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2008-11-03 5:53 PM
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puellasolis - I'm sorry, I should have been clearer.

OK, sorry. I should have been clearer as well.

Our unalienable rights flow from and are found in the natural law.  



2008-11-03 5:53 PM
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dontracy - 2008-11-03 3:51 PM

pengy - Additionally... last I checked the Declaration of Independence is not a legal document to govern the united states.

Our country was founded in a creed. That creed can be found in the Declaration of Independence.

The Founders appealed to natural law for the legitimacy of what they were doing. They were correct, and I believe that is why the experiment has been successful up to now.

One could argue that Natural Law has changed over time.  In the world of science and human psychology, homosexuality is considered a kind of "normal." It is no longer considered "un-natural."

2008-11-03 5:57 PM
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ChrisM -

Application of 14 here - denying gays marriage because it infringes on straights' rights - turns 14 on its head.  Usually it's the other way around

There are other entities involved here beyond the people within the marriage itself.

For example, can an institution base policy on serving only persons in a marriage of one man and one woman, or can they be sued for discrimination if they do that.

Those types of lawsuits have already occurred.

2008-11-03 6:01 PM
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dontracy - 2008-11-03 3:57 PM
ChrisM -

Application of 14 here - denying gays marriage because it infringes on straights' rights - turns 14 on its head.  Usually it's the other way around

There are other entities involved here beyond the people within the marriage itself.

For example, can an institution base policy on serving only persons in a marriage of one man and one woman, or can they be sued for discrimination if they do that.

Those types of lawsuits have already occurred.

Can you link to them?  I read about the one, I believe it was in Massachusetts, but the issue there was that they were receiving government money and therefore would have lost that money had they continued to so discriminate.  ETA - and I believe that was a commitment ceremony (wasn;t in Mass then) which had nothing to do with marriage....  but going by a taper addled memory here



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2008-11-03 6:03 PM
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madkat -

One could argue that Natural Law has changed over time.  In the world of science and human psychology, homosexuality is considered a kind of "normal." It is no longer considered "un-natural."

Natural law does not derive from specific human activity. Rather, they are principles that human persons "ought" to adhere to. They remain static. For example, it was always wrong to murder, it will always be wrong to murder.

2008-11-03 6:04 PM
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dontracy - 2008-11-03 3:53 PM

puellasolis - I'm sorry, I should have been clearer.

OK, sorry. I should have been clearer as well.

Our unalienable rights flow from and are found in the natural law.


Okay, let's say for the sake of argument that I agree. What now? Is marriage an inalienable right? I don't think it is, so now we're in the realm of things that are granted by the state above and beyond one's inalienable rights.


2008-11-03 6:04 PM
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The problem that I think many people have with gay "marriage" is they confuse civil law/legal marriage with religious/spiritual marriage. Don's post are a good example of this confusion. Perhaps I've become too cynical or I've been a lawyer too long, but I see the two as entirely different.

What do you get with civil law/legal marriage? Not much, really. You get a bundle of rights, and those rights really don't kick in unless the couple divorces or one spouse dies. That's about it. If, for instance, one spouse becomes mentally incapacitated, the other spouse does not automatically get the right to make medical and financial decisions for the incapacitated spouse. You still need a power of attorney or court ordered guardianship. Now, in practice, most health care facilities will allow a spouse to make decisions in emergency situations without these documents, but this would also be true if the person were single and only had adult children to make decisions. But if the incapacitated had assets in his or her name, you can forget about getting access to those assets without a power of attorney or court order. Married couples need estate planning documents just as much as non-married people.

Free legal advice to Runningwoof: You can your partner should get wills and powers of attorney drafted. If possible, title all of your assets and accounts jointly with right of survivorship.

I am reminded of a quote from Michael Bednarek, the Libertarian presidential candidate in 2004, who stated when asked about his position on gay marriage:

If you and another person go down to the government offices and get a "marriage license," what does that allow you to do that you couldn't do before?

Answer: Nothing, really. You can still live together, have sex, own assets jointly, and have kids. And the law no longer distinquishes between "legitimate" and "illegitimate" or "out of wedlock" kids. They each have the same rights.

Some libertarian thinkers have even expressed the idea that civil law/legal marriage is a bit anitquated, and that couples should be free to define their relationships.
2008-11-03 6:05 PM
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ChrisM -

Can you link to them?  I read about the one, I believe it was in Massachusetts, but the issue there was that they were receiving government money and therefore would have lost that money had they continued to so discriminate.  ETA - and I believe that was a commitment ceremony (wasn;t in Mass then) which had nothing to do with marriage....  but going by a taper addled memory here

One I'm thinking of is a photography studio that was sued because they would not provide service for a gay commitment ceremony. I think it was in New Mexico. As with you're example, it was a commitment ceremony. Going from memory here.

2008-11-03 6:07 PM
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dontracy - 2008-11-03 4:03 PM
madkat -

One could argue that Natural Law has changed over time.  In the world of science and human psychology, homosexuality is considered a kind of "normal." It is no longer considered "un-natural."

Natural law does not derive from specific human activity. Rather, they are principles that human persons "ought" to adhere to. They remain static. For example, it was always wrong to murder, it will always be wrong to murder.

I disagree.  Our interpretation changes as we as a society changes.  As was pointed out earlier, Natural Law was used to argue against women's sufferage, interracial marriage, and a myriad of other now-shameful beliefs and actions done in the past.

 

2008-11-03 6:09 PM
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puellasolis - Okay, let's say for the sake of argument that I agree. What now? Is marriage an inalienable right? I don't think it is, so now we're in the realm of things that are granted by the state above and beyond one's inalienable rights.

That's a great question.

I'd say that marriage is an inalienable right. The state does not have the right to prohibit marriage, however it does have the right to restrict it. (and again I'm assuming here that so called gay marriage is not in actuality marriage but rather some other form of relationship.)

2008-11-03 6:12 PM
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madkat - 

I disagree.  Our interpretation changes as we as a society changes.  As was pointed out earlier, Natural Law was used to argue against women's sufferage, interracial marriage, and a myriad of other now-shameful beliefs and actions done in the past.

 

Can you cite those instances?

Keep in mind that natural law is a disctinct notion from the idea for example that certain races are inferior.

In fact, it was a natural law argument itself that fueled the abolitionist movement and led to emancipation, as well as a natural law argument that Martin Luther King used to defend his civil disobedience actions.



2008-11-03 6:15 PM
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dontracy - 2008-11-03 4:09 PM

puellasolis - Okay, let's say for the sake of argument that I agree. What now? Is marriage an inalienable right? I don't think it is, so now we're in the realm of things that are granted by the state above and beyond one's inalienable rights.

That's a great question.

I'd say that marriage is an inalienable right. The state does not have the right to prohibit marriage, however it does have the right to restrict it. (and again I'm assuming here that so called gay marriage is not in actuality marriage but rather some other form of relationship.)


See, I'd say the opposite. I don't think the state is required by any law, natural or man-made, to grant marriage licenses. But I think that if they grant them to some people, they can't discriminate (among adults) between who can enter into a marriage and who can't.
2008-11-03 6:17 PM
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dontracy - 2008-11-03 6:12 PM

madkat - 

I disagree.  Our interpretation changes as we as a society changes.  As was pointed out earlier, Natural Law was used to argue against women's sufferage, interracial marriage, and a myriad of other now-shameful beliefs and actions done in the past.

 

Can you cite those instances?

Keep in mind that natural law is a disctinct notion from the idea for example that certain races are inferior.

In fact, it was a natural law argument itself that fueled the abolitionist movement and led to emancipation, as well as a natural law argument that Martin Luther King used to defend his civil disobedience actions.



And it was natural law that southerners used leading up to the civil war to justify slavery and natural law that repressed women for several millennium (too numerous to count). The fact of the matter is natural law is not an argument with anything solid behind it.

Since slave owners and mlk both used it as reasoning I think it is reasonable to conclude that we can toss it.
2008-11-03 6:17 PM
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dontracy - 2008-11-03 6:09 PM

puellasolis - Okay, let's say for the sake of argument that I agree. What now? Is marriage an inalienable right? I don't think it is, so now we're in the realm of things that are granted by the state above and beyond one's inalienable rights.

That's a great question.

I'd say that marriage is an inalienable right. The state does not have the right to prohibit marriage, however it does have the right to restrict it. (and again I'm assuming here that so called gay marriage is not in actuality marriage but rather some other form of relationship.)



Again, confusing civil law with something else, in this case Natural Law. Civil law marriage was created in the Middle Ages for one purpose and one purpose only: so that property would pass down to the rightful heirs. Marriages were arranged for this purpose. Love had nothing to do with it, which was why laws were needed (so that if the young nobleman thought his cousin, who his parents forced him to marry as part of their plan to expand their wealth and power, was a wretched troll, he would be forced to stay married to her) and there had to be a distinction between "legitimate" and "illegitimate" children (so that if the nobleman decided to have a roll in the hay with the cute peasant girl, those little bastards (and I use the term literally) couldn't inherit property).

This is why some have questioned whether we still need government-sanctioned marriage.
2008-11-03 6:19 PM
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dontracy - 2008-11-03 4:05 PM
ChrisM -

Can you link to them?  I read about the one, I believe it was in Massachusetts, but the issue there was that they were receiving government money and therefore would have lost that money had they continued to so discriminate.  ETA - and I believe that was a commitment ceremony (wasn;t in Mass then) which had nothing to do with marriage....  but going by a taper addled memory here

One I'm thinking of is a photography studio that was sued because they would not provide service for a gay commitment ceremony. I think it was in New Mexico. As with you're example, it was a commitment ceremony. Going from memory here.

Did they win?  I myself think that lawsuit is silly...and have heard that as a defense against prop 8 in CA....that churchs will be sued for not performing Gay marriage...my sister wanted a church wedding...and could not find one that would marry her because her husband is an athiest and would not go through the marriage courses required...she finally found a pastor that would perform the ceremony.  I now know of several churches that do gay marriages and commitment ceremonies...so a church wedding is not out of the question...A photographer gets onto shakey ground...A friend in the hospitality industry had a political discussion with a conservative restraunt owner...he was conflicted...he didn't believe in gay marriage, but he sure liked the extra money coming in from all the receptions that followed the supreme court rulings.



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2008-11-03 6:21 PM
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puellasolis - See, I'd say the opposite. I don't think the state is required by any law, natural or man-made, to grant marriage licenses.

I have to think about that more, but I'd say that I agree with you. It doesn't require the state for a marriage to take place.

But I think that if they grant them to some people, they can't discriminate (among adults) between who can enter into a marriage and who can't..

Again, I would disagree here. If marriage between one man and one woman can indeed be shown to be a separate class then no discrimination occurs.



2008-11-03 6:24 PM
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So, this fella boils down what makes a marriage to the ability to copulate? I have the proper equipment to have conventional, heterosexual, potentially reproductive sexual intercourse with approximately half the population of the planet. However, I chose to marry one of those men because of so much more than my ability to have sex and reproduce with him. Having kids is important to me (good thing, since I'm due to have one in 3 months!), but if we weren't able to have them, he'd still be the man I want to be married to. If his junk fell off and we could never have sex that is reproductive in type or effect, I'd still be married to him.

I think that idea that marriage can be boiled down to f---ing is debasing marriage more than the marriage of any homosexual couple who truly love each other ever could.

Additionally, I'd like to point out that while homosexual couples cannot reproduce without a little helping hand from technology or adoption, their ability to lovingly and successfully rear children as well as any straight couple remains unaffected.



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2008-11-03 6:26 PM
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kimj81 - 

So, this fella boils down what makes a marriage to the ability to copulate?

No, that's not what he's doing. Look for the beauty in the midst of the dry language. 

2008-11-03 6:31 PM
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runningwoof -

Did they win? 

I don't know. I didn't follow the case.

2008-11-03 6:31 PM
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Why do we keep voting on these same things when the courts have already ruled on it? Personally I don't care what other people do in their own bedroom it doesn't involve me so why does it matter to me? Don't you all think if this is voted down the court will again find it unconstitutional and marriages will continue in calif? Sorry for the rant......
2008-11-03 6:31 PM
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dontracy - 2008-11-03 4:26 PM
kimj81 - 

So, this fella boils down what makes a marriage to the ability to copulate?

No, that's not what he's doing. Look for the beauty in the midst of the dry language. 

Don, that's what I see as well.... see my quote above as to how he handles sterility.  That's a beautiful phrase you wrote, but it doesn't mean anything (to me...)  Maybe quote for us, since at least two of us aren't seeing that beauty



2008-11-03 6:34 PM
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kimj81 - 2008-11-03 6:24 PM

If his junk fell off and we could never have sex that is reproductive in type or effect, I'd still be married to him.


You raise a good point in a way that's a bit disturbing for most men. My wife's pregnancy was very difficult, which is why we decided to stop at one child. I would have very much liked to have another, but I didn't go looking around for a replacement wife.

You're going to be a cool mom. Congratulations on your upcoming baby.
2008-11-03 6:34 PM
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MGray - 2008-11-03 4:31 PM Why do we keep voting on these same things when the courts have already ruled on it? Personally I don't care what other people do in their own bedroom it doesn't involve me so why does it matter to me? Don't you all think if this is voted down the court will again find it unconstitutional and marriages will continue in calif? Sorry for the rant......

Because (natural law or not) or system was set up so that none of the three branches of government - including courts - has power over the populace without checks and balances.  Just because a court says something - or a legislature - doesn't mean that they are right.

The current vote in California goes directly to constitutional law, and is actually an appropriate way to treat the issue from a legal standpoint.

As to your last question, no, it will not be found unconstitutional because the vote is to amend the Cal. constitution (which hopefully doesnt' happen)



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dontracy - 2008-11-03 7:09 PM

puellasolis - Okay, let's say for the sake of argument that I agree. What now? Is marriage an inalienable right? I don't think it is, so now we're in the realm of things that are granted by the state above and beyond one's inalienable rights.

That's a great question.

I'd say that marriage is an inalienable right. The state does not have the right to prohibit marriage, however it does have the right to restrict it. (and again I'm assuming here that so called gay marriage is not in actuality marriage but rather some other form of relationship.)

Actually, I think the exact opposite.  If the state is going to grant marriage licenses, it doesn't get to discriminate to whom they are granted.  If the church doesn't want to marry a couple, that is their right to discriminate.

Why do you say that the state has a right to restrict? 

2008-11-03 6:34 PM
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MGray - 2008-11-03 4:31 PM Why do we keep voting on these same things when the courts have already ruled on it? Personally I don't care what other people do in their own bedroom it doesn't involve me so why does it matter to me? Don't you all think if this is voted down the court will again find it unconstitutional and marriages will continue in calif? Sorry for the rant......

Considering the proposition would alter the state constitution, the only way to oppose it would be to take it to the federal supreme court, which would be a states' rights issue.

The other way would be to re-amend the state constitution again some time in the future.

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