Need Guy Advice

Tell me what this means to you:

I went to the gym last night for spin class.  After spin class hit the mats to stretch.   Out of the corner of my eye I see this guy- he’s ON FIRE!  Very chisled looking- tall, dark, and handsome. I've seen him around the gym before (he’s a manager there) and I usually see him every time I go to workout.  We’ve exchanged words and conversed before (we found out that we have mutual friends, and have exchanged numbers).  Usually it’s not a big deal to see him.   But last night was different.  I felt like there was something there.  He was wearing a blue shirt- it was the same color as my tank top.  Strange…he always wears a red work shirt.  But he definitely looks hotter in the blue shirt.

He walks by as I’m stretching and stops briefly to chat. I say “hey” and he says “hey”.  I am doing a stretch to stretch my hip flexors, sitting Indian style-like and reaching.  He then hops on the mats, gets behind me, and presses down on my back to help me stretch.  After he’s done, I look up and ask him “was that 30 seconds?”  He says, “no, it was more like 15 seconds”.  Then I say “I try to hold my stretches for at least 30 seconds”, and he says “well you better stretch some more”.  I make a cheesy comment about our shirts being the same color.  We both laugh.  He tells me that he’s working in the other room and is on a quick break.

Out of habit I look at his butt and legs as he’s walking away to go to his office.  I lost thought for at least 5 seconds. I kept picturing his butt in spandex and his legs crushing the pedals on fast red tri bike.  He's was wearing some khaki cargo type shorts- I love men in khaki cargo shorts.  I'm not normally over attracted to men who are the jock type with nice looking bodies - but I felt very attracted... 

I finished stretching and go home.  Later, my cell rings.  It’s the gym guy.  I am trying not to sound too excited and let the phone ring a few times so I don’t look like I’m anxious to answer.

Regaining focus I calmly answer the phone.  We chat briefly.  He asked me if I wanted to swim with him tomorrow morning (we have met to swim 2 other times).  We coordinate our meeting time and say goodbye.

I get to the pool this morning and he wasn’t there.  I went ahead and started my swim workout.   He comes about 30 minutes later.  As he’s standing at the side of the pool and we’re talking,

I said, “I see you’re Mr. Punctual this morning?” 

He says, “I was running late this morning.  You know how it is when you wake up early and you’re tried and try to get all your stuff together”. 

He said, “Will you forgive me for being late?  You know it’s important to forgive others?”  (this was a touch of our spirituality since we are both Christians.)

I said, “of course I forgive you.” 

He said he called me to let me know he was late, but I had let my cell in my car.  

He gets in the pool and starts swimming.  After swimming a few laps, we stop and talk. 

"Do ya’ll have massage therapists here?" I ask.  I just joined this gym a few weeks ago so I wasn’t sure.

“No we don’t”, he says.

“That’s too bad- my last gym had one- my arms are just really sore from lifting weights on Tuesday because I didn’t lift when I was out of town.  I really need to get a massage, but don’t know where I should go.  The lady I used to get massages from moved to NC and I haven’t found anyone good enough to replace her.”

He replies, “how about you give me a massage and I can give you a massage?”

I say “ok- that sounds like a plan”, with a smile and we start swimming again.

We get done swimming and he thanks me for swimming with him. 

I go into the locker room to get ready for work.  As I’m walking out of the locker room, he’s walking in the hallway.

I say “hey”, he turns around and sees me.  (He’s never seen me in normal attire- he’s only seen me in my workout clothes, with sweaty hair in a pony tail.)

He makes a whistling noise, implying that I look nice.

He says, “I see you blow dried your hair?”

I said, “Yeah- I had to blow dry it today.  If I don’t it gets wavy, and I wanted it straight today.  I’ve worn it wavy for the past few days.  For some reason my hair just started getting wavy.  I kind of like it because I have variety- I can wear it wavy, or straight.”

He says, “it’s good to have variety.”

We turn a couple of corners and are walking down a long hall.

"Well, you have a good day” I say as we near the exit.

‘"You too, he says”, and we turn and separate... I do not turn and look at his butt and legs.

 Now I've had probably a million conversations like that and never felt anything, but for some reason I felt like this was different, almost from the very beginning, but I don't know why. I re-read what I just wrote, and it's normal chit chat. So I wanted some advice from my BT friends. What was that? Luckily I already knew his name, but if not I would have been thrown off and probably wouldn’t have asked.

 What would you do? What would you expect if you are a man?  Let me just remind you that he's not a triathlete, so it's not like he needs a training partner anything.  But...he has run a 1/2 marathon and wants to run a marathon in spring.  And he's running a local 10K that's in a few weeks.

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