TAN #143 TANk Girl Rides Again. (Page 19)

I'm trying to stay awake too but I really didn't do much yesterday.

I did have a good talk with my kids about how their mom is talking mad crazy trash about me to them. My boy is buying into it but my girl is questioning her. Yesterday my 9 year old girl said "The stuff she says is just ridiculous"

{{MELON PRESS}} for my sad little Cordlet ...

The truth will prevail.

I saw this on my secretary's desk today.

Is it just me, or at a quick glance, does this look like something that belongs in the "Family Planning" section of the pharmacy or AdamEve catalog?

HEY!  NO PICS IN TAN!

yep, she says she wants to come live with me when she's 13. Her mom is already having a fit and telling her all the bad things that will happen if she does.

Sorry, it is hard to untrain the "Pics or GTFO" mentality.

But, it did create a little WTF moment in the office for me.

Appa, I am a big fan of not even addressing a response to that drama.

As the kids get older, they will notice the pattern of "Mom talks trash about dad. Dad talks about loving and taking care of us."

The best revenge is always good living.

That will always be my alibi.

Hey Cord,

When I was a kid, I went through a situation similar to what your kids are experiencing but with a role reversal. I was able to see the truth and so were my siblings. It may take a while, but I believe the best thing you can do is, as frustrating as it is, take the moral high ground and do what Beam described. I wish you the best, it's a really bad situation to be stuck in and horrible of her to do. It's all a power game. The kids may end up resenting her for it and she can't see that.

Other than that, Good Morning TAN.

I love my job, I love my job, I love my job. I have to remind myself of that constantly or I'll fall further into the abyss of insanity that defines any government employment. I may hate the department, but I love my job! A prescription for anti-psychotic drugs should be one of the benefits provided at no expense to any employee with an accounting degree and some some level of CDO (it's like OCD but IN CORRECT ALPHABETICAL ORDER!!)

Her coming to live with me was brought up by her later on when my son said he wouldn't want to live with me full time. My girl started talking about her plan to live me after 8th grade. My girl is the one that wants to tell me what my ex is saying and I try to defuse it. I don't talk bad about her mom (to them), or even if I think it's wrong. The worst thing I have ever said to them was that I do not agree but I left it at that. Normally it's my girl telling me, I don't respond, then she tells me how it makes her feel or what she thinks. Even when it's positive towards me I do my best to stay neutral and not say anything.

The first thing people told me when I started my divorce is never talk bad about their mom to the kids and I haven’t.

Hi TAN.  Today sucks! Have a great afternoon all.

HAHA nice

The best one as of late is that after she got married last Friday she told the kids that the sole reason I'm not married yet because no woman wants to marry me. The 2nd best one right now is how I'm a thief because I'm steeling her money by getting alimony. She told the kids I should be put in jail so they wouldn’t have to see me anymore. This is why my girl is now calling her ridiculous.

Haha, what a batch. Man, I'm sorry you have to be going through all this with her. But as I, and many others have said, it sounds like you're handling the whole thing very well, and your kids will recognize it. Maybe not now, but eventually. 

In the mean time, you can always come badmouth her here! You know we're all ears!

Cord is very cordial, all things considered, about her, and even here it behooves his gentlemanly character to remain so.

The mods also view slaughtering others by Internet unfavorably (not that Cord has ever done this).

this is why I'm not a lesbian

but I might make an exception for

Cheri chapstick

Hmmm, did better than I thought this week on the trivia. Those pictures REALLY saved me!

Thanks, as usual, Yanti

Thank YOU

it's really hard to be the cherry popper, too. Nicely done.

Wish I were ... by you. Boys of BT ... you smoked 'em there, too.

I wish you were by me, too