Question for the guys (Page 3)

I totally agree with Welshy (I cant believe those words just came out of my mouth), let the guy know what is up on the front end and he will be fine. If he is worth it and thinks you are worth it he will wait till you are ready and if he doesnt then he wasnt worth your time and you know his true intentions on the front end.

Just go out and have a good time, dont think so much about it. Tell him he will be good, then get to enjoying the date.

Damn what good advice, where did that come from????

Oh and I think every thread should be about the Wahoo...

Sombady has too... if not me, then who?

Sigh. Welshy's right Janelle, there's some kind of mysterious power going on there.

I figured- it's all about the wahoo.

True- everyone is different and each relationship is unique.

There are no rules (except Janelle who has her rule about no kissing). Go with what you are moved to do. Your instincts won't fail you and if you don't let your fear of rejection overwhelm you, you will do just fine.

People who are terrified of rejection at 18 will be terrified at 28, 38 and 48. People who are risk-takers at 18 will be risk-takers at 28, 38... So, it's not really about high school, college or post-grad dating. It's about being confident in your choices and feeling competent to manage yourself. As you noted, it's all about communicating (verbally and nonverbally).

Yeah- I'll be the first to admit that I have funky rules- I'm not ashmed to admit it  I don't like to call them rules though- they're just my own personal convictions.  There's a difference.  It's always interesting to see other's opinions or views, which is why I posted this thread in the first place.

LOL- nice burrito boy!

Everyone has boundaries, Janelle. Nothing wrong with that.

tritocatchme - 2005-11-29 9:55 AM I have no boundaries. None.

Oh really?

So, you're willing to carry around your gf's toy poodle while you and your gf spend 5 hours in the mall shopping?

I don't mean to hijack the thread but I'll come to a point related to your initial question.  When I first saw my life I was attracted in BIG way.  I asked her out a few days later.  She had a date with another guy I worked with that night (yes, I knew they were dating but I didn't care, she would be mine!) but I convinced her to have a drink before she went home to get ready for her date.  After 10 seconds I knew I was in love and I had met my soulmate.  After 45 minutes it was obvious she felt the same way.  She called the guy, broke the date and we spent 3 hours at that bar talking.  Only had 2 drinks which was a record low for me back then..  When I drove her home we were holding hands and I noticed something looked different.  I held up my hand and looked at it.  When I passed her hand over my hand my hand looked different.  She had no idea what I was doing.  I explained it to her.  She changed me.  We made out passionately for who knows how long.  2 weeks later she moved in and a few months later I proposed.  8 years, 3 houses and third kid on the way later and we're still madly in love.  

Anybody can kiss anybody, but it's not THE KISS until it's THE ONE and if you know yourself, you'll know when it's THE ONE.  Any rules you may have will no longer apply.  At least that's what I believe. 

p.s. if you enjoy the single life and playing the field - good for you, I'm not one of those people who thinks marriage is for everyone.  Happiness, however, is for everyone.

Awww... now that's an awesome story. My parents got married after knowning each other for 7 weeks -- 33 years later they're still married.

I'm sad to say that  I know this, but sources (them) say they did more than just kiss on the first date. Go with your gut.

A Freedom kiss

Whats a Freedom kiss? Is that the same as a Portugese kiss?