Advice on Women at the Gym

100 years from now, neither you nor her, nor anyone else on this earth will remember or even care if you asked her out or not.  So just do it man!  If she says "yes" then great.  If the answer is "no" then move on and try the french fry girl instead.

Something about Wayne Gretzky saying you always miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

I'd go for it!

Looks like the ladies don't care!

1. Tyrant-your spelling is horrible in the above post!

2. I say go for it. I'd be flattered if a good looking guy (are you good looking?) hit on me at the gym. I agree with the above female poster, don't do it in the middle of her 'workout' or whatever she is doing there. It seems she wants to be at the meat market to me, anyway, I think approaching her as she is finishing or is about to leave is a great idea. Can you time it so you walk out together?

Good luck.

As a chick my take is this:

1) Dont interupt my workout (mid set/rest) but feel free to smile if you catch my eye it will make my day!

2) Feel free to talk to me/be friendly if Im finished, filling up my water etc

Oh and being asked out is a huge compliment!!!! So I think at the end of the day this will be one happy girl - even if she says no!

Amanda and Courtney, I completely agree. I look HORRIBLE at the gym. Too big shirt, race shirt, etc. messed up hair.

If she's looking as good as you say she won't mind.

The Gretzky quote was the first thing that came to my mind.

"What if" is not the game you are on this planet to play. 

See, I can chime in here easily because I don't have that problem.  I'm so ugly, that at the gym the water cooler looks like a hot date, and my face was used for the mold to make gorilla cookies.

On my best day, no one is going to mistake me for being anything other than a good example of what women want to avoid.  Fortunately my wife's vision is somewhat less than stellar, so I have that going for me.  I think I look OK underwater.

Hey Turqy quit with being such a perv. Go to the gym and work out and if you need a date then call an escort service or hang out in smoke filled bars until they turn on the ugly lights and see if you get lucky. Dude do you hit on women in church? Same with the gym. Say you get lucky...fine. But what if it goes bad...then somebody's out of a place to work out. Come on, start thinkin with the big head. (tic)

Oh yea, and one more damn thing, how do you know she's showing out for the guys?

I think the real question is WWJD (What Would Janelle Do)?

My guess is that she's putting on the glam for someone specific at the gym......pay attention to who else is also there when she is. And whatever you do, don't offer to show her how the weights work or tell her she's doing it wrong.  I think a nice thing to say would include something that brings attention to how she's the best dressed girl at the gym.  That shows you noticed her appearance.......important to her. 

 Do it with a big smile, some good eye contact and a ton of confidence.  And then give her space.......don't pay her too much attention, give her time to check you out.  

Uh, so that was wrong?  note to self.

 Turqy - wouldnt a subtle smile or eye contact give you an indication if you should be more aggressive? 

Hijack warning:  So I have a related question ladies.  I'm a very happily married man who feels the earth move every time my wife walks into the room, but I do appreciate a woman who works out hard to have a great body.  I occassionally have thought about saying something at the gym (to a woman) along the lines of, "Listen, I'm not hitting on you I just wanted to compliment you because you work out very hard and I think you look great."  Something along those lines.  I know how much better I feel when people I know tell me I look better since I've lost weight, etc. and  how good I feel if I notice a girl taking a second look at me (happens about once a decade). 

Would you ladies take that as a stalker comment, a veiled come-on, or just an honest compliment meant to brighten your day a little?