Question for the guys

After the first date.  Like after you've gone on the first date, say goodbye and have plans to hang out again.  Does that make sense?

Is this a trick question for the guys? If you've gone out a few times (3 or more) before you wait to kiss, how can you have kissed on the 1st or 2nd date?

Or, is going out not the same as dating?

Also, the presumption is that the burden is on the guy to give the first kiss. Why wait for the guy to give you a kiss? Or, if you don't want to give the first kiss, why not just ask him to kiss you? (that one works GREAT)

Shouldn't you pass the note to your best friend who passes the note to her best friend who passes the note to her? There's a protocol to follow in these things, ya know.

Scott- I don't kiss on the first date but maybe someone could change that, who knows?  But no really.  Even if I'm attracted to a guy, I don't like to kiss them until I know we're like a couple.  I know, I'm weird.  You can call me a prude.  I can take it.

And then of course someone reads it along they way to make you feel violated.  Don't forget that part- lol!

That works too! Kiss on the cheek at the beginning of the date.

Then, if the date is going really well, you say, "I think you should kiss me" during the date. Or, "I think you should kiss me on the neck just below my ear" works well, so I hear (don't ask). "Would you give me a kiss?" is a good one too. All so easy, yet they pack alot of punch.

During Date Kisses take all the pressure off the 'goodnight kiss' routine.

Lara's right. Hell-looo?!?!?

Come on, Lara! By high school you're giving the note directly to the boy, skipping intermediaries entirely.

Or you slip the note into his locker

Driving a car age is entirely different. Then the note reads "Would you like to neck in my car? Circle YES/NO."

Wait. It's 2005. Let me amend that to say "the IM to your cell phone reads..."

I can tell pretty quick too.  If there's attraction on the first date, I usually wait to see if it's still there.  I always know by the 2nd or 3rd date if it's there or not.  Sometimes I don't even need a date to know if I'm interested/attracted or not.

So, how do you know when you're a couple? Sounds like your kissing rules rests on whether you're a 'couple' or not.

I guess you know when you're a couple when he calls you his girlfriend, or you have "the talk??"  I dunno...To clear up some confusion, I usually give it 3 dates to know if it's someone I want to be in a relationship and if it's worth pursuing.  Does that make sense or am I just confusing everyone?