Mental Manatee Mentors Part 3--CLOSED (Page 31)

amd723 - 2013-03-19 1:20 PM I thought life was like a box of chocolates . JK.Chris always gives good advice , listen to him.

Artemis - 2013-03-19 12:19 PM

 

Yep.  That's my favorite.

cdban66 - 2013-03-19 12:15 PM

Adrienne, I don't often go real name, so I must be serious.  

The job thing is a whole big deal that you have very little control over. Put it in a box and only open it when needed. Compartmentalize. Running may not be what you do for a living, but it is a part of who you are. Put it into a different box. Continue doing so with other life "stuff". Once you come to a final group of boxes, you will have a good idea of the ones you control, the ones that you don't control, and the ones that control you. Some are good, some are bad, and others just are out there. No matter what you find though, remember that the truly important things are not things at all. They are the people that you care about and the people that care about you.

Life is like running, mostly easy, sometimes hard. Right now is one of those hard times, but you are stronger than anything life can throw at you. Remember to breath and enjoy.

Asalzwed - 2013-03-19 1:28 PMAwesome. So a Kopps date it is?

Also on my list (if I have time) Maria's pizza, maybe skating the oval, apparently there is a mechanical chili pepper,Milwaukee Brewing Co, and the Milwaukee art museum.

amd723 - 2013-03-20 2:20 AM I thought life was like a box of chocolates . JK.Chris always gives good advice , listen to him.

TriAya - 2013-03-19 12:00 PM

Usually. The "winter" mentor season is always bizarrely short.

Artemis - 2013-03-19 12:34 PM

ICE CREAM DATE!!!!  Sounds great!  The race is down by the art museum, so you'll see that.  Visiting the lakefront park is cool too.  Oval is very fun! You can also run outside the oval loop, which is nice in the summer.  We've done the Sprecher brewery tour.  It's fun brewery tour because they have soda for the non-drinkers and designated driver.  

I do not know about a mechanical chili pepper.  

Asalzwed - 2013-03-19 1:40 PM

I'll push those children right out of my way.

Artemis - 2013-03-19 1:36 PM Does anyone have experience selling a bike or trading one in?  I have a titanium tri bike that is too big for me.  It's in fantastic condition, but I never ride it.  I'd like a new road bike.

TriAya - 2013-03-19 12:35 PM

Me me me pick meeee! Oh, ME!

(BTW, who the hell are Adrienne and Chris?)

1. Until I read over what Salty wrote earlier, I genuinely forgot that it's possible to eat ice cream in ways other than straight from the carton. I was in the kitchen, staring at the freezer, trying to figure out whether I wanted to eat some downstairs, or carry the whole thing upstairs and make another trip down to put it back. (It's a huge house).

2. Dub6 is right, unless Ann says differently, in which case she is right.

Salts--it WILL work out. No opportunity is closed forever. Unless you go out and deliberately plan and mess up someone's life or whack 'em, you really can't make a wrong decision here (I also have a long shortlist for the former in case you happen to be interested, though). You won't be permanently slamming any door of opportunity. You will always be taken care of. No one's going to let you go hungry. (Maybe a little hungry. Hard to feed a top shelf marathoner enough).

Running and career choices are probably not the only stressors in your life right now. Dub6 is right about the boxes ... for any situation, any thing, ask yourself whether weighing it (or letting it weigh on you) right at that moment is a) necessary, b) loving to yourself, c) will make any difference in the outcome (keeping the long-long-long term picture in mind).

Love you heaps and heaps. {MELON PRESS} So when are you gonna PM me your phone number so I can send you inappropriate texts?

cdban66 - 2013-03-20 2:26 AM

MMMMM, chocolate.

I wish I could follow my advice.

Artemis - 2013-03-19 12:42 PM

BWAHAHAHA!!!  I want to go on that date with you too.

Apparently they have a live cam for it, so all the other Manatees can watch.

Asalzwed - 2013-03-20 2:51 AM

OMG done and done! 

TriAya - 2013-03-19 12:58 PM

SOOOOOODAAAAAAA

August. I think I can come in August.

TriAya - 2013-03-19 1:50 PM

I just realized the advice I gave was a) a wordier version of yours, and b) exactly what I need to do right now, too.

Little overwhelmed here. Wanting to kill a few people. Trying not to.

The #1 important thing is that my mom is taken care of--and there is more than enough to take care of her in any fashion she should want (too bad her wants are so modest! Mutti! Get some really expensive tastes and take me along!) should she live to 200. She told me tonight she's planning on 95, I said we'd figure on 100 just to be safe. But watch out on her 100th birthday.

She has been crystal clear through this entire process. Her strength and grace as always are deeply inspiring. (Admittedly, she survived my dad for well over 50 years and all of us.)

*I don't have to do anything more than what's in front of me (piglets, please line up). All I have to do in a given day is a day. That's it. I can do that, and I have tons of help and support and can ask for any more that's needed.

#2 (I know, I know, it should be #1) is to take care of myself. I am. All of you are a big part of that--so thank you, thank you, thank you.

The rest of the family can at the very least look after themselves if not help with sorting out the 83+ years of my dad's very, very tangled and high-stakes life. Yeah, it's overwhelming. *Note starred entry above.

After that, my sister and I have a well-ordered and comprehensive set of priorities, tasks, and delegations which will hopefully turn out the best outcome for the several hundred people our companies employ as well as the various associations, organizations, and foundations my father was very generously involved with. These things represented the very best of my father and what he gave and did in this world and what we'd like to continue.

But, we will take it on in day-sized bites.

Asalzwed - 2013-03-19 2:00 PM Also, this live pepper cam is effin' hilarious. It's so sad, just sitting there not being ridden (heh heh heh) 

Asalzwed - 2013-03-20 2:59 AM

FOR REAL!?!?!?!?!?!?!

cdban66 - 2013-03-19 1:09 PM

With all that your life has going on, it is a wonder you can focus at all. Right now I think your day sized bites is probably an awesome idea. I really hope that you attend to #2 fully and carefully. No, not that #2, the #2 on your list .

BWahahahaha

TriAya - 2013-03-19 1:11 PM

I can tell the Manatees. I haven't talked to anybody about anything.

My dad has about 30 different bank accounts. Maybe more that we haven't found. Some are connected with the company; most aren't (although a lot of company monies went through them anyway). His general manager and personal assistant (GM winds up playing PA a lot too, my dad's old-school CEO idiot ... ) have somehow "lost" his credit cards, passport, proof of birth, etc. and claim that they have never had anything to do with his personal financial accounts or statements (really? my bed-bound, wheelchair bound dad picked himself up and walked to multiple banks located across one of the world's largest cities every day?).

They're small potatoes--they're just in the way and making things a lot more tedious and difficult. They'll get French fried in due time.

One of the banks my sister and I went to (they'd sent an enormous flowerboard--that was a good clue!), the THREE top guys--director, VP of Operations and VP of Customer Service--met us at the door and ushered us into the bank's boardroom (yeah, y'know, big glass-topped teak table, leather chairs, portraits of the owners on the wall, blah blah), served us refreshments, and proceeded to tell us exactly what my father's relationship with them had been, what financial instruments he had, ballpark dates and amounts.

As I said, it's all going to take a while to sort out, and maybe August is too soon (considering family obligations and taking Mutti to Germany, etc.), but I could bloody well pay myself to the moon and back a few times if I wanted.

It is an EXTREMELY weird feeling to know I now have the freedom and means to go wherever I want and do whatever I want. For the rest of my life.

HOWEVER ...

the truth is, that was always the case

TriAya - 2013-03-19 2:11 PM

I can tell the Manatees. I haven't talked to anybody about anything.

My dad has about 30 different bank accounts. Maybe more that we haven't found. Some are connected with the company; most aren't (although a lot of company monies went through them anyway). His general manager and personal assistant (GM winds up playing PA a lot too, my dad's old-school CEO idiot ... ) have somehow "lost" his credit cards, passport, proof of birth, etc. and claim that they have never had anything to do with his personal financial accounts or statements (really? my bed-bound, wheelchair bound dad picked himself up and walked to multiple banks located across one of the world's largest cities every day?).

They're small potatoes--they're just in the way and making things a lot more tedious and difficult. They'll get French fried in due time.

One of the banks my sister and I went to (they'd sent an enormous flowerboard--that was a good clue!), the THREE top guys--director, VP of Operations and VP of Customer Service--met us at the door and ushered us into the bank's boardroom (yeah, y'know, big glass-topped teak table, leather chairs, portraits of the owners on the wall, blah blah), served us refreshments, and proceeded to tell us exactly what my father's relationship with them had been, what financial instruments he had, ballpark dates and amounts.

As I said, it's all going to take a while to sort out, and maybe August is too soon (considering family obligations and taking Mutti to Germany, etc.), but I could bloody well pay myself to the moon and back a few times if I wanted.

It is an EXTREMELY weird feeling to know I now have the freedom and means to go wherever I want and do whatever I want. For the rest of my life.

HOWEVER ...

the truth is, that was always the case

rrrunner - 2013-03-19 2:18 PM

Random thoughts...

I forgot my utensils so I am eating corned beef and cabbage leftovers with a plastic knife

We are headed to Denver this weekend for my MIL's 80th birthday party and I have to figure out what I am going to bring (she has a serious sweet tooth so I am thinking home-made Ding Dongs and Twinkies)

It appears that our weighted geographic center is in... South Dakota

rrrunner - 2013-03-19 1:18 PM

Random thoughts...

I forgot my utensils so I am eating corned beef and cabbage leftovers with a plastic knife

We are headed to Denver this weekend for my MIL's 80th birthday party and I have to figure out what I am going to bring (she has a serious sweet tooth so I am thinking home-made Ding Dongs and Twinkies)

It appears that our weighted geographic center is in... South Dakota