Most heartless breakup.. (Page 3)

ps-never date a man that appears in a jockey ad wearing a red banana hammock (similar to a man-thong).  Head nodding and grunting were not an issue, but the fact he tried to pick-up on my roomate's ex-rowing partner at a wedding- while still technically my boyfriend......heh, priceless.  such a small world-his bad.

we're still friends......i give him crap about it all the time....but it still sucked at the time.

Met the girl who was the love of my life in the 8th grade.  We were an "item" through our sophomore year in college - everyone (includng me) assumed we would eventually get married.

She breaks it off because I'm "too nice".  Six months later she wants to get back togther.  We do, but she spends all her time with her basketball and softball teammates.  I ask her as diplomatically as I can if she's gay.  She storms off in anger and doesn't talk to me for a week.  She then comes back and tells me she is gay and admitted that she had only dated me for the last couple of years as a matter of "social convenience".  I take my crushed self-esteem and broken heart and get drunk for about a year or so...

Big backs are hot...you can get some pretty nice tattoo designs on them!! 

I'm not sure if I fit in here. I started dating my wife senior year of highschool (10 years ago). Before her there was nothing serious, date a girl  a few months here and there. Everything was friendly and mutual. So why did I bother to post? About 5 years ago I got what I feel is worse than a bad break up. It was a stalker. I use to laugh when I heard someone having a stalker, now I realize its not that funny. She was a co-worker, never talked to eachother more than "Hi, how are you doing?". Then the phone calls started, and waiting outside my work on her days off. She claimed we were dating, and told my wife (fiance at the time), that we had gone out for drinks. Well I was with my fiance anytime I wasn't at work. During the few months of this pyscho I made sure to never be alone. I forgot about her, until I saw someone that looked like her yesterday. Now I'm back to looking over my sholder. 

Oh well, thats life. Maybe I'll use her as an incentive to run faster and further.......she's right behind me....aaahhhhhhhhhhh.

Ok here is one for you guys....

Dated a girl for 2+ years in college (fresh and soph so we were young) came home from class one day and caught her riding my roommate (the one that I shared a room with at that). Most screwed up thing about it was after we broke up all of "our friends" became "their friends" ....like I did something wrong ( for the record I didn't even hit anyone). Found out later she was crazy (not typical woman crazy, taking meds crazy), anyway took me a LONG time to trust women again.

So, Derek has been a 10 year rebound? Cool.

I broke up with my exboyfriend by phone, 2 days after his birthday but I don't think it was a heartless breakup. It's not like he didn't know there were big issues which were making me very unhappy and the timing of the breakup was a result of the timing of his bad behavior. I just told him I was leaving Atlanta at the end of the month.

First, he complained that I broke up on the phone then he whined that I waited until after his birthday to tell him. Since he behaved very poorly during confrontation, I felt no obligation to tell him in person.  Was I supposed to tell him ON his birthday?

Oh, that reminds me. I guess karma really does exist, cause I just remembered this time when *I* heartlessly broke up with someone ...

I dated my college boyfriend on again off again for YEARS, and during an off again stage, I was rebounded with someone else. After about 4 months, I realize I had waaaaaay passed the rebound stage, plus I was toying with the idea of getting back together with college boyfriend (which in hindsight, karma came back and got me for, but still -- doens't make this guy feel any better, I suppose), so I broke it off with the other guy. Unfortunetly, my timing was a bit ... off. The day I chose to break up with him happened to be the week he got laid off, which also happen to be Sept. 12, 2001. His exact quote: "Let me get this straight. I'm debating on whether or not to tell you I love you, I then get laid off, yesterday 3000 people died, including a bunch right down the road [the Pentagon] AND you're breaking up with me????" What was I suppse to say to that? "just kidding"? Nope. So .. yeah, timing bad, but impulse good: he then stalked me for the better half of 6 months; I had to move twice, and get two new telephone numbers just to shake him. Ugh.

But I conceed I was fairly heartless about it. To my credit (I think), I still feel pretty bad about it.

Dang, Chippy, you're a b*tch...

Seriously, though, it's more heartless to drag it out for no reason other than to wait for better timing. Timely honesty, while hard to swallow sometimes, is always better than fake feelings.

blink. blink. Damnit! You're right!