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2011-11-04 4:15 PM
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Subject: RE: Boyfriend and I broke up - long, sorry

He wants to meet to talk, he says ... has made some mistakes, he says ... he misses me, he says ...

I'm going to meet with him, likely tonight. I have no idea what he might want - maybe just closure, maybe he wants to get back together, maybe he needs to drop something off, who knows. He only said the above in his message.

I do miss him - I can't deny the first 10 months of the relationship were very good, I was happier than I'd ever been ... but the way things have been building over the past 2 months are not a relationship I would continue. I have no idea what I want from him at this point, if anything at all. If he wants me back, A LOT has to change.

So my next question, CoJ - where's the balance between not giving up on a relationship just because it got hard, and standing up for what I need? It's a fine line ...

 



2011-11-04 5:13 PM
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Sounds to me like 99% of the compromise needs to come from him, not you...stick to your guns when it comes to him taking advantage of you. 
2011-11-04 8:15 PM
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bodhi_girl - 2011-11-04 4:15 PM

He wants to meet to talk, he says ... has made some mistakes, he says ... he misses me, he says ...

I'm going to meet with him, likely tonight. I have no idea what he might want - maybe just closure, maybe he wants to get back together, maybe he needs to drop something off, who knows. He only said the above in his message.

I do miss him - I can't deny the first 10 months of the relationship were very good, I was happier than I'd ever been ... but the way things have been building over the past 2 months are not a relationship I would continue. I have no idea what I want from him at this point, if anything at all. If he wants me back, A LOT has to change.

So my next question, CoJ - where's the balance between not giving up on a relationship just because it got hard, and standing up for what I need? It's a fine line ...

Reread your OP three times before you go see him.   And mentally fill in the gaps of what you didn't tell us.   

2011-11-04 8:18 PM
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Lol - I posted too soon.

He couldn't commit to a time to talk, just kept saying "later" ... so ... clearly it's not that important to him. I'm good with it. It's over and I'm quite happy with that, in light of this newest development.

He's now texting me ranting on about how he took me out for dinners, and tickets to events and what not, movies, etc - and can he have his money back. I just told him if he wants to play dirty, fine - I'll make up an invoice for all the time I spent as his 'employee' and we'll compare notes.

I'm so done. Yell

2011-11-04 8:24 PM
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bodhi_girl - 2011-11-04 9:18 PM

Lol - I posted too soon.

He couldn't commit to a time to talk, just kept saying "later" ... so ... clearly it's not that important to him. I'm good with it. It's over and I'm quite happy with that, in light of this newest development.

He's now texting me ranting on about how he took me out for dinners, and tickets to events and what not, movies, etc - and can he have his money back. I just told him if he wants to play dirty, fine - I'll make up an invoice for all the time I spent as his 'employee' and we'll compare notes.

I'm so done. Yell

This is more than a WTF???  Dude needs a real kick in the pants.  I hope you don't engage in any further texts with him!
2011-11-04 8:25 PM
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bodhi_girl - 2011-11-04 9:18 PM

Lol - I posted too soon.

He couldn't commit to a time to talk, just kept saying "later" ... so ... clearly it's not that important to him. I'm good with it. It's over and I'm quite happy with that, in light of this newest development.

He's now texting me ranting on about how he took me out for dinners, and tickets to events and what not, movies, etc - and can he have his money back. I just told him if he wants to play dirty, fine - I'll make up an invoice for all the time I spent as his 'employee' and we'll compare notes.

I'm so done. Yell

This is more than a WTF???  Dude needs a real kick in the pants.  I hope you don't engage in any further texts with him!See, I felt so strongly about this I had to repost it

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2011-11-04 8:28 PM
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bodhi_girl - 2011-11-04 8:18 PM

Lol - I posted too soon.

He couldn't commit to a time to talk, just kept saying "later" ... so ... clearly it's not that important to him. I'm good with it. It's over and I'm quite happy with that, in light of this newest development.

He's now texting me ranting on about how he took me out for dinners, and tickets to events and what not, movies, etc - and can he have his money back. I just told him if he wants to play dirty, fine - I'll make up an invoice for all the time I spent as his 'employee' and we'll compare notes.

I'm so done. Yell

Whoever used the word "miser" is right.   I think you should quit responding to him, don't go and see him.  acknowlege and move on.  You don't have to "make your case".  You were not married to him, and there is no judge sitting to divide property or anyting else.

 



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2011-11-04 8:49 PM
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That guys a punk. 

 

Just be glad you figured him out now instead of ten years down the road.  Im sorry you got hurt, but its time to move on.

2011-11-04 8:51 PM
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bodhi_girl - 2011-11-04 7:18 PM

Lol - I posted too soon.

He couldn't commit to a time to talk, just kept saying "later" ... so ... clearly it's not that important to him. I'm good with it. It's over and I'm quite happy with that, in light of this newest development.

He's now texting me ranting on about how he took me out for dinners, and tickets to events and what not, movies, etc - and can he have his money back. I just told him if he wants to play dirty, fine - I'll make up an invoice for all the time I spent as his 'employee' and we'll compare notes.

I'm so done. Yell

 

wow, he's mental

2011-11-04 9:18 PM
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Don't worry all - I'm not responding to his texts. I can't turn my phone off because I'm on call this weekend, but I'm finding it quite comical really, I've laughed tonight harder than I've laughed in a while. It's felt good. He's so messed up it's become funny.

ETA: I did break down and become slightly childish and told him  he'd be better off ordering a bride through the mail from a third world country, as that way he'd get exactly what he wants - someone meek and timid who's looking for a 'daddy' to take care of them ... snort ... his reaction was priceless. Tongue out

 



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2011-11-05 2:10 AM
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Life isn't all about work -- I find folks who fill up their lives with endless external pursuits (workaholic) are avoiding something.

^^^ this

Planning for the future is fine but working every possible minute is such a waste.  Now and then, we should all stop and enjoy the moment.  This guy seems incapable of that.



2011-11-08 2:09 PM
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How you doin'?

Cool

 

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what?  she's single.  oh wait, I'm married.  DANG!  ignore this post

 

btw: from my random perspective - good call on the breakage.  sounds like he wanted free labor instead of a girlfriend.

can you send him a bill for all the incoming txt charges?

2011-11-08 2:41 PM
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i thought slavery was abolished a long time ago??

i think you made the right choice. he seems like an .

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