Nine Inch Nails?) but age isn't one of them. That would be like basing my relationship on skin colour...how foolish is that. |
| 2005-08-03 1:13 PM in reply to: #215224 |
Master 1889 Ann Arbor, MI | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners madeye - 2005-08-03 2:04 PM but age isn't one of them. That would be like basing my relationship on skin colour...how foolish is that. Wish everyone thought like that. |
| 2005-08-03 1:36 PM in reply to: #215079 |
Veteran 164 | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners I suck at ALL relationships. I know this and it is why I don't like to be many but I also I know I miss being close to someone. Both guys are really nice I spend well over 20 hrs with each of them at this point. niehter wants kids a good thing cuase 7 pregnacey and one child I am not going in to that heart break again. There both very active and cute. But it 13 yrs apart both of them! 13 years young makes him not very old and I worry will things change? I mean 20 is pretty young. The older one is 46 and set in his ways will he be able to flex? Working with all guys all the time I know they all have side to them and I am just confussed. niether of them has meet my son cuase i jsut don't want to bring him in to something so diffrent but I have heard maybe I should take them both to dinner with him just as friends and see what he thinks of them. I was I guess jsut hope for someone else to answer this for me I know I have to do it my self :'( Amy |
| 2005-08-03 1:53 PM in reply to: #215138 |
Champion 5183 Wisconsin | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners nliedel - 2005-08-03 11:10 AM Do you want/have kids? Personally if you want em want em bad. If you are doing it to make your spouse/partner happy then.. well get a gerbil. No one should ever have kids cause someone expects it of them. I applaud people who elect not to have them as much as I am thrilled when people who want them badly do. yes, desperately. we've been trying for awhile, but so far, nada. I am going crazy trying and wanting and hoping and waiting and seeing doc after doc after doc... my sweet partner is going to try now bc I can;t take it anymore I need a break... |
| 2005-08-03 1:55 PM in reply to: #215286 |
Master 1889 Ann Arbor, MI | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners LacrosseMomAmy - 2005-08-03 2:36 PM I suck at ALL relationships. Ahem, and with all due respect Amy. BULL!! You may suck at relationships in the past but you will not stink at all of them! I believe that. And you are talking to the queen of "suck at relationships here". Honestly the reason Gene and I work is cause he ignores me when I start doing stupid relationship stuff (once a week). Edited by nliedel 2005-08-03 2:01 PM |
| 2005-08-03 3:30 PM in reply to: #215079 |
Extreme Veteran 724 Delray Beach, FL | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners I always liked older guys. My ex was 5 years older than me. After we broke up I started going out with a group of friends younger than me. I started dating guys my age (for me that was young). I said I wouldn't date older guys, I had a young lifestyle I didn't want to change. I dated a guy 1 year younger than me.. not much but he was a home buddy. All he wanted to do was watching football (I met him the wrong season). He was such an old soul, kinda boring fellow.... Not long ago I met someone 8 years older than me. He is not only is my bike partner, he is getting me into mountain biking. This guy is full energy, you would never guess his real age... I look pretty young myself, everyone is impressed by how young I look... I guess age is just a number.... Edited by clflgrl 2005-08-03 3:35 PM |
| 2005-08-03 3:31 PM in reply to: #215302 |
Extreme Veteran 724 Delray Beach, FL | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners LacrosseMomAmy - 2005-08-03 2:36 PM I suck at ALL relationships. Wise man... LOL Edited by clflgrl 2005-08-03 3:35 PM |
| 2005-08-03 3:41 PM in reply to: #215079 |
Giver 18427 | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners My wife is 8 months older than me. I've never, ever dated (or even "dated"  a younger woman. |
| 2005-08-03 3:44 PM in reply to: #215402 |
Master 1889 Ann Arbor, MI | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners clflgrl - 2005-08-03 4:31 PM LacrosseMomAmy - 2005-08-03 2:36 PM I suck at ALL relationships. Wise man... LOL Wise and thinks I am beautiful when I come in soaked in sweat. Can't beat that with a stick. Truly I have no idea how I nabbed him cause the guys I dated before him.. well let's just say they would not support this tri habit of mine. |
| 2005-08-03 3:46 PM in reply to: #215079 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners Hmmm... I can't answer this question becuase I'm single. But I have always dated guys slightly younger than me, which is probably why it has never worked out. I'll be 29 next month, and my preferred dating range is 27-34 years old. My ideal age for a SO is 30 or 31 though. Now that I'm older nad more mature, I would like to date someone a few years older than me! |
| 2005-08-03 3:58 PM in reply to: #215421 |
Expert 1166 Colchester, CT | Subject: RE: Age gap between partners I like younger women, my wife is 76 days younger than me Chris |
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