Engagement/wedding Ring...what to do with it? (Page 3)

Hmmm, as I've recently been dealing with this very same issue (the 'what to do with the rings" part, not the 'because I might need to think about new rings' part), here's what I've done. For better or worse, as it were.

I love my engagement and wedding rings. The engagement ring is antique and perfect for me--man did that right, and we had the wedding band custom-made to suit it. They're gorgeous. They also symbolize something that isn't what I thought it was going to be, for several very important reasons. Not bitter (though I didn't give them back, either.).

I've got a friend who's a jeweler offering them privately to some of his clients. If that doesn't work after some period of time, I will reclaim them and do something else with the diamonds. My reasons for not keeping them: they don't stand for good memories overall, though many of the memories were good. And also, I'm not keeping them for my son's future love because of the mojo. I will explain this to him (he's four now) if and when necessary.

Echoing the others on here--start new with a new marriage. Buy cool toys with the proceeds from the old.

And for what it's worth, I got rid of the bed and got a new one. New linens, as well. Of course, I also got 'rid' of the grill, the deck furniture, the couch and loveseat, the microwave, the vacuum cleaner, 1/2 of the dishes, all the silver, and any number of other things, too, but apparently he didn't have those qualms, b/c that's where they all are . Eh, that's ok with me. I 'got' the house, but since I bought it with my money (and mortgage) and 'we' hadn't owned it for more than three months when I left, that wasn't exactly news. We split the proceeds on our other house, the one we'd actually lived in together, 50/50.

Just do what you need to to start afresh. At this point, if I were there, I might want a wedding band but see no need for an engagement ring. Underwater housing for my (future killer) camera, hell yes, but don't need another diamond, as lovely as it was.

And I'm thinking that Welshy had best propose on BT. Any seconds to that notion??

That is NOT where I was going with this thread!! LMAO! I was just wondering if I should do soemthing with my stone (ie: get $ for it, or reset)....was not thinking marraige.

But, thats a good idea.

Of course! How could I be so selfish to think it would be to me?!?! I apologize.

i got the ring back. it was the diamond my mom was given by my dad, so she felt obligated to return it. the jeweler took back the setting and i have a credit at the store.

Ummmm... good question....
My wedding rings are somewhere in my closet. No much value there but I do not know what to do with them I wouldn't want to give to anyone just in case I do not want the blame... I do not want to wear them, I do not like yellow gold... (my ex left me his ring, actually we never really wore them.... no wonder)
I didn't get an engagement ring (we had no money and it is not really a custom in Venezuela).
Your question reminded me to the episode in Sex and the City where Charlotte after much thought decided to get money for it and lend it to Carrie to buy her appartment from Ian....
I've seen many women wearing "the rock" on a necklace after the divorce... I personally do not like it... divorce three times and you get the whole set, earings and all
I think leave it in the closet, the right thing to do with it will come to you at the right time and you will have no doubts....

Dang, Welshy. No wonder you turned to the dark side! Sorry to hear that happened to you.

My ex-fiance "postponed" the wedding 5 weeks before we were to get married (just close enough that all my family had plane tickets!) Then for a few wrenching weeks (months?) we kept having these gawdawful talks while we slowly figured out we had no business getting married at all. The VERY CONVERSATION that he first dropped an "IF we get married" instead of a "WHEN we get married," I pressed the ring back into his hand and said, "then I think this is yours." What else??? Decency, people???

(Of course, that ring was a certifiably embarrassing piece of junk that I'm seriously glad my family never saw, so it was perhaps a little easier! When I look back at that summer, and that man, just 2 words come to mind: "NARROW ESCAPE!")

Sorry for the aside, Haley. I have no clue what you should do with your rocks.

-Clueless, Rockless



Edited by CitySky 2005-10-31 6:36 PM