Subject: RE: Help with seating on the bike!
Not a female, but some likely causes to your complaint:
Improper bike fit
If your seat is too low, your legs don't extend properly and more of your weight is transferred through the saddle rather than through your feet. Numbness/tingling result from the extra pressure.
If your bike is too big, you'll be "stretched out" between the saddle and handlebars which similarly applies extra force on the saddle in addition to the stretch rotating your nether regions forward. Double-ouch.
(Time In The Saddle) helps. Early in the season, 30-45 minutes can be hard to take, but building up SLOWLY can get you into hours.
You can search for the holy grail of saddles. Another common solution is to angle the saddle ever so slightly right or left (possibly also down). Very small adjustments like this can have dramatic changes to how the weight is transferred and pain/numbness/tingling associated with the pressure. Ideally, any saddle pressure is transferred through your "sit bones" and not other highly sensitive soft tissues.
Chamois cream (aka butt butter) applied to your skin can reduce friction between your nether parts and the pad in the shorts. This can help reduce numbness/tingling/soreness.
If you haven't, invest in a bike fit before buying a lot of other things.