Why do emails from my ex still make my heart stop? (Page 2)

I really wanted to be the one that dated straight away and had a new fantastic life etc but then I realised that would all be just to make him jealous.  which wouldn't really do anything for me.

So I've worked really hard on learning to live by myself (this is the first time i've really ever been single for more then a couple of months)  It was a huge lifestyle change and I've picked up exercise and tris and alot of the things I wasn't allowed to do while we were together. 

Its really great to read all your advice and experiences I don't feel like I'm the only person in the world that this has happened too now.

The one who dates immediately after a relationship (of substance length), is the one who is not processing what happened, but instead running to find someone else for a workable co-dependence. The one who who takes the breather to review is the one who has higher priorities for happiness and love.

Why does he still affect you? We could give positive and negative takes, both can be right. Alas, what is chemistry? Is it what we were conditioned to feel is love (whether healthy or not) in childhood? Or, is it truelly the magic that makes us magnetic and resonates with our chi? Since we don't know...maybe we can say that you found elements of him that DID resonate with you, and you are still tapping into them. There is a human need to preserve that part...keep it alive. But as you and others have pointed out...to what expense? My guess is...he may be missing those same parts and he's emailing you. But like so many others here have said, it may be and sounds like the best way for you to protect yourself is to block him. That takes strength...you go girl.

I just reread what i wrote...should i be giving out vomit bags?