Guys- what do you think??? (Page 2)

He had to have lost the number.  No reason to ask for it if he was not going to use it.  It's also possible he has just been busy over the past week.  I can't comment on the cell phone thing.  Those silly little things came about long after my single days.

Runnergirl,

Sorry for joining in this thread so late, but I feel I must comment....you seem like such a nice girl. 

As a 30-something married man I've never heard a successful "couples story" start with...I met a guy at a bar...

And, if I got the phone number of a girl I really dug, I wouldn't lose it, assuming that is the excuse.  If he didn't lose the number then he's not interested. 

Ok- so here's the update.  I went downtown Saturday night and ran into this guy.  I was drinking water, he wasn't drinking- he's always the D.D.  Neither of us had beer goggles on, nor did we have them on the first time we were introduced.

Anyhow, we chatted for a long time, he walked me to my car, told me he got my number from my friend and that he would call me so we could do something.  He called me last night and asked me if I wanted to hang out this weekend.  So...it's all good.  He actually told my friend that he wanted to see me out a few more times before he called me.  I guess seeing him for the second time was good enough for him to call me

the guy sounds kinda shady...

when i got a phone number of a girl i was grooving on, i didn't loose it, didn't drop my phone in the toilet, and DEFINATELY called.

hey, when i met my (now wife) and got her phone number....believe me I DIDN'T LOOSE IT! 

careful consideration commonly causes customarily conscious . . . er nevermind this quote...it's too soon for that.

Hey stop picking on me... its not like I do those things on purpose!!!

Runnergirl29… You don’t know me I don’t you… but I however see that you’re a Christian (basing this upon your signature) I’m a Christian and understand the pro/con’s of being a single Christian. I’m not to far removed from the arena of being single to understand how hard it is.

I understand that being alone isn’t what God intended for 99.9% of us. I will say that meeting someone in bar can work out fine…  I say that to say this. (hated when married people told me to wait and be happy)

As someone who as witnessed Christians dating outside of the church I’ve seen individuals become led away from what God wants for them. This didn’t happen over night it was a slow process… example: it first starts out that the person would drag his/her feet in regards to getting involved in church, getting to really know other people within your church, or skipping church altogether.  Next thing you know the Christian is getting true heart felt feelings toward this person and sometimes (not all) the Christian can get dragged down and fall completely away. (I have to make this short I’m at work)

In closing I want the best for all my fellow Christian brothers and sisters I don’t want them to be alone. But (oh crap) I want them to be happy and for a Christian to be happy he/she need to serve the living God.(that wasn't so bad) If a fellow Christian is married/dating to a person who doesn’t share that same zeal to serve the living God it’s hard for me to believe that my fellow Christian will be happy.

After my soapbox spill… If you were my kid sister (oh crap again)  I would tell you “sis, use the church as a safty net for dating men"… How??… serve God and He will send you your desires… Read the book of “Ruth” sometime... I hate to give you the same advice others gave me when I was alone but looking back it's the best advice.

Christianzealotweirdo

Already read/studied the book of Ruth.  Nothing you're telling me isn't something that I already know and haven't heard/learned.  I"m not talking about marrying the guy- I'm just talking about getting to know him better by spending time with him.  Just because I met him at a bar doesn't mean he's not a Christian.  I'm a very strong Christian, went the bar and drank water, talked and left early.  Granted you won't find me at a bar every weekend, it's not my choice of hang outs.  But I am not one to jude people who are at a bar- that's not my job.  I can assume but until I get to know anyone I really don't know.  I think I'm good at judging someone's character, and it's all about bearing fruit.  As far as meeting guys at church- that's a negatvie.  The guys at my church and I are on totally different wave lengths.  I'm too independent, ambitious for them- they even tell me that so I'm not just assuming.  I have very different interests than most of the guys in my church.  Not to say they're not winners- they are extreemly Godly men, but we don't have a lot in common.  Don't worry- I will not settle for someone who is not equally yoked with me and I don't get into relationships to have one.  If I learn this guy isn't what I'm looking for then no harm done.  We can just be friends which is what usually happens with all the guys I meet.

It sounds like you got a good head on your shoulders.... and I know your not looking at wedding dresses. Just wish that I would of listened to my Christian friends.

Christian people that like Chipotle rank really high in my book...

I've noticed that you like "mission trips" where have you been?

Ummm... you need to catch up on this thread for my latest update   Read the previous posts on the first page!

"Swingers" is a great flick for the rules of dating... Tht

"Swingers" is a great flick for the rules of dating... It reminds that I should have a friend at work rent it... b/c he meets chicks online, chats with them for a few days then drops the L bomb... ha ha And he is serious... he has yet to get a date.

RunnerGirl go rent "Swingers" if anything it will make you laugh and in my case (when I was single) it made me slap myself in the face.

Of course they all have to end up "just" friends -- except for the final one -- the right one that you commit to.  And while faith is a commendable basis for a relationship, there are many bad relationships of common faith, and many good ones of inter-faith, so keep it all in perspective.  Sorry.... now I'll butt back out of your life.