TAN #64 - A Case of Temporary InTANity (Page 49)

meherczeg - 2009-01-16 12:03 PM

i bought a townhouse, bajingo!  it's AWESOME to automatically send in half of my take-home income to some bank the 1st of every month!  and to have to do these ridiculous projects instead of sleep in on a Saturday!  and when the water heater falls out of the attic I get to pay to replace it!  WOOOOO THE JOYS OF HOME OWNERSHIP

Artemis - 2009-01-16 9:06 AM

Thanks for the warning.

wurkit_gurl - 2009-01-16 9:07 AM

I know home-ownership can suck. I just want to live alone And I would love if I had my townhouse all to myself. It's really not in THAT bad a shape. The kitchen could use some revamping. But I'd much prefer to own a place that had a gas range. I'm such a snob.

Aikidoman - 2009-01-16 12:08 PM

I could never live with a room mate again - ever.

wurkit_gurl - 2009-01-16 12:07 PM

I know home-ownership can suck. I just want to live alone And I would love if I had my townhouse all to myself. It's really not in THAT bad a shape. The kitchen could use some revamping. But I'd much prefer to own a place that had a gas range. I'm such a snob.

mr2tony - 2009-01-16 9:07 AM No. It really happened just now. Our system is the only one in the world on which you can't just press `CTRL-S' to save a document. WTF???

meherczeg - 2009-01-16 12:11 PM

the kitchen is last on my list cause it's the most expensive to get it right and i'm not sure if it will be worth it.  i want to:  get a bigger fridge, a gas range, more counter space which would require new windows, paint cabinets and replace doors with frosted glass.   sigh.

wurkit_gurl - 2009-01-16 9:13 AM

We could stand to have the fridge replaced. The range/oven is pretty new, but I like gas, but I don't think the house has a gas hook-up. So I'd let that slide. The cabinets could definitely be replaced and the counter top and floor aren't fabulous but they're in good condition at least.

The one thing that sucks about the house is that it doesn't heat well. And that would cost a FORTUNE to fix.

mr2tony - 2009-01-16 9:07 AM No. It really happened just now. Our system is the only one in the world on which you can't just press `CTRL-S' to save a document. WTF???

wurkit_gurl - 2009-01-16 9:18 AM 12:20 - lunch soon...then it'll be closer to leaving. Perhaps I will wait until 1 to go to lunch. Then it'll be only 3.5 hours when I get back.

Artemis - 2009-01-16 9:19 AM

I think I made my cousin upset.

She was basically my sister growing up, so she was my maid of honor (MOH) when I got married.  Now, she's getting married, but her friend convinced her I was too far away to be her MOH and that her friend should do it instead.

We've been chatting over email and I've been trying to do things for her here and then send them to her.  She said something like "I don't know why I thought you were too far away", to which I replied "You could just have two MOH".  

And she stopped talking.

 

I'm not trying to make her upset.  To be honest, the situation makes me a little upset, but I don't want to tell her because she has enough stress and grumpy family members as it is.  But now I don't know what to do.

I'm not very good at dealing with people and knowing the right things to say.

Artemis - 2009-01-16 12:19 PM

I think I made my cousin upset.

She was basically my sister growing up, so she was my maid of honor (MOH) when I got married.  Now, she's getting married, but her friend convinced her I was too far away to be her MOH and that her friend should do it instead.

We've been chatting over email and I've been trying to do things for her here and then send them to her.  She said something like "I don't know why I thought you were too far away", to which I replied "You could just have two MOH".  

And she stopped talking.

 

I'm not trying to make her upset.  To be honest, the situation makes me a little upset, but I don't want to tell her because she has enough stress and grumpy family members as it is.  But now I don't know what to do.

I'm not very good at dealing with people and knowing the right things to say.

Artemis - 2009-01-16 9:19 AM

I think I made my cousin upset.

She was basically my sister growing up, so she was my maid of honor (MOH) when I got married.  Now, she's getting married, but her friend convinced her I was too far away to be her MOH and that her friend should do it instead.

We've been chatting over email and I've been trying to do things for her here and then send them to her.  She said something like "I don't know why I thought you were too far away", to which I replied "You could just have two MOH".  

And she stopped talking.

 

I'm not trying to make her upset.  To be honest, the situation makes me a little upset, but I don't want to tell her because she has enough stress and grumpy family members as it is.  But now I don't know what to do.

I'm not very good at dealing with people and knowing the right things to say.

Artemis - 2009-01-16 12:19 PM

I think I made my cousin upset.

She was basically my sister growing up, so she was my maid of honor (MOH) when I got married.  Now, she's getting married, but her friend convinced her I was too far away to be her MOH and that her friend should do it instead.

We've been chatting over email and I've been trying to do things for her here and then send them to her.  She said something like "I don't know why I thought you were too far away", to which I replied "You could just have two MOH".  

And she stopped talking.

 

I'm not trying to make her upset.  To be honest, the situation makes me a little upset, but I don't want to tell her because she has enough stress and grumpy family members as it is.  But now I don't know what to do.

I'm not very good at dealing with people and knowing the right things to say.

wurkit_gurl - 2009-01-16 9:23 AM

Sounds like the friend was way jealous. I dunno, she should be glad that you're willing to help, even though you're not as local as her friend. I promise myself that I will NOT be a bridezilla if I ever get married. I'll probably just end up doing everything myself so as not to inconvenience anyone. Besides my sis, I don't know who'd be in my wedding party, anyway. I'd better have some closer friends by the time I get married...

meherczeg - 2009-01-16 9:25 AM

that friend is a biatch.

i think the better way to handle it is just to say "hey, i'm sorry if i upset you earlier, but i felt a little hurt that you didn't choose me as your MOH.  you know i would do anything for you!  but i didn't mean to upset you, i guess it just slipped, and i should have brought it up earlier, but i know you are already stressed out and i didn't really want to add to the pile."

Artemis - 2009-01-16 12:26 PM Maybe she's thinking about it.  I think the friend is pretty jealous.  She was kind of stand-offish with me when I met her.  My cousin told her she was engaged and her response was "so I'm your MOH, right?"  Definitely more drama than I am and I think that's part of the reason my cousin thought she should be MOH.  She knew I would be less stress than the friend.  But, she does feel bad about it.

Aikidoman - 2009-01-16 12:25 PM

I think it's sort of unavoidable.  Most women have this dream, and it's tought to let things "be as they are going to be".  But some are FAR worse than others.

Mine was pretty good, she was very detail oriented, but not obsessive, but the zilla did come out during photos....