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2011-01-27 1:59 PM
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pitt83 - 2011-01-27 1:57 PM

mr2tony - 2011-01-27 2:54 PM

lisac957 - 2011-01-27 1:48 PM

FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.
 


Is that a new dance?


Why does Snoop dog carry an umbrella?

Fo' drizzle...


What does he use to get his clothes white?



2011-01-27 2:01 PM
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lisac957 - 2011-01-27 2:48 PM FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.
 


I went through this with Neil last year.  I (accidentally, was not snooping) found a text message I was not supposed to see, and he came clean with everything.  We split up for a short while, he gave me access to all of his emails, his phone when I wanted, everything.  For the first 3 months we were "trying" to work it out, but I was compulsively checking his email, his phone his whatever.  Eventually I realized either I had to stop snooping or break it off for good.  I haven't snooped once since I made that decision, and we're doing just fine. 

Not like 3 months is a magical number, but SHE has to be honest with herself, if she doesn't want to trust him, why is she trying to make it work.  It took me 3 months to forgive Neil and get to a point where I could move on.  But she's only tormenting herself, him, and probably ALL of her friends as she does this.

Not an answer for your friend, but maybe he needs to sit her down and say "if you aren't working on trusting me, this isn't working for us.  Save yourself this agony you are putting yourself through."
2011-01-27 2:02 PM
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mr2tony - 2011-01-27 2:59 PM
pitt83 - 2011-01-27 1:57 PM
mr2tony - 2011-01-27 2:54 PM
lisac957 - 2011-01-27 1:48 PM FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.
 
Is that a new dance?
Why does Snoop dog carry an umbrella? Fo' drizzle...
What does he use to get his clothes white?


blee- atch
2011-01-27 2:03 PM
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blueyedbikergirl - 2011-01-27 1:58 PM
lisac957 - 2011-01-27 1:48 PM FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.
 


I don't snoop, nor would I ever accept anyone snooping through my things. 

... 


Please define "things".
2011-01-27 2:04 PM
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Good afternoon TAN I see I have missed a lot, bummer. How is everyone
2011-01-27 2:05 PM
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meherczeg - 2011-01-27 2:01 PM
lisac957 - 2011-01-27 2:48 PM FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.
 


I went through this with Neil last year.  I (accidentally, was not snooping) found a text message I was not supposed to see, and he came clean with everything.  We split up for a short while, he gave me access to all of his emails, his phone when I wanted, everything.  For the first 3 months we were "trying" to work it out, but I was compulsively checking his email, his phone his whatever.  Eventually I realized either I had to stop snooping or break it off for good.  I haven't snooped once since I made that decision, and we're doing just fine. 

Not like 3 months is a magical number, but SHE has to be honest with herself, if she doesn't want to trust him, why is she trying to make it work.  It took me 3 months to forgive Neil and get to a point where I could move on.  But she's only tormenting herself, him, and probably ALL of her friends as she does this.

Not an answer for your friend, but maybe he needs to sit her down and say "if you aren't working on trusting me, this isn't working for us.  Save yourself this agony you are putting yourself through."


Yep, was sorry to hear about that.

2011-01-27 2:06 PM
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Isn't there a major lawsuit going on right now where a woman whose husband hacked into her email account is suing him for invasion of privacy or somesuch?
2011-01-27 2:06 PM
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1stTimeTri - 2011-01-27 3:05 PM

Yep, was sorry to hear about that.


i've not really shared the story much.  it's good to get it out sometimes.
2011-01-27 2:07 PM
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meherczeg - 2011-01-27 2:01 PM
I went through this with Neil last year.  I (accidentally, was not snooping) found a text message I was not supposed to see, and he came clean with everything.  We split up for a short while, he gave me access to all of his emails, his phone when I wanted, everything.  For the first 3 months we were "trying" to work it out, but I was compulsively checking his email, his phone his whatever.  Eventually I realized either I had to stop snooping or break it off for good.  I haven't snooped once since I made that decision, and we're doing just fine. 

Not like 3 months is a magical number, but SHE has to be honest with herself, if she doesn't want to trust him, why is she trying to make it work.  It took me 3 months to forgive Neil and get to a point where I could move on.  But she's only tormenting herself, him, and probably ALL of her friends as she does this.

Not an answer for your friend, but maybe he needs to sit her down and say "if you aren't working on trusting me, this isn't working for us.  Save yourself this agony you are putting yourself through."


I totally agree, been trying to tell him all of this! I think it's acceptable to "go through the process" of re-gaining the trust, but at some point you either have to trust again (wholesale forgive as someone else said), or call it quits.

I feel bad for the guy. He's trying so hard.
 
2011-01-27 2:07 PM
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meherczeg - 2011-01-27 3:06 PM

1stTimeTri - 2011-01-27 3:05 PM

Yep, was sorry to hear about that.


i've not really shared the story much.  it's good to get it out sometimes.


That's what she said!
2011-01-27 2:09 PM
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meherczeg - 2011-01-27 2:06 PM
1stTimeTri - 2011-01-27 3:05 PM

Yep, was sorry to hear about that.


i've not really shared the story much.  it's good to get it out sometimes.


And NOW lookatchou, Ms. Happy Lady Swole!

2011-01-27 2:10 PM
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jford2309 - 2011-01-27 1:35 PM The only BT'er I have met in person was Scoobysdad. He comes down for Memphis in May.


So sorry to hear that.
2011-01-27 2:10 PM
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A *pseudo-melon press* for her Yantiness.  *squeeze*
2011-01-27 2:11 PM
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So, like, you crazy bastages are STILL talking about nothing?!?!?!
2011-01-27 2:11 PM
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Kido - you being a bad mother ... shutyourmouf ... but, I'm talking 'bout Kido ... then, we can dig it.
2011-01-27 2:11 PM
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Rynamite - 2011-01-27 2:11 PM So, like, you crazy bastages are STILL talking about nothing?!?!?!


HOOOOOOOO LEEEEEEEEEEE SCHIST!!

They're crawling out of the woodwork!

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2011-01-27 2:12 PM
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Rynamite - 2011-01-27 3:11 PM So, like, you crazy bastages are STILL talking about nothing?!?!?!


what the eff.  it's almost time to kick you in the ding ding.
2011-01-27 2:14 PM
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Kido are you watching spartacus: gods of the arena?
2011-01-27 2:17 PM
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First Hangloose then Ryna...?!
Whose next, wurkit???

 
2011-01-27 2:20 PM
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lisac957 - 2011-01-27 2:17 PM First Hangloose then Ryna...?!
Whose next, wurkit???

 


I hope so... 
2011-01-27 2:20 PM
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Rynamite - 2011-01-28 3:11 AM So, like, you crazy bastages are STILL talking about nothing?!?!?!


It's not really you, is it?

It can't be!!!

Where're your guns?

2011-01-27 2:21 PM
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TriAya - 2011-01-27 2:20 PM
Rynamite - 2011-01-28 3:11 AM So, like, you crazy bastages are STILL talking about nothing?!?!?!


It's not really you, is it?

It can't be!!!

Where're your guns?


Still right above my elbows.


 
2011-01-27 2:23 PM
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So how is everyone?

I needed a mental break. So what better way than TAN? 
2011-01-27 2:24 PM
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Big Appa - 2011-01-27 2:14 PM Kido are you watching spartacus: gods of the arena?


I am watching it!
2011-01-27 2:25 PM
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Rynamite - 2011-01-27 2:23 PM

So how is everyone?

I needed a mental break. So what better way than TAN? 


Wow. Hang Lo and now Rynamite?

Have I fallen into the Hot Tub Time Machine!?
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