Most heartless breakup.. (Page 4)

No didn't live there, and yes I am familiar with the so called "virgin vaults" . No worries on making light of the situation, I am a happily married man with a beautiful wife and one beautiful daughter and a son on the way. I haven't heard anything about her for years but last I did she was waiting tables somewhere.....guess I got the better end of that deal.

"Yes, buy me a burrito, a**hole." ?

Lucky or karma?  Congratulations either way.  And thanks for the service.  Sincerely. 

Man, I could have used this 6 months ago when I spinning from a break up I still wasn't sure had even happened . . . she still visits my dreams. Ughh. At least it got me into tris.

How about:

"You don't make enough to keep me in the clothes I'm used to wearing."

or

"I love you deeply but I need someone more acceptable socially to my family and friends."

Each from different women. Come to think of it I've had more than a few of those socio-economic breakups . . .

Maybe it's all pay back for the jerk I was in High School . . . wait . . . I was the nice guy in high school! But I'm sure I've been the jerk on more than one occasion over the years. Still the money thing gets really old. Makes me want to live like a bohemian the rest of my life.

Re first line:  why doesn't she make her own money so that she can spend on whatever she wants?  IMO, no one she spend other people's money.  i don't understand this concept.  Why should a boyfriend be responsible for a girl's spending?  Once I commented about wanting to go to Europe but cannot afford.  A friend told me to go ask my bf to take me there for a cavation.  He can't afford it either.  THen the friend say "may be you should look for a richer boyfriend".  I don't get it.  I'm not looking for an job.

Re second line:  if social status is really that important to her, should would have done background checks for all guys she's seeing, and would have already know what type of "status" a guy has.  She shouldn't be dating this guy in the first place if she thinkns he's not "acceptable". 

Something is very wrong with these people. 

Well, I certainly was straight with her from the beginning. That's part of why I thought it was special. In the end she told me she was just lonely . . . but it was a lot of fear. I'm not going to choose to think of her as being that shallow. She chose another road. Life goes on.

Here's my breakup/divorce story. Hope it helps.

So I get sent to active duty after 9-1-1. My future husband also re-enlists and gets sent to active duty. We came from 2 different companies, from 2 different states and 2 totally different backgrounds but somehow we meet and fall madly in love.  The second date we were on we talked about having kids and where we would live and all that married people stuff.

So all this happened in April. We were ingaged by June and married by September. Real whirlwind.  It was perfect. Our families loved him. His family loved me.  I hadn't even met his mom and younger brother and older sister yet because they lived in another country.

So we got off active duty and came home. I went to massage therapy school he went to the poilce academy and things were good.

Then the war kicked off. We were home for 1.5 months when he was sent overseas to Iraq to fight in the war.  During this time, I decided (with help from his sister)(side note: psyco sister)(unkown to me at that time) to have his Mom move to the US with his younger brother so that his brother could go to college and his Mom could have a better life (i.e. they were poor in their country and they wanted to have a better life). So with us only being married for a short amount of time and then him leaving for war, I took his family into my our home. Mistake #1.

Then he came home. Ever hear of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder? Yeah...it exists and so do inlaws from hell.  Medium story made short.  He turned all PTSD on me and his family turned psyco and all turned on me.  Apparetnly I wasn't being more sympathetic to him and I wasn't taking care of our home and was being mean to his mother and brother (who both by the way spoke no english the entire time they lived with me so I had to rely on his psyco sister to translate)

So one day he came home from work and said that he couldn't d this anymore and wanted a divorce. It cam eout of nowhere abot a week prior to Valentine's day.  High light of my life.

I moved out. He started dating again a month later and I became a State Trooper and now he realizes what a great thing he lost when he made his decision. I belive the hardships that we live through make us stronger and show us how much we can really take.  I am a stronger person for going through what I did and if I had a chance to go back and change something I would leave everything exactly the same.  All that madde me the person that I am today and I love the person that I have become.

Keep the faith people. Stay strong and regret nothing.