Dating a triathlete... (Page 3)

Gaarryy - 2007-06-30 11:12 PM

So on the first phone call this guy is already criticizing your decisions and being patronizing? And I thought I was bad at dating. One point in his favor, he's being right up front with his idiocy.

Comet - 2007-07-01 6:08 PM

What if she asked for a carbon bike instead of a diamond?

Comet - 2007-07-01 6:08 PM What if she asked for a carbon bike instead of a diamond?

Gaarryy - 2007-07-01 10:22 PM

 

well if she bought me a nice new carbon bike, she would have gotten at least a 5 carot ring..  

carrie1 - 2007-07-01 5:10 AM 

In any case, I'm digging that this recent guy is into the same things as I am.  We will see how this works out.  I've never dated anyone that was a runner or into any of the things I'm passionate about. Should  be interesting

Comet - 2007-07-01 10:51 PM Where should I send your new bike? You've definately not done diamond reasearch, a carbon bike is SSOOO much cheaper than 5c's.

amiine - 2007-07-02 9:35 AM



Nah, not really. I'm not as hard-core as half of you guys on here and I can honestly say I still fit about 80% of those qualifications - 'cept maybe the one about red bull and coke cuz I can't have caffeine. So I'm sure you can find a girl who meets at least most, if not all of your list. Just a tip- don't completely discount those girls who have come from "alternative" athletic backgrounds. I danced for years - which definitely entails waking up very early (and going to a FREEZING cold (or obscenely hot) dance studio wearing the equivalent of a bathing suit), eating ridiculous amounts of food (at least those of us who don't starve ourselves), being constantly sweaty and not caring, and doing inhumanly unnatural things to our bodies. Not to mention the fact that I understand completely what it is like to have a physical activity take over your entire life - the discipline, self-motivation, sacrifices, etc. I also rock-climb (which means getting up early on a weekend to get one of the good spots) and love to hike, etc -and am constantly trying to wrangle my lazy friends to get up at 6 am on a Saturday (cold, hot, whatever) to drive down to Shenendoah and go flying up a mountain.

I'm actually very grateful for the super-athletic men I've dated as it would never have even occured to me to enter a triathlon if I hadn't dated a triathlete! Or pick up half the sports/activities that I have. Just keep in mind that even though we didn't come out of the womb running a 6 minute mile or biking at 20+mph, that we don't want to learn or at least do what we can with you while you do your thing. That was the one thing that drove me crazy about my most recent boyfriend (cyclist boy, not triathlete boy)- yeah, I couldn't keep up with him on his faster rides, but I offered to go with him on his warm-up, or meet him for a cool-down so he could do his thing and then we could bike together. The only way to get better is do it, ya know? If we want to do it, let us do it and don't become impatient if the VERY first time we're on a road bike, we're not Lance Armstrong (The ex was actually fine at first, but we only went out a few times before he stopped wanting to ride with me, even though I said I wanted to)

Just my little PSA for those of us girls who aren't total wusses and like to challenge ourselves physically, even if it's a sport we've never done before. We need some love too!!

Edited by wurkit_gurl 2007-07-02 9:16 AM

carrie1 - 2007-07-02 10:19 AM

Celeb_ithil - 2007-07-02 10:35 AM

This is interesting.   My situation is completely opposit.  My BF doesn't swim, bike or run.  But he gives me all the freedom to train/race.  And I'm not that hardcore as a triathlete so my trainings aren't crazy long, or I'm not perculiar in my eating.  He'd ask when I plan to go for a longer group training/next race so he can schedule his OT at wor/go golfing/fishing/experiment new recipes/go visit his baby niece etc. 

Many times I go to his place after a long ride/race and he'll cook dinner.  Last month he bought me a hitch-mount bike rack (he did reseach and finally found something that fits my car).  Even though he doesn't train with me, he's a keeper.

Butchcantswim - 2007-06-30 2:30 PM

Gina76, I can't believe you haven't called that gym rat back yet. LOL  Glad you guys enjoyed. 

Celeb_ithil - 2007-07-02 9:35 AM

This is interesting.   My situation is completely opposit.  My BF doesn't swim, bike or run.  But he gives me all the freedom to train/race.  And I'm not that hardcore as a triathlete so my trainings aren't crazy long, or I'm not perculiar in my eating.  He'd ask when I plan to go for a longer group training/next race so he can schedule his OT at wor/go golfing/fishing/experiment new recipes/go visit his baby niece etc. 

Many times I go to his place after a long ride/race and he'll cook dinner.  Last month he bought me a hitch-mount bike rack (he did reseach and finally found something that fits my car).  Even though he doesn't train with me, he's a keeper.

Gina76 - 2007-07-02 9:55 AM No joke, I got a voice mail from the gym rat yesterday giving me asking me why I had not called him back and that he is shocked and then he literally gave me permission NOT to call him again!!! Why is it that some feel like they have to have the last say on everything?!?!? I swear dating is a pita!!!

Gina76 - 2007-07-02 9:55 AM



No joke, I got a voice mail from the gym rat yesterday giving me asking me why I had not called him back and that he is shocked and then he literally gave me permission NOT to call him again!!! Why is it that some feel like they have to have the last say on everything?!?!? I swear dating is a pita!!!

amiine - 2007-07-02 11:05 AM He sounds like a keeper indeed!

I think in my case I need someone who is at least active (running, hiking, skiing, anything) so she can have a better understanding about my commitment to my training and coaching. Plus you know my goal for triathlons is a bit crazier than the avg person so imagine how some non-active girls look at me when I told them I am going away with friends for the to ride, run, swim, eat and sleep as much as possible JUST for fun!

BTW, did you and DZ kept the list of the tri-girls I thought were cute during the Patriot HIM yesterday? I need to get their emails

TexOma - 2007-07-02 8:23 AM



In his demented little mind, this probably allows him to think he dumped you.

No one commits like a triathlete. Naturally, you're looking for someone who can keep up with you. That's why Active.com and Match.com are working together to connect you with people who are ready to go the distance.

amiine - 2007-07-02 11:05 AM

BTW, did you and DZ kept the list of the tri-girls I thought were cute during the Patriot HIM yesterday? I need to get their emails