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2006-02-06 9:54 AM

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Subject: Violence and abuse

You know, I can be as fun loving and easygoing a guy as you’ll ever find.  I like to live my life without making waves.  However, there is something that just keeps driving me nuts.  It just absolutely sends me off the deep end.  When this subject comes up just keep all sharp objects, objects in general, away from me.

 

What I’m talking about is violence and sexual abuse against women and children by men.  Men, ha!, only in the most generic sense of the word.  What type of coward gets his rocks off by knocking around a woman?  And what type of monster treats kids like that?  There just seems to be so much of it lately.  For the guilty, there is no punishment swift or severe enough.  I’ve recently had an employee go through a situation like this with a close family member and the law does not seem to do much to protect women.  The woman is exhausting all the possible legal channels to get this pathetic wretch out of her life but the bottom line is he’s free and walking around after sending her to the hospital and could turn up at her house anytime.  Sure, he’d be in violation of the restraining order and would be arrested again but why is he walking around?  (I know the legal answer, it’s rhetorical.)  Why should she have to live her life in fear?  I’m not claiming that I have the answers, just that the system is failing to provide her any.  For you police officers and former p.o.’s out there who feel the same way, it must be very frustrating to have to deal with these situations with both arms tied behind your backs.  I don’t think I have the self control to be able to handle that situation.  Don’t even get me started on child abusers.  Just…..don’t….

 

I certainly hope that when I die I go to heaven.  However, allowing for the fact that it may be equally likely I end up in hell, go I there to spend eternity with these criminals twill be time well spent.  There will I see them suffer.

 

(This is what happens when I don’t get my long run in on Sunday)

Thank you for listening, I will now attempt to go back to hanging loose.

2006-02-06 9:47 PM
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Well said - I have personal experience with some of the stuff you mentioned. Heartache, insecurity, fear, memories, nightmares, low self-esteem...these will follow a victim for the rest of their life. I don't understand how someone can do this.
2006-02-06 11:20 PM
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John, I really dont get it either... The world needs a few more retrosexual men to help deal with this problem!

2006-02-06 11:33 PM
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Child molestors get away with it for years then get a slap on the wrist. All those lives wrecked. That really burns me up. I put them and women beaters in the same catagory.
2006-02-07 1:30 AM
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awareness helps!!! People that do something about it, speak out, let it be known that it is not something that is accepted. Sometimes having someone to turn to makes a big difference. Someone who wont accept the fact you fell down the stairs again, or tripped during a training run.

Its not right.... continue to get mad about it!!'

Jamie

2006-02-07 4:54 AM
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Yes. Far too much of it, and far too little attention paid to it.

And a large number of people suffering from these problems don't tell or get help because they are ashamed to have picked such a bastard, and also because of the knowledge that it is not likely to help and may actually endanger them more. Statistically, a woman is most likely to get killed right after she leaves her abuser.

The more people who talk about it, the better. Lift the stigma and put pressure on politicians to stiffen the penalties for abusers.



2006-02-07 7:55 AM
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When I was 20 I spent a night in jail for beating the poo out of a guy my age for trying to force himself on my sister who at the time was 15.  I was in a holding cell with about 15 other guys when one of them asked me what I was being charged with.  I replied assualt--later changed to simple battery.  He asked if I beat up my girlfriend, and in disghust I replied, No, I would never hit a woman, that's pathetic.  I asked him what he was being charged with and he said simple battery.  Turns out he beat up his girlfriend.  The akward situation became even more akward when I found out that at least half of the people in the cell who all heard what I had said were in there for domestic abuse.  Most of the others were DUIs.  As tough as I felt for kicking the crap out of the guy for what he did to my sister I was pretty scared being in the cell with that many people who knew how I felt about their actions.  It gets better.  There were two guys in there for drug (crack) charges that looked pretty damn tough--Cedric and I'm not kidding about this, Nappy Knot Dog (Nappy and Knot may be hyphenated I didn't ask).  They shared the same opinions about domestic abuse that I did and we bonded over them, vocally, so every one could hear.  Nappy Knot Dog even refered to me as playboy.  I felt so cool that I even listened to hip hop the few days.    
2006-02-07 8:07 AM
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Thanks for the responses and stories everyone.  After about five hours yesterday and 50 views with no posts I thought maybe I got a little too intense about this.  Glad to know there are others out there who feel the same way. 

2006-02-07 8:24 AM
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....."There was outrage Wednesday when a Vermont judge handed out a 60-day jail sentence to a man who raped a little girl many,many times over a four-year span starting when she was seven.

The judge said he no longer believes in punishment and is more concerned about rehabilitation.

Prosecutors argued that confessed child-rapist Mark Hulett, 34, of Williston deserved at least eight years behind bars for repeatedly raping a littler girl countless times starting when she was seven.".......

...."But Judge Edward Cashman disagreed explaining that he no longer believes that punishment works.

"The one message I want to get through is that anger doesn't solve anything. It just corrodes your soul," said Judge Edward Cashman speaking to a packed Burlington courtroom. Most of the on-lookers were related to a young girl who was repeatedly raped by Mark Hulett who was in court to be sentenced.

The sex abuse started when the girl was seven and ended when she was ten. Prosecutors were seeking a sentence of eight to twenty years in prison, in part, as punishment...".....

I wonder how the judge would feel if it was his daughter?  And what about the victim?    I think the rapist did get a longer sentence later in the month.



Edited by BellinghamSpence 2006-02-07 8:26 AM
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