Why do some people still have a problem....

I guess cause there are still rednecks everywhere.

Sorry to hear about this. I hate ignorant people. 

I am so sorry that you have to deal with that.

Congrats and good luck on the wedding.

So where's the tolerance for rednecks. Oh I see..... it's a one way street. I get it now, no love for the RN brotha. So that's how you want to play. Tolerate everything under the sun but let somebody be a racist, or a gay basher, or a hater, and you're all over him.
Where's the love?

Didn't mean to offend, I just probably have a different definition of redneck than you. To me a redneck is any ignorant, backward-thinking person.

Gullah, I don't consider you a redneck. 

There are several families of people from different racial backgrounds where our kids grew up and went to school.  I am sure it was difficult for them at times but let me tell you, they have some great kids.  Music, sports, academics, everything,  these kids were exceptional.  I have no idea whether there was a cause and effect relationship, but the kids from these families are just great.  We knew them as our children's friends as well as my wife's students. 

I hope the same kind of future for you if you decide you want to have children.

TW 

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Could be a soup or a record label?

... or the color of the neck.

y'know, I totally get how annoying it is to have my relationship misunderstood, to be patronized, to be excluded, judged, etc.  On the other hand, I am SO guilty of  what might be construed as "looks."

When I see interracial couples I always smile real big and look for kids. As wacky as it is, I swear interracial kids are more interesting and beautiful, of the  bi/multiracial children of my friends (some by differently raced spouses, some by adoption) every single one is completely beautiful and goofy and fun, and I love the intercultural stuff that goes on in those homes. I have one friend who has chinese babies and their house is full of cool chinese art, and teh kids have chinese middle names and they always have parties for various chinese holidays. My friend who is white and has a black husband makes a huge effort to have all kinds of different images of different kinds of people in their home, and she is meticulous about what books movies etc they have (her son is 6) They are more aware of sterotypes and negative images and stuff than I am perhaps bc they are so aware of what the world can do to "different" kids.

anyway, I guess I am saying, have kids real soon so I can gawk at them and love them and squeal and smooch them all over... 

lol, none taken my brother, just havin' a little fun with a serious point. Have  a good weekend.

You've only just begun on that front.  Trust me.  Be patient, loving and helpful but mostly, know when to back away slowly without making any loud noises. 

And all the people who can't accept anything outside of their little constrictive box can just go f__k themselves. 

Cheers to you and your finance.... er, I mean fiancée!

Tom

I have seen different responses, depending on where you live.  I am an asian grew up in Asia. 

Case 1.  Cousin came to college in the U.S., married a white guy and lived in MA.  No problem.

Case 2.  Another cousin, still living in Asia, married a German guy.  No problem either. 

Case 3.  A male friend of mine who went to college in LA (the southern state, not the city in CA), courted and eventually married a white southern girl.  When they were dating, white guys would threaten/fight asian guy, maknig comments about "who do you think you are dating one of our girls...."

Case 4.  Not really a case.  My bf (asian, grew up in same home town as I did) once mentioned his parents would have problem if he dated a black girl, but should be ok if he dated an American girl. Also know many asian parents trying to forbid their daughter dating american guys.  Seen too many family fights.   

Also an interesting observation.  There are way more white male/asian female couples than white female/asian male couples.  Asian male friends claim to be less willing to date female of other races. 

As my deep-southern boss has explained it to me, you, Russ, are not a redneck. You are a good old boy. Don't shoot the messenger, I'll give you JD's address.

And here is my take. I was married to a Black/Chinese/Brit mix Trinidadian, who looks black and identifies as West Indian first, black second. We lived in Rhode Island, Delaware and North Carolina. North Carolinians dealt with it best in terms of the fewest rude ignorant remarks and glares. My theory is that this is because there are more black people in the south and thus more daily interactions, though who knows?

And there are a fair number of people who respond to my son the way possum describes, which is fine for the most part, though I worry that the 'he's so beautiful' will go to his head. We praise his brains and kindness, etc, though yes, he is gorgeous and I do tell him so.

Once, in the Georgia part of the Appalachian trail, my then-boyfriend (Korean-American) and I were accosted by a cracker who told me I was quote, 'a traitor to my race'. *Deliverance theme song swells in the background*

Interestingly, the worse outright racism I've ever faced (I am white, though tan ) was from that boyfriend's mother, who was first generation Korean-American.  She wanted her only son to date a Korean girl, and only begrudgingly began to teach me the things she thought I needed to know to be worthy of her son. I was psyched, I learned to cook some damn good food.

I, for one, would never date an Oklahoman. Call me racist, a bigot or ignorant. I don't care. There are some things you just don't do.

Statist.

yes, in theory.  But it's a little naive to think that we could "outgrow" years of conditioning and ingrained pattersn of behavior so easily....