dumped by my girlfriend, can I move on? (Page 2)

From "Swingers". Pretty sound advice. Money, you might say.


Mike: How did you get over it? I mean, how long did it take?
Rob: Sometimes it still hurts. You know how it is, man. It's like, you wake up every day and it hurts a little bit less, and then you wake up one day and it doesn't hurt at all. And the funny thing is, is that, this is kinda wierd, but it's like, it's like you almost miss that pain.
Mike: You miss the pain?
Rob: Yeah, for the same reason that you missed her... because you lived with it for so long.

Heck yea you can move on.

Look, she is missing out on a good thing. It's her loss for being a cheating ____ (fill in the blank yourself).

She just gave you the opportunity to have an ever better life!

With that said, living a good life is the best "revenge". Sure, let yourself be upset for a few days... then move on. Dust yourself off and focus on the next amazing thing in your life.

Good luck!

Her cheating on you should just make this easier. You do not want to be with someone who would cheat on you. I'm certainly not an expert but I somewhat recently went through a horribly difficult break-up (the most painful thing I have gone through in my life, by far) and the best advice I can offer you is to cut her out of your life completely. Don't talk to her, don't check up to see how shes doing, if someone offers up info about her just say you're not interested. What she does and how she is doing is now completely irrelevant to your life and you need to start acting like it. Think about what activities make you happy and go out and start living your life.

Things are going to be horrible for a while. Spend some time on the couch letting it out and being sad, but don't let it last too long. Start filling your time as much as possible. When you have free time you just start sitting there thinking and you get stuck in your own head, it's not where you want to be. Just start doing what you love and make the most of every minute of your life.

I honestly believe the experience of going through my break-up has made me a better person and in the long-run I will have a richer and fuller life because of it.

It's actually a great thing to find out the level to which her dishonesty delved now rather than later...like after the wedding. She also just saved you time and money because I know of quite a few girls who would have gone through the show for the sake of the show (and gifts) only to call it quits right after.

Do not be duped by the whole "I still love you" after the fact bull crap. It's manipulation. She's wanting to know if she still has a hold on you just in case her present plan isn't working. Do not let her have this power. Break all contact with her. My ex-girlfriend broke up with me too after 3 years and then broke all contact with me just out of the blue after saying we'd remain friends. For whatever reason she decided to give up on friendship she really did me a favor because it made moving on SO MUCH easier. You'll still think of her from time to time and like in Swingers you really will kinda miss the pain.

Months from now when you reflect and see all the red flags, remember them for future references. Call them (Insert her name)isms.

Come out of this dark valley stronger than before. Your confidence will generate attraction.

Now get some Shiner Bock, a pizza, and watch High Fidelity but remember to sub in The Big Lebowski from time to time. Oh yeah, and listen to D'yer Mak'r over and over again while you're in the car. This will help.

She said that she still loves you!?!  She cheated on you and dumps you and has the temerity to say that.  She certainly does NOT love you.  She only said that to keep you in reserve just in case her current relationship doe not work out!  You cannot love someone who does not love back you so you are not in love with her.  Get on with your life.  Accept that she is no longer a part of your life.  Do not attempt to contact her or see her.  Do more triathlon training,  take up a musical instrument, go on a trip to a foreign country and just simply do new things and gather new thoughts and ideas.  It will hurt for awhile but eventually, you will be amazed at how little you remember of her.