TAN #154: What are you TANkful for this time of year? (Page 22)

Naw, that's not the reason :P

Can I get your honest thoughts/input on something?  I may be over reacting to something. 

My Grandmother passed away yesterday afternoon (it is truly a blessing) but as I was telling my wife about the arraingments for her visitation, funeral, etc my wife asked me a question that I am still fuming about. 

The Visitation, funeral mass, burial and luncheon is all taking place on one day as my Grandmother was 86 years old and not too many friends left, etc.  As I was telling my wife all of this, she had asked me if it would be over with by 2:00pm as she has a hair appointment that day that she wanted to keep.  

Am I off base in being spun up about her question and concern about making her hair appointment? 

Can I get your honest thoughts/input on something?  I may be over reacting to something. 

My Grandmother passed away yesterday afternoon (it is truly a blessing) but as I was telling my wife about the arraingments for her visitation, funeral, etc my wife asked me a question that I am still fuming about. 

The Visitation, funeral mass, burial and luncheon is all taking place on one day as my Grandmother was 86 years old and not too many friends left, etc.  As I was telling my wife all of this, she had asked me if it would be over with by 2:00pm as she has a hair appointment that day that she wanted to keep.  

Am I off base in being spun up about her question and concern about making her hair appointment? 

Women are effing crazy!!!!  A hair appt......ridculous

My condolences, Matt.

It sounds like it is completely out of line to ask a question like that to me... but I can see it fitting into the conversation and maybe being something that just slipped out. Either way, yes, that is an inappropriate question to ask.

Not as inappropriate as something I've said at a funeral, but that's another story.

Can I get your honest thoughts/input on something?  I may be over reacting to something. 

My Grandmother passed away yesterday afternoon (it is truly a blessing) but as I was telling my wife about the arraingments for her visitation, funeral, etc my wife asked me a question that I am still fuming about. 

The Visitation, funeral mass, burial and luncheon is all taking place on one day as my Grandmother was 86 years old and not too many friends left, etc.  As I was telling my wife all of this, she had asked me if it would be over with by 2:00pm as she has a hair appointment that day that she wanted to keep.  

Am I off base in being spun up about her question and concern about making her hair appointment? 

Thanks Pete; so whats the story?  Do tell.

I would have definitely presented the question in a different way...  like "I'm assuming I'll need to clear my day for the family activities, right? I only ask because I have a 2 p.m. appointment but it's no problem to move it... unless you think everything will be done by then? Either way."

Kind of comes off as selfish to say you want to keep a HAIR appointment in lieu of a family member's services. But if everything was going to be finished anyway, I would want to keep the appointment!
 
  

It was my great aunt's best friend's funeral. Every Christmas, my aunt would have us all over, so I know them both. Not great, but well enough that I was in town on the weekend of the funeral, so I went to the visitation. Well, I saw the husband, and he said "Thank you so much for coming." I am usually pretty awkward at funerals and never know what to say, and my natural reaction response was "My pleasure." Now, he didn't make a big deal of it, probably didn't even notice... but I felt like a jackhole.

It was my great aunt's best friend's funeral. Every Christmas, my aunt would have us all over, so I know them both. Not great, but well enough that I was in town on the weekend of the funeral, so I went to the visitation. Well, I saw the husband, and he said "Thank you so much for coming." I am usually pretty awkward at funerals and never know what to say, and my natural reaction response was "My pleasure." Now, he didn't make a big deal of it, probably didn't even notice... but I felt like a jackhole.

I would have definitely presented the question in a different way...  like "I'm assuming I'll need to clear my day for the family activities, right? I only ask because I have a 2 p.m. appointment but it's no problem to move it... unless you think everything will be done by then? Either way."

Kind of comes off as selfish to say you want to keep a HAIR appointment in lieu of a family member's services. But if everything was going to be finished anyway, I would want to keep the appointment!
 
  

Being on the other end of the spectrum, ALL people are awkward at "final goodbyes" but you get better if you go to enough of them. 

Speaking of awkward......after waking my father, mother, grandma, grandpa and my childhood best friend all at the same funeral home within 2 years my sister trying to set me up with the owners son.  Not a good idea!!! 

I agree that it could have been asked in a softer manner, but nontheless it's my fricking (thats not intended to be directed at you Lisa) grandmother.  It is not a some client who died that I need to do a drive by visitation at. 

...sorry for the downer topic.  Now back to our regularly scheduled show:

Back to Lisa's poll from yesterday

Let's shake this up.
TAN MINI POLL

Colo(u)r of your undies right now:  blue boxer briefs
Best smex of your life, one detail: wild
Last outgoing text on your phone: don't ask
Your workout today: treadmill run, sadly.
Your dinner tonight: good question


 

I think Cheri put it the best. The more that I think about it, the more I 100% agree with her. Even if all of the proceedings are done in time for her to go to the appt, she should still be around, for you, if you so need her. And she should WANT to be there for you.

I think Cheri put it the best. The more that I think about it, the more I 100% agree with her. Even if all of the proceedings are done in time for her to go to the appt, she should still be around, for you, if you so need her. And she should WANT to be there for you.

There were a bunch of these yesterday... I can't tell if you are telling us not to ask what your last text was... or if that actually WAS your last text.

I like this idea. Let's keep the momentum:

Body part that turns you on: Body part? I'd say midriff/stomach. Feature? Smile
Type of sheets on your bed: Plain ol' cotton sheets.
Breakfast this morning: Bagel and cream cheese, big coffee
Type of computer you BT on: Whatever work has me set up on. BT isn't iPad friendly.